because of it, my boyfriend doesn't love or accept me fully? i really want to work on the anxiety, but i'm not at the best place to get help for it (college), and it will probably be expensive...and sometimes it's like my boyfriend is totally into me, but other times it's like he really doesn't care and just cares about his boys. what should i do? only serious answers!
2006-09-30 17:47:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I had that when I was younger, I was in middle school actually. I tried lots of things, nothing worked, finally I decided to start homeschooling and I just focused insanly on my violin playing. I became a much much much better violinist (which helped me to where I am today) and I think it got rid of the social anxiety. For you, I would suggest seeing a doctor, he would be able to perscribe a med, it should work for you. Try not to think too much about it, I know how frustrating it is. Youll be fine :)
2006-09-30 17:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend doesn't or accept you fully because of your social anxiety, than you may need a new boyfriend.
I an surprised that you say college is not the best place to get help, I would think there are more counselers there than almost anywhere.
They are no cheaper out here in the real world.
Best of luck to you in dealing with your problems.
2006-09-30 17:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking two separate questions sweetie. The first is about a relationship problem, which, by the way you would have whether you had social anxiety issues or not. If the guy doesn't love you fully, he just isn't good enough for you. Second, in college there is almost always a counseling center that is free. Please check it out! You need to take care of yourself. You may also find that your boyfriend is adding to the anxiety. Good luck to you and God Bless.
2006-09-30 17:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Identify the source of your anxiety problem first. Are you afraid of rejection or is it some other adolescent defense mechanism. Don't be in denial, it is an adolescent problem that you should be past by now. If you keep it in the realistic perspective it will help you to overcome, even if it feels demeaning to say that to yourself. If you make the problem a giant, it will be a giant, if you think like it's a mouse, it will be a mouse. I'd rather be facing a mouse personally. So, once you've identified the problem and kept in mind that it's going to be easy for you to overcome, you identify possibly solutions. (IE. I'm afraid that someone will criticize me, so I'm going to realise that these people I talk to are no better than me despite whatever adolescent misconception I've had in the past.) Not that the example fits your scenario, I don't know if it does, but it's just an example. Take whatever it is that's holding you back and remember that it's a misconception from the past. Don't be intimidated by people being around, none of them are better than you! You are a great person and you have a lot to offer, you should know this because you've been with yourself for so long now! There's something going on in that mind that the world is dying to know about! Be the confident, positive person that you are! Life is too good to live it for fear of something! I promise you, that if you go at people with a positive attitude, keep a smile on your face and are optimistic about what they'll say, you will be happier than you've ever been in your life! You want to know why, because you choose to be! There will be people that you can't get along with, not because of you, but because they have some adolescent defense mechanism built up that they feel is necessary to feel good about themselves! Don't be dragged down! Your are an amazing person and have every right to live life to the fullest without fear! Be happy and positive because your alternative is to be upset and negative! God Bless.
2006-09-30 17:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by David M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so happy, it was only a 35 minute drive ( 70 minutes total) but absolutely no sign of anxiety or panic i shopped till I dropped - brilliant! I will now go for the next stage DUAL CARRIAGE way, probably at the weekend, with my husband accompanying me first then the solo drive, if successful the final stage of driving on motorway
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2016-05-17 03:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend not fully accept you , some time close you and sometime away from you , I think there must have some problems between you and your BF , if you want go to the work not need to care of him so much, Because you are adult , sometime you need to have your own decision by yourself, and don’t let him make all decisions for you.
2006-09-30 18:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by apple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
college should be the best place to get help of your problem look for a social group to join and i would ask myself if want a boyfriend who has a problem with my social anxiety because that don't help the way you feel
2006-09-30 17:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by krazy4_coke2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger I had anxiety attacks but didn't realize what they were at the time... they were unbareable... as I got older I came to recongnize them and begin to now what situations seemed to trigger them more than others... I also know low self-esteem tends to play a big part in it... I now take a medication to calm the anx. and self-esteem, the right guy can make a difference... first I think finding someone more supportive... he sounds like a jerk... Good Luck!!!
2006-09-30 17:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey there are many people that go through that.I went through it many years. Then I got meds for it,. now I have no problems at all. You can do the same. God Bless. Go see your doctor and get some help. you don't need to suffer with it alone. Hugs.
2006-09-30 17:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him for more supportcuz anxiety is hard to deal with. Explain that whhat he's doing isn't gonna help you with your anxiety
2006-09-30 17:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋