we've been together for 7 years lived together for 5 and we're each other's firsts. He says he's waiting for the right moment to ask me to marry him, but some people tell me to dump him, I've putin a lot of trainning time. He wants kids i don't we'll copmrimse by the time it matters. ahh should i do anything? give an ultimatum or be more patient?
2006-09-30 18:43:45 · 12 answers · asked by Rebcca L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe he will purpose or not and if hes not doing it after 7 years then you have to decide if you wnat to stay with him UNmarried or leave and find someone to start a family. And if you stay with him unmarried then are you going to look back and wish you had gotten married to someone and started a family?
2006-09-30 19:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient , me and my wife was together for 22 years before we gat married we grew up together as a couple and we are still going strong we know evering thing about eachother we can be ridng in the van and a old song will be playing and we will both start doing the dane that was out with that song or we would look at eachother and stat smileing and sometimes we may start argueing but by the time we get home we are back to normal.
what im trying to say after while you be to gether so long it will feel like you are married if you love this guy be with him marrige aint nothing but a peace of paper
she was 14 and i was 16 the good
2006-10-01 02:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by spades c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were each other's firsts? Neither of you should get married. You haven't lived life yet. How are you supposed to know what you want in a mate when you've only had one? If you do break up DO NOT jump into another relationship. Be alone for a while. Learn about yourself. If you marry this guy it will either be shortlived or he will spent the duration of your marriage with a bunch of 'what if's in his head and may well resent you for keeping him from playing the field and experience other people.
2006-10-01 01:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by 101pupil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ultimatum. You're not getting any younger. What do you really want? Don't give him a free ride. He needs to take care of you and make a promise to you. It's rather selfish on his part. Try getting some counseling to see what he's waiting for. There never will be a right time if he keeps waiting. He's just kidding himself.
2006-10-01 01:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An ultimatum is foolishness.
If you like each other .. stay together.
Don't let some society standard force you into a a step program for being together.
2006-10-01 01:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a lot of other issues to resolve before you say "I do". Something like having or not having kids can really play havoc on a marriage and I'm sure there's a lot more to this relationship than you're telling. Figure out what's truly important to you out of life and a relationship and encourage your boyfriend to do the same. Then make a decision if you really want enough of the same things out of it all to make the relationship work.
Good luck.
2006-10-01 01:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's had five years of free sex and is banking on at least another five years before he dumps you. Charge him $100 for each lay from here on out.
For all you men and women, boys and girls reading this question and my answer, there is NO such thing as a compromise when one wants kids and the other doesn't. Therefore you MUST dump him and move on.
2006-10-01 01:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ultimatum then dump his ***. he is using u until he upgrades by that time youll be 40 and he will will be with an 18 yr old and ask her to marry.
2006-10-01 01:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my parents were together for 15 years before they got married. some people thought they weren't even gonna have children. ask him how he feels about children. if he wants them than that should be enough for him to get down on that knee.
2006-10-01 01:48:07 · answer #9 · answered by meltedplasticbag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lrn2Grammar
2006-10-01 01:47:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋