My daughter stole food from a gas station while we were there, the cashier stopped us over it but we argued with him because we thought it wasn't possible. In the car we found out she really did have some gum. Her dad was really angry and returned it to the cashier. At home he made her undress everything and gave her a bare bottom spank. But she's in 7th grade, and we never punished her like that when she was younger, and now she's sulking around the house weeks later and doesn't want to talk to us. I'd like to talk about what happened but it seems akward.
I'm not sure what to think, because shoplifting is not something we want her to start, but I think if it was me I'd be weirded out.
2006-09-30 17:15:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
right but Blackhearted, you probably didn't shoplift anything. So you'd have a right to be mad.
2006-09-30 17:21:32 · update #1
Undressing was part of the punishment as he sees it
2006-09-30 17:28:29 · update #2
I do not agree with her having her clothes off at all. I'd have done some very serious grounding, but I guess that ship's already sailed.
She got the message that this is so outrageous, that it warranted a very strong and unusual punishment. Her father should apologize for treating her like a small child by making her bare herself, but even a small child should never be naked for a spanking.
What's done is done, but if, (God forbid) it ever happens again, at least let her keep her clothes on, for crying out loud. She's a little old for her dad (or anyone) to see her naked, don't you think? She needs her dignity!
And as a word to the wise, I would keep a VERY careful, open eye on your husband's relationship with your daughter.
Some men may be harmless around youngsters, but not so safe during the later years. Sometimes incest starts in the teenage years. (it happened to a friend of mine and her sister) I know you don't want to believe it's possible of this man that you love, but you don't want to be stupid either.
Talk to your daughter about cases of incest that you see on TV or hear about. Watch a movie that involves it. Start a discussion about why the victims should not have been afraid to tell their mothers! Talk about how sorry any mother would be to hear too late. But be prepared for the worst to happen and your daughter to confide in you.
I hope nothing else has ever happened between them, but like I said, you DON'T want to be stupid!
PROTECT YOUR CHILD!!! Don't let her be a victim!
2006-09-30 17:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat94670 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it anyway. And get used to it, she's a teenager, this should only be the first of many awkward conversations you will be having over the next 7-8 years.
But please stop acting like you did something wrong. You handled it the best way you knew how. If now it seems wierd, get together and tell her that you BOTH are sorry for how things turned out, but that you're NOT sorry for wanting to punish her somehow. No matter what, be sure that both you and your hubby are on the same page with it. You wouldn't want her to get the idea that she can play one off the other now. And then find a punishment that both you and your hubby can live with.
2006-09-30 17:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jen B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The punishment was a bit odd, since spanking doesn't work out with 7th grader/teenagers. After a long talk with her about what she did is totally not acceptable, I think being grounded or taking-away some of her privilege (like no cellphone, no TV, no Internet) is appropriate punishment than spanking.
2006-09-30 17:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn Treader 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOAH, you should be ashamed of yourselves. How traumatic and embarrassing for your daughter. I don't agree with corporal punishment anyway (violence breeds violence), but to make a girl (of her age) strip in front of her father just so he could spank her? Well, thats wrong on so many levels. You need to step up to the plate now, admit your wrong-doing and hopefully you and your kid will be able to move on. Otherwise you're gonna be in a whole heap of trouble as she reaches those tricky adolescent years (trust me, it'll get a lot worse!). Yes, she did wrong, but in these situations (and at her age), i think talking is the key. I mean do you even know why she did it? Was it just mischievious behaviour or was it greed (wanting something she couldn't have/afford)? Or was she seeking attention? Whatever the answer, you certainly should've bothered to find out her feelings about it before embarking on such a drastic (and cruel) punishment.
2006-09-30 17:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by pondlifepoo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
7th grade is a little old for that. And why did she have to be completely naked to get a spanking? did your husband suggest this punishment? If so, I would consider looking into something sexual between them, which would explain the sulking. Because she shouldn't still be upset if there was nothing 'hidden'
2006-09-30 17:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the punishment, but the method was bad.
if anyone was going to spank her (naked especially) it should have been you. i can understand her being upset! if my dad ever spanked me naked, i don't think i'd have spoken to him for a very long time!
i would definately talk to her, and let her know that it won't happen again but that you expect her not to ever take anything without paying for it again too.
you really should take a long hard look at your husband if he thinks undressing your daughter to spank her is an appropriate way to punish her!!!!!!
2006-09-30 17:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok. Shoplifting is a intense crime and little doubt she must be critically, yet morally, punished for it. you will desire to have grounded her, forbidden her to have gum, and extra away lots of her privileges. yet, having a dad strip his teenage daughter and spank her on her bare backside! it is a ways, way previous the shrink. it is unlawful and he technically dedicated a criminal offense via invading her privateness and via stripping her. As of now, you and your husband would desire to ask for forgiveness for what he did to her (no ask your self she became sulking lots). in spite of the undeniable fact that, your daughter isn't off the hook. She would desire to ask for forgiveness for shoplifting. Then, mutually, the three of you may desire to take a seat mutually and communicate a real looking punishment such because of the fact those I indexed above. stable luck fixing your subject, and clearly your daughter have been given the component to in no way shoplift lower back.
2016-10-18 07:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your daughter took it badly?? which kid in their right mind wouldn't? you two humiliated her....spank her naked? why?! and over freakin bubble gum? would not a talk or a firm slap to the back of the hand been enough? you need to talk to her, and own up to your stupidity and incompetence as parents. she will continue to shoplift amongst other behaviours if you continue to treat her this way!
2006-09-30 17:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don`t have to completely undress someone to spank them, and a seventh grader especially
2006-09-30 17:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u did what thats kinda mean :( im in 7th graded and id be very mad! actualy i probably woulda hit u father or not!
2006-09-30 17:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by BlackHearted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋