Well we have been divorced for 5 yrs and things have been smooth because of me keeping my mouth shut for the kids sake. He didnt pay child support for 3 yrs, didnt carry medical insurance per the divorce decree, but i didnt push it cuz he was bipolar and a little wacky at the time, so when he did get help i put those things behind me and went on. but now his new wife of 3 yrs asked me to pick up and drop off the kids 3 wks ago cuz they couldnt and i did so with the agreement the next time she would do the same. well, the weekend came and when i told her i would be at my moms and to pick the kids up there she went balistic on the phone saying it wasnt her responsibility. so my ex called and said since he pays child support thats my job. im fed up and think i need to make them pick up and drop off for awhile to prove to them i dont have to do it but i choose to, to make it fair for both of us. I just want to know if its legal. my divorce decree just states the weekends. not who travels
2006-09-30 17:50:13 · 7 answers · asked by humorme! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take it from someone that knows all about this crap,please call your lawyer and ask him why it wasnt put in your divorce decree about a meeting place and such,with all the details,tell him the problem,and ask him what you can do without having to go back to court.From what we have with my husbands ex is that since she isnt custodial parent,she is to do the picking up and dropping off.When theres been a dispute,weve had to meet halfway at a police station or a designated place.God I hope everything goes better for you.I know what kind of stress this causes.
2006-09-30 18:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by luv2bawifenmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The courts cant force the non-custodial parent to be a father and visit the kids.. so as long as the non-custodial parent pays what is owed to the children, thats about as far as the court will go to "make " a custodial father do anything.. on that alone.. NO its not your responsibility to drop off or pick up the kids.. now if u want to be civil.. one picks up the other drops off .. but HE is Ultimately responsible for picking the kids up and bringing the kids home.. anything u do there after is out of the kindness of your heart and thats where it ends.. but u cant force him to take the kids on his weekends if he doesnt want to.. so trying to drop them off if he didnt want them would be a waste of your time.. any court will tell u its ultimately his responsibility for the pick ups and drop offs..
2006-10-01 01:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in a better position legally, wich is really important I think when your patient like you have been that happens, but it sounds like they need to be reminded or informed that you hold all of the cards. I would make a threat to them vebally that they need to be fair or you will be more unfair and involve the justice system, doesnt mean you have to, but usually when your quiet and passive threats do go far, and then be ready for that if they dont listen. you dont need to be his doormat any more and deffinately not hers. Im all about staying quiet for the kids sake thats how I know this works.
2006-10-01 01:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By law you have to meet each other half way. It's your job to bring the children to where they meet and he has to bring them back to the same spot. LIke for example I live upstate he lives in downstate. He would come pick her up and i would have to go down and bring her back.
If you two can come to some sort of an agreement then its okay but if not then normally the courts do that.
right now we do not do that. He comes up here i pick him up and drop him off at the hotel and drive them to whereever they have to do. I do it for my daughter's sake not for his benefit. If i happen to be downstate he just picks her up from where istay and have her back by 745pm sharp. If he goes over then he is at fault. I hope that helps. Ex's can be a real painin the butt but hang in there for the children okay.
2006-10-01 00:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well legal if it does not say who picks them up then let him take you back to court and explain that you have been dropping and picking up and you did it to me nice. I think that it is fair that one picks up and the other drops off.
2006-10-01 00:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the non-custodial parent picks up and then you go and pick them up when it's time for them to come home.
2006-10-01 01:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by jazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normally one parent drops off the other takes the child home
2006-10-01 00:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by robert899295 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋