Please don't say anything that you will get deleted by yahoo for...
I have every confidence that even if you do not share my opinion that you can at least debate reasonably.
2006-09-30 17:53:05 · 28 answers · asked by rabble rouser 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Even Bush admitted to being stumped on this one... LOL
2006-09-30 17:54:16 · update #1
wow - this one was less popular than I hoped (or maybe feared)
2006-09-30 18:00:28 · update #2
Rabble_Rouser:
I don't know how they are able to assume this. It's illogical and irrational at best. I think it's because it threatens their nice neat little package they've put the world into. As soon as anyone blows that idea up, they get defencive and start viscious lies to make themselves feel better.
DesignEx:
The falicy argument of "if everyone turned gay" is typical "red herring" that means absolutely nothing. The likelihood of "everyone" turning gay is about as likely as humans excreting gold from their noses.
wrench'n away:
You went wrong at the word "go."
It's completely false that ALL human behavior is a matter of choice. You don't get to choose which hand you are oriented to use. You don't get to choose what flavors you like or dislike.
You don't get to choose your IQ or your parents.
OR YOUR SEXUALITY!
The only part of your sexuality you get to CHOOSE is what to do with it. It doesn't change the fact that your natural sexuality is always the same, only your actions change.
Morrelle:
This catagory has been here for quite some time. Glad you could catch up!
Also, did you realize your user name is the same as the name of an ugly fungus that looks like an inside-out penis?
Annmaree:
that's the other "assumption" about homosexuality that annoys me. Heteros who think that homosexual relationships are ONLY about sex.
It's that assumption that we don't have emotions, that we can't LOVE, that we don't respect our partners, that gets under my skin.
Are Hetero relationship ONLY about sex? Do you have no feelings about your partners? Do you not care about, worry about, rejoyce with, comfort each other?
Homosexual relationships are exactly the same emotionally as heterosexual relationships. It's a RELATIONSHIP, not a play thing!
We want a witness to our lives, a witness for our lives. We want to be a witness to and for another's life. To share all those moments that are wonderful as well as ugly. To have someone who will be honest with us, to be loyal to us, to comfort us and who we can comfort. Someone to share our joys as well as our pain.
A PARTNER, in all that it implies!
2006-09-30 20:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they feel the "need" to, because they're misinformed, because anyone who is different than they, is "suspect." So often, I've observed a very strange attitude in heterosexual men about gays. For some reason, they feel threatened. I could speculate on that for awhile, but I won't. Some of it is fairly obvious. My very best men friends have been gay; in general, they are sensitive, creative, intelligent, nurturing & very caring.
The stereotype of women? The absurdity of thinking--for example--a gay scout leader will/can make little boys gay--any more than a gay would convert a heterosexual to homosexuality! The idea that, in military service, if a guy gets into a shower with a gay man, the gay man will "come on" to him. What pomposity! Gays & lesibians AREN'T ANY DIFFERENT than anyone else, except in their preference for the same sex. So what? I also find it fascinating that the longest lasting partnerships I've ever known, have been lesbian/lesbian, gay/gay! Perhaps there's a lesson to learn here, that's been long overlooked by the convoluted obsession, the images some peole have, of homosexuality. I recently read something about some research that is leading to a factor in one's DNA--wow--wouldn't that put a dent in the "choice" thing? Just let people BE, for goodness sake! &--I don't mean to offend anyone, but religion plays a very large part, (as I'm sure you know), in this tragic rejection of those we don't truly know, & whose life styles are really none of our business. I certainly hope that I can "debate" reasonably, or I might as well flush myself down the loo. I hope you get some sensible answers, but I wouldn't count on it!
2006-09-30 18:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is an easy one to answer. Think about when you walk into the mall, or a store, or wherever; and you see that totally hot person. You think that person is totally hot and you really want to be with that person right? Well, why don't you feel that way about every woman (if you are a guy), or every guy (if you are a woman)?
If you are a woman and you are hetrosexual, then are you attracted to every man you see at the mall? I mean even the obese ones, the dirty ones, the old ones, the "hells angels" looking ones?
If you are a guy are you attracted to every woman you see? All the old ones, the fat ones, the homeless ones, etc.?
No, of course you aren't; that is because your brain is wired to a specific type of person that you are attracted to. Did you just one day say, "Oh, I like that type of person and that is the only type of person I like"? No of course not! It is something that developed over time through nature and nuture.
Well, the same goes for GLBT people.
2006-09-30 18:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by guy_in_frisco 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because it's the easy answer. 99.9% of people have a sexuality. So it's common to most people. However some people's are different. Thing is, since they have a sexuality, they feel they are experts on it and make judgements. (I have a comp sci friend, but I know nothing about computers, so I don't make statements about it) And since everyone feels their "way of thinking" is right, they make others' wrong. Cause it's easier to say it's a choice instead of the possibility it's deeper, thus opening the possibility of it being something out of their control. People like having a choice, they don't like thinking things are out of their control.
And of course, some of 'em are bigots.
2006-10-01 04:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Micah S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we may have a choice of the music we like we might have a choice of what art we like but we still go by instinct homosexuality is an instinct to people
we eat things because we know we have to even if nobody tells us to if we eat to much then maybe that is the choice
we are born wanting to mate but we chose what to mate with
but we are also born to pleasure ones self
and if pleasure is love then we do what we need to
love has no choice you either do or don't love someone
by being gay we know our own love
it may be for the same sex
that is why we all seem to be confused
when we learn how to feel sexually
2006-09-30 18:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by Zara3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't. I think it's ridiculous to say we "chose" to be hetero, homo or bi. You can't control who you're sexually attracted to, you just are. I wish more people would understand this. When I was a girl I started having sexual feelings around the age of 13. I was attracted to boys and men. I didn't consciencely chose this, it was just how I reacted. It's the same exact thing with gay people. Any logical, intelligent person would realize that nobody would "chose" to be gay with all the flack they get. It's the same thing with foods. You don't "chose" to like a certain food. You either like it or you don't.
2006-09-30 22:02:31 · answer #6 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good question - don't judge my lifestyle until you have lived my life. Don't attempt to decide my life as a choice until you live inside me and feel my feelings. Why in the world would someone choose to live a life that goes against the majority of our society? Why would someone choose to live a life where they are ridiculed, lose jobs, denied housing, get beaten, killed, bashed? Yeah, it's great fun! Perhaps, they SHOULD try our lifestyle .....
2006-10-01 03:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by justme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could not agree with you more, I am sick and tired of being told I "chose" this way of life. I have always loved women and never felt love for a man, I know I was born this way. It also runs in my family I just recently found out. Peace.
2006-10-01 04:52:12 · answer #8 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it been said here already, gives them someone to pick on and put down, some even do it that are gay, or bi to protect themselves and put up a front. Just makes them think better of themselves when its not accepted by society.
2006-10-01 05:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by nicenvt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They assume this through hearing and reading many false reports about gays that are published by heteros who want some second of fame, so that they can somehow branch out and look smart.
2006-09-30 19:16:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋