and she uses this for an excuse for everything! she won't do anything for herself she whinges all the time and expects people to wait in her its absolutely pathetic! shes been pregnant before and was exactly the same she won't bend over to pick something up won't carry anything thats not light as a feather.i've been pregnant too and its not an excuse to act like a total invalid! she is becoming a real pain in the ****! to the point where i just want to slap her and tell her to wake up! am i being too harsh
2006-09-30 18:48:21 · 20 answers · asked by poptrash 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My ex acted the same way for two pregnancies and beyond.Some people just go through life being helpless and weak.
2006-09-30 19:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by hott.dawg™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it weren't considered attempted murder to hit a pregnant woman, I'd encourage you to smack her. I don't think you're being too harsh at all. :) I'm 37 weeks pregnant and I have a 14 month old who needs picked up and carried all the time, i have a 7 year old who leaves toys around the house where her little sister can get at them so i have to pick them up right away. My boyfriend works long hours so the things that he would normally do for me such as heavy lifting and stuff generally gets done by me just so it does indeed get done. They say that if something weighs over 30 lbs don't lift it. I lift anything under 40 because that's something I'm used to anyhow. have a talk with her and tell her you think she's being a bit lazy and that she could do more things. If she continues on this way she'll get really overweight and won't have the strength to go through labor and delivery.
2006-10-01 09:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, maybe not. Some people take pregnancy great and others take it like a bad flu. She might not be giving the full story, just using being pregnant as a cover-all for how bad she's feeling. On the other hand, she could really be one of those women that jumps at any chance to do nothing.
If it really bothers you, limit the time you spend near her. Firmly, but gently, remind her that you're a friend, not a tool. Also, you can take delight in the fact that newborns are far from fun, no matter how cute, lovable, etc.
2006-10-01 02:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by erythisis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe. I spent the first 3 months with the first one barfing constantly,the first 4 months with the second one barfing,and the first 4 and a half months with the third one barfing ( thank God and Trojans I didn't have a forth one.) So ,just maybe she isn't not taking care of anything because she CAN'T rather than WON'T , I don't know anymore than what you've written,but maybe you need to push your feelings aside and give her the old eyeball test- dose she look like she is feeling ok? Because she might just not be up to doing anything, spoken as one who had to be kept at the hospital for a week to stop the barfing.
2006-10-01 02:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by blondecarpenter@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not disabled, it is a wonder the nurses haven't got hold of her and throttled her. Sure we get tired when pregnant but not incapable. Far out most people hardly even show at that stage. I would point blank tell her she is just lazy. If she were in different circumstances (on a farm or something) she would still have to work right till the birth and beyond.
2006-10-01 02:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not. Some women need the attention and this is the only way they get it. I know in the end of my pregnancies I was a total witch and hated doing stuff because I was in pain. That never kept me from doing things for myself. What would she do if nobody was there to do anything for her? She needs to stop being lazy and take care of things on her own.
2006-10-01 01:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by Sexy Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no not really, if she has had one and no complications there is no excuses. i have a friend who is 5mths now, and lost a child 2yrs ago due to complications for being under active. she has learnt her lesson and now does everything except lifting heavy stuff and running. the female body is built to allow us to do what is needed daily, she has had one you said, well she should stop and think of all the things a mum must do before deciding to have any more because we can't all afford babysitters to take care of them each time. tell her that nature made her body to cope with alot and that alittle exercise ie; walking, bending etc actually allows the baby to move more freely.
2006-10-01 08:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by niknik74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 4 months pregnant and am relying on ppl to help me alot because i have been so ill with this 1 ( baby number 5 ) but i still try to pull my weight. i will not lift anything heavy but i will try to do as much as i can and on the days i feel my worst i ask for help.
maybe you should have a word to your friend and explain that you are willing to help as much as you can however she does need to try and carry on as normal after all pregnancy isn't an illness its a normal everyday thing that most woman deal with.
all the best hunni i wouldn't wanna be in Ur shoes ATM!!!!
2006-10-01 07:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by mum_2_many 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her be, she's pregnant she deserves to get waited on....well at least by her husband. If you dont feel like waiting on her then dont, your not required to. Just take a deep breath and remeber your not the one that has to be with her 24/7 so it's really not that bad
2006-10-01 01:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know about this one. Both of my pregnancies were extremely hard on me and it really irks me that some people think that all pregnancies are the same and are easy.
AND In my family pregnanies are a time for that person, its like their special time. I loved it and I knew it would be over.
2006-10-01 01:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋