I asked yesterday about married men looking at women while their wives are pregnat?

Question

I caught my husband at work watching a woman in the hallway yesterday when I went to meet him for lunch. He didn't know I saw him staring at this woman and was really hurt, I mean, here I am 7 months pregnant with our third child! I talked to a friend of mine that works in the same building as my husband and she says she is sorry to tell me this, but she has seen him looking at the same woman, and even saw him hanging out where she works- she says she thinks the woman is aware of him and is interested, but doesn't talk to him- at work. What??????????????????? What do I do??????This friend of mine is a good person- doesn't lie or gossip so I believe her----what should I do?

Answer 1

I think it's time to let your husband in on how u feel about him looking at another woman. If he tries to deny it, simply tell him that u saw him doing it. While you're speaking with him, try not to get angry and possibly get him on his defensive. Instead, calmly explain to him how this makes u feel.

Of course I don't blame u for feeling that way as right now u are in a very vulnerable situation with your pregnancy but there's no reason why u can't get this out of your chest and have a talk with him, if only for your own peace of mind.

Answer 2

I am so sorry to hear that but I know how you feel. I am pregnant too and I am 8 mth's pregnant and I have caught my husband starring at women in general all the time. It hurts so much and I have even confronted it too him and he tells me that I am making things up and I am being paranoid.

He must think that I am some type of retard... I know what I see and he does not want to admit it. I told him that I will not be pregnant for ever then I will get him back somehow... Although two wrongs does not make a right however, it makes us even.

Talk to him and let him know that you are aware that he is giving her attention and it bothers you. It is better that you let him know, because he will probably stop and not let it get any further... Does your husband have sex with you? If yes, that's good. My husband has not touched me since the baby was concieved, 8 mth's no affection, no love, no attention... I am extremely depress about that.. I hope that your situation is better then mine... (Good Luck)!!!!

Answer 3

All men look. Thats something you cant change being he is human and when he see attractive people he looks. Now once he goes beyond looking is when the problem start. Your friend said she has seen him looking but not talking. He is being respectful and not disrespecting you he knows that you have a friend at his job. If he was trying to hide the fact that he had a pregnant wife he wouldnt have invited you to lunch. Working in the same bldg as this woman there will be times that they see each other.Your friend said she thinks which means she isnt certain that there is something going on.Now if this woman was seeing your husband your friend would have said she thinks the woman is int rested she would know.

Answer 4

You need to sit down with your husband and have a talk with him about this. In a non-attacking way, so that he feels he can open up to you. Let him know how much it hurts you to have him looking at other women, especially when you are pregnant with his child. If your friend is someone you trust, and you know you can doubly trust because you saw this behavior with your own eyes, warn your husband what he is getting himself into. Sometimes, as sad as this sounds, some men don't realize the road they are going down until it's too late. Sometimes all they need is a friendly reminder of what is right and wrong to set them back on the right path. If this is something he doesn't want to talk about, then I would try to get him to go to marriage counselling with you so that he can see the dangers of looking at other women while he is married, and so that he can see the consequences that many pay because they don't heed the warnings from those that love them. I wish you all the best, with your husband, your two children, and the one on the way. :)

Answer 5

I know it hurts your feelings because he's your husband and your carrying his baby and raiseing his children. You have the right to be mad Its not fair. But its normal and men are human and their always looking at a pretty woman that walks by and theres nothing anyone could do about it. Learn to love your self and the beautiful baby your going to have and love your chilren and be happy with who you are. You either except men as they are and play the good wife role, or be alone and lonely. There is no perfect man or relationship. You just take it one day at a time and hope things will work out and know you did your best.

Answer 6

ok coming from someone that is jsut as pregnant as you and with our second child. I am due in less than 9 weeks now.... You are his wife you have his children. So what if he looks. He can even flirt a little. He isn't dead and he comes home to you every night. I bet that you have had a crush on someone at work before and maybe did a little innocent flirting or even with that cute guy that works at the local car shop? You are pregnant and all of us pregnant women can take things a little to seriously. I know that my husband loves me and he may look and yes with my hormones the way they are it really hurts but I know that I would look too. Come one it just upsets you because you know he works with this person all of the time. I would probably be furious too, but trust your husband.

Answer 7

Why do we constantly allow guys to depict the way we feel or behave.

I'm sure most of us feel that we are independent self-reliant women yet when a guy doesn't call, we feel like ****. Suddenly we are no longer confident. Does he not like me anymore? Like wat the ****. I need to get off that hook. I need to think that i can move on. I know i can but i need time. After that i want no more emotional attachments cos they eventually hurt u. But i know no matter how much u tell urself to keep things simple..it becomes complicated.

Sch is ******* stressful with mid-terms on their way and project deadlines approaching like a looming dark cloud. Life has never been this stressful and boring. It's a routine. Sch-project meeting-home. But i dun think i can handle any distraction. It'll be too hectic. But my darlings..u can come and disturb me anytime. I appreciate the asking of my well being and concern from u people. It really helps.

I just want to make sure i never fall into the trap again. No matter how shitty or boring life can be..it's still better than having ur heart heaved out of ur body and being trampled on.

When i see someone in love, i feel like yanking their heads out and filling it with hate. I wonder what's so especially abt love that one actually forgets his own identity? I'm not toking without experience..Infact i can say with much certainty that I hate the feeling of being in love..It makes u weak, vulnerable, clingy, wide-eyed, dreamy and so many other words i can come out with that associate back to being a loser.. Where's the strong, up-town, sophisticated, I-Know-i can -make-it on-my-own woman? I'm really a huge feminist.. which is why i dun give a **** abt what a guy has to offer me cos it's never enough and also i can get watever i want myself!

Answer 8

this is your third. have you talked to him about how you feel. is this something that has happened before. have you told him to bear with you that the changes you are going through are just for a season. i know that this is not the first but if you never talked about your emotions and his and your needs and his during the pregnancy, maybe its time. tell him you are sensitive to his giving anyone else attention. talk about the things that help both of you see this is temporary and that you will soon be back as the woman he fell in love with.

Answer 9

Talk to ur husband stright up before he become a Has-been, girl u need to step up for urself once in a while even when u're pregnant, some man just dunno how hard it is to be a woman.

And plus there's still a lot of man out there, and some wont even look at other woman when they're in a relationship :) Just need to find the good ones.

Good luck!

Answer 10

Almost everyone has told you to talk to your husband, which is good. However, your language is one of overreaction, which could be related to the crazy pregnancy hormones and so forth. Ask yourself this question first: "Do I do the same thing sometimes?" If so, why are you so upset? If not, let him know your point of view. Remember though, if he looks and doesn't touch, he's pretty much a normal guy.