i had a dream last night that i was lying in my grandma's bed, and she was holding me close to her. she was touching me inappropriately, and i was begging her to stop. She was telling me that she'd disown me if i didn't let her do what she wanted. i told her i was telling anyway, and she continued to touch me. well, the next scene in my dream was that we were at the dinner table w/my aunt, and i told. i then ran to her bedroom, and she followed me. i told her that i couldn't believe she'd do such a thing. she told me she didn't know why i told, that my aunt had the same thing happen to her, and she (my aunt) was trying to recover, why did i worry her w/my problems? at this point i woke up. i was molested in real life by a family friend for 6 yrs, but my grandma has never touched me in a bad way. why would i dream she was doing this? what does this dream mean?
2006-09-30 16:28:45 · 5 answers · asked by kelleygaither2000 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, dreams are a very complicated thing, usualy when you have a problem with someone or something you tend to relate to it with something of equal or similar value, I am an amateur dream reader, and to my point of view it could be one of two things:
You're aunt represents the family friend you mentioned before, basicly someone you're family trusts. As odd as it may sound you're aunt may be the best representation of the molester, especialy if you've already gotten over it; that is because you're aunt is someone you're family still trusts and is therefore a valid representation. If what I said is so, the dream was probably about the possibility or the reality of you're molester being a former victim. Maybe you're just reflecting on that.
The Other posibility is that you're dream represents something more recent such as maybe someone you love only being interested in sex and its getting harder to keep a relationship. But I think this would be a tougher possibility.
2006-09-30 16:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by Joe P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children who have been molested often have feelings of betrayal and abandonment. Betrayal by the offender, and abandonment by the people who should have rescued them. It sounds like you're just processing through some of these emotions. Your grandmother has not molested you in real life, but your fear of betrayal leads you to be suspiscious of her at least on a sub-conscious level. The same goes for nobody helping you. You are merely seeing a manifestation of your fears of abandonment and betrayal that you may never have acknowledged or dealt with in your conscious mind. Do not be suspiscious of your grandmother unless she does something to warrant it, but do allow yourself to feel the emotions and fears that are trying so hard to come to the surface now. If you work through these issues you will not have these dreams anymore. You may find help through a local support group. There are unfortunately many, many people who have gone through simmilar traumas, and you may take some comfort from the aid of people who have been where you are. Good luck.
2006-09-30 23:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by awakeatdawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your past. If I were you I would try my best to forget all about it. If you Grandma has never done anything like this, don't let a dream taint how you feel about her.
2006-09-30 23:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's your mind's way of letting you try to deal with what happened to you by using your grandma..(somoene you trust and feel safe with)..as opposed to who really did this to you. The mind works in wonderful ways to help us deal with things. By feeling safe, it could be that you actually got to feel more..if even just abit..What happened to you is a horrible thing..and if you didn't get counseling for it, your mind will find ways to help release or haunt what has happen. Please heal yourself and get counseling.
2006-10-01 00:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had she(grandmother) ever looked at you in a wired eyes or at the day time you been thinking too much stuffs. Try to relax.
2006-09-30 23:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by doa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋