I didnt do it alone and i think he may want me to terminate What should I do we already have 3 kids . I did not get pregnant by myself it is just as much his fault as mine.
2006-09-30 16:12:23 · 14 answers · asked by Amanda G 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
What you sould not have even been having sex yet (6to8 weeks postpardum) I am a L&D nurse you need to see your OB ASAP, your body is low on basically everything and has not even begun to recuperate you will need to be put on vitamins monitered closely. Plus if you are nursing and you think you are preg. from a missed period that is normal you may not have one for up to a year if nursing, or even if you tried & gave up it may take a while for your body. Get a test & see your doc.
2006-09-30 16:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that he may be mad but you also have to look at it as that being his way of dealing with it for now. Just having a baby and then getting pregnant right off the bat is a big thing. Just give him sometime to come around and it will work out. However, don't have an abortion, that is not the answer. This time, I would just get my tubes tied and get him a vasectomy as well. That way you can stop that from happening again. Hope that everything works out for you!
2006-09-30 23:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't terminate! I know having 4 kids will be alot to handle, but everything happens for a reason. The baby that you may be carrying now didn't have a choice, and shouldn't be the one to suffer for your mistakes.....You would think in your husbands eyes after seeing his 3 other children and how precious they are he wouldn't even dream on terminated the one you may be having. I know he probably feels stress and don't know if the two of you can handle it, but you can! Yeah, and you are right, it took two to make the baby and by god it will take two to raise it. Wait until he cools down and tell him how you feel, if he loves you he wouldn't want you to do that and will respect what decision you make. Good luck, take care, and have the baby!
2006-09-30 23:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it was just meant to be. Your husband will cool off. I am pregnant right now with my third child. After this I am going to get my tubes tied because my husband is in the navy and is gone alot so it is mostly me taking care of the kids and I know it is a big responsibility. Does your husband help out alot with the kids? If he is then you can handle four. I am sure there are people out there that do it alone.
2006-09-30 23:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by shawnnajohnny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, it takes 2 to tango. Surely you can understand your husband's frustrations though. Three children with the possibility of one on the way ALREADY is going to tug at the purse strings quite a bit. Give him time to adjust to the idea of another baby (assuming you are pregnant). Hopefully his attitude will change. There's no sense in terminating the pregnancy just because you weren't expecting it. To me that's an irresponsible form of birth control. Best of luck with whatever happens, and congrats on your new daughter!
2006-09-30 23:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that perhaps you might want to call your doctor and set up an appointment for an exam. Your body isn't back to normal yet after only 4 weeks, let the doctor determine if your symptoms are due to another pregnancy or hormone levels changing due to the delivery of your baby. You both may be getting upset over something that isn't happening. Better to find out.
2006-09-30 23:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a time to be happy not be sad! You are bringing new life to the world. Sit down and talk to your husband and tell him your feelings and stress that you are not getting an abortion. After this one is born, and you both agree on not having anymore, maybe you shouldn't leave the hospital without some sort of birth control, be it a hysterectomy, vasectomy, or a supply of condoms.
Good luck, and congradulations!
2006-09-30 23:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by Shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have even been having sex yet. You aren't animals. Use a little control. But since you have already had sex, and might be pregnant again, then you need to just enjoy the newest addition to your family.
2006-09-30 23:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are not terminating anything. An unborn child should not be killed because some jerk (even if it is your husband) doesn't want the added responsibililty. He has a hand if he doesn't want more kids.
2006-09-30 23:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor IMMEDIATELY! A friend of mine got pregnant too early after she gave birth and went into massive kidney failure because her body wasn't recovered enough for another pregnancy.
2006-10-01 01:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by LilyRT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋