There is this person that I really care alot about, but I have tried everything to gain her trust, I understand that she have been through some tough times in her life, and we have talked about that, but she still don't or won't even give me a chance to prove to her that all men are not alike. Any suggestion?
2006-09-30 17:39:19 · 12 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i agree with quite a few answers already posted. when your trying to prove yourself she may take it as agressive and repetative. she seems as though she's quite stubborn and gaurded (since you've tried everything.). it takes more time to break down the walls than just a couple months (or however long). it could take years, months, days whatever. if you want to stick around to find out, go for it. if you don't have the patience to stick around, then cut your ties now. consider yourself lucky, in that case, that you didn't get more attached. she sounds like the type who needs to know that you are more of a permanent fixture in her life. be the strong silent type, if you have to be a bit in the background for awhile do that. she probably needs you to be there, but not too pushy about your feelings. (good rule of thumb, if you have to apologize right away or ask if your being pushy, you probably are wether she tells you or not)...i get the impression she isn't ready to jump into any sort of relationship other than a friend. trust is earned and (for me) actions speak louder than words. that's not saying you have to go half way around the world for her, but it's the little things, an email to tell her a cute joke, a card to say i'm thinking of you, maybe reading her favorite book so you can talk about it (share an interest type thing)....figure it out ask her what her favorite things are and see if you share anything like that to enjoy together or talk about. i'm sure she'd try to share your interests...
2006-10-01 02:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be her freind. Don't even think about sex around her. Be her buddy. When we are feeling weak we need buddies not lovers. If you are meant to be together than being friends with her is the only way to gain her trust. The best way to prove you are not like other guys...is to be different than the rest. Don't try to kiss her or get her into your arms. Get her to laugh and relax. Leave the whole thing in her court. Just stay cool and gallant...a gentle man.
2006-09-30 17:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by mintavia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...well, I never met this kind of girl before, but I know this kind of people exist. I would emphasize my honesty. She may not believe you at the beginning, so you must prove this to her through every little detail. Don't ever lie to her. Do things seriously. Keep emphasizing that you are honest and how much you dislike lying and liers. Share all your feelings and thoughts. Tell her that you have nothing to hide from her, etc. If that doesn't work then...move on.
2006-09-30 17:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by Silent Water 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person like this just simply requires patience and time. If YOU are patient, and give her time to see that you are really different than the 'others', she will come around. Trust me. Keep doing what you are doing, she'll notice, eventually.
2006-09-30 17:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
attempt speaking to her in individual and in an exceptionally trustworthy way. in case you're trustworthy, I wager she will grant you a smash. you're actually not a terrible individual for doing a dooby. in simple terms comprehend that she would have a various address this. I mean, she is in simple terms anxious approximately her youngster, it is all. in simple terms communicate together with her and tell her which you're sorry and which you is in simple terms not doing marijuana together with her youngster and which you will in all likelihood shop removed from it on your individual risk-free practices too. i think of in case you are trying this she would pay attention to you.
2016-10-15 09:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to "prove yourself," to her. If you are sincere, she will eventually see that you mean her no harm. Stop talking about it. Let everything move along at its on pace. If you continue to talk to her, she will distance herself from you.
Try to "be there," if she needs you. Let her lead - not you.
She will never give you a chance if you keep trying to "prove yourself." Chill out, relax, everything will evolve in time. Patience, my dear, patience.
2006-09-30 17:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey u say tht she has gone through many tuf times.....means she has experienced many tuf times in her life...wht i think is tht...u shudnt do it now....let her leave her alone....i think u shud just not keep gaining her trust...dis will create more distractions.....she'll move away from u slowly......n den wht?
Ur frendship will b broken up....give her sum time to understand wht u want frm her......u do care 4 her just show tht inner feeling to her.......N all will b fine.just dont worry!
2006-09-30 18:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by Neha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something fun with her. The more fun she has with you, the more she loosens up. That's good for you. You want her to associate more good things with you.
You are very sweet to try to crack her shell. So many people just walk away when it's a little more difficult than they thought it would be....
2006-09-30 17:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay i know what thats like my frriend is always like you don't trust me! b/c i won't tell her some stuff your friend just needs time to see your true colors then eventually she'll come around
2006-09-30 17:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by Momo70707 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about your hopes, dreams & the most important needs you have... & then see if she will talk about her hopes, dreams & most important needs.
If she does share them with you, do your best to fulfill them... then she may feel/believe she can trust you.
2006-09-30 17:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋