So I don't really get along with my roommates. I understand its okay not to be friends with them, to be honest they're not really the crowd I kick it with. But it would still be cool to have a chill relationhsip with them because I live with them.
2006-09-30 16:05:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
its a college dorm. i can't move, i have no choice.
2006-09-30 16:25:33 · update #1
Don't eat their food, respect their bedtimes, don't borrow anything without asking, clean up after yourself, don't leave a mess in the bathroom, don't talk on your phone too loudly.
Ask them about their life, hang out every now and then.
2006-09-30 16:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that as long as you have to be with them, you must find a way to get along until you can get other roommates. So, the best start is to use "RESPECT". Don't try to get all chummy with them, just be very pleasant and keep a safe distance with with your relationship.
Remember, you can give out too much information and you can be taken for a ride. Safety first. You are in close quarters with a lot of other people that can get to know all your personal business as well as your legal information, papers, license, s.s.#, etc. So, please get a security lock box and by all means know who you'll be hanging around.
A student of mine was a victim of identity theft for over $100,000.00 in the form of 2 cars, a truck, furniture for her home away from campus, jewelry, clothes, even a phony drivers license where she had tried to look like the other person. By the way, her best friend that she shared a room with was jealous of her and wanted to be like her friend, so she used her trust to get the information she needed. So get to know the people you will be living with.
My aunt always said a good way to do that is to listen, listen, listen, and do very little talking. You learn more and will know when to talk and when not to. But, for the most part, learn from them and let them learn from you. Then you will form a nice relationship.
2006-09-30 16:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by noodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in many roommate situations, and I have some rules of thumb that, if one follows them consistently, should avoid any problems.
1. Always assume you are expected to contribute in all financial matters of the household, no matter how friendly or laid-back people are about it. You will be amazed how peoples' personalities change when you start to owe them money.
2. Do or say nothing to invalidate people. Invalidation includes criticizing, lecturing, advising, or belittling in any way. If you feel something about a person needs improvement, keep it to yourself unless they ask. Even if you feel a person's habits are causing your lifestyle to be less pleasant, it's best to keep it to yourself, unless it is really unbearable. It's better to have established rules before moving in together to prevent problems with noise levels, hygiene, and cleanliness.
3. never intrude in peoples' privacy, or inquire about personal affairs, unless they ask for your thoughts on such a subject. Then, refer to number 2 above.
4. Try to do something thoughtful to contribute to the household that was not asked of you. This goes a very long way in improving relations.
5. Abusive people: In case of abusiveness or bullying you should try to just get out as soon as possible, but still follow the guidelines 1-4. But, don't stand for any verbal abuse, confront the person immediately and say firmly, but politely that you will not tolerate intimidation or verbal abuse. Usually this shocks people, because they don't realize that they are actually being over that far over the line.
I hope this information is helpful.
2006-09-30 16:18:08 · answer #3 · answered by martin h 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think being honest and telling them its not your vibe and you wish to move will actually get THEM to find someone from another room they like to want to move in. You can go to campus office and then trade rooms with that person.
2006-09-30 16:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by Alucard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just gotta act semi interested in what they do. let them know they can chill with you when u go out, or or ask what they are doing tonight...just be casual n cool, sensitive to their interests and go on from there
2006-09-30 16:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by Natethegreat8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know. Thank God roomates arent ur family. Roomates are there to talk with. ask them to go do something.
2006-09-30 16:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by kyle765742002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be cool about things, and hopefully they'll pick up on it and try to be cool with you too.
2006-09-30 16:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE OUT
2006-09-30 16:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find another roomrate if you can.
2006-09-30 16:06:38 · answer #9 · answered by Friv 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋