can your mother telling you your fat make you gain weight?

Question

Okay this is what I mean:
Throughout my life my mother has been trying to put me on diets, I can remember being in second grade and only allowed to eat 600 calories a day. (thankfully my dad put a stop to that) And I have seen pictures of myself at that age, I mean I was no stick but I definately wasnt a chunky kid....b4 or after all her diet schemes.
When I got older (jr. high, highschool) she was always telling me how fat I was and what a big *** I had (and i was 5'6" 135pounds, again NOT skinny...but definately not fat!) So I would ignore her as best I could, but it seemed the more she would tell me not to eat (like at all, she doesnt eat but like once everyother day btw) the more I would want to eat crap just to spite her. Is that weird or what? So now I am 19 and 160pounds....still 5'6". well I dont "blame" this on my mother, but I do feel like if she would have just left me alone i never would have developed this unhealthy obsession with food.

does it sound like I might have an eating disorder?

Answer 1

Poor sweetie, don't let her emotional, mental and verbal abuse ruin your life, please don't listen to her, there are things you need to do to work on you, don't listen to anything she says, I am going to make a big and great suggestion to you, have you ever heard of overeater annonymous? You need to join a support group like that, it'll save you from a lot of pain. Your mother didn't know how to nurture you, how to be a mother, I hope you can forgive her some time.

You are too young to feel bad about yourself or your weight. Pay no attention to her, try to seek some counseling with a psychologist, tell your father you feel this has affected you, your mom is nuts, I don't know why I get the sense she is either annorexic or bulimic, but more the anorexia, she shouldn't have put you on a diet and if you were having trouble, she should've taken you to counseling early on.

If you join the support group I mentioned it will really save you, from a lot, you have a whole life ahead of yourself and you don't want to be either feeling bad about how you may look or people talking, but what matters is how you feel here!! Do yourself a favor and take this step, you are too young, and it doesn't get any easier hun. Imagine when you are in your 30's or so, you don't want to end up having a surgery like the you see on tv., you deserve to have a happy, healthy life, do it only for you.

Joining overeaters annonymous is not just for big people, it's for people who are emotional eaters, there is a lot of emotion placed in food, it's an escape, from the pain, but the outcome is not a positive one. If you join a group in your area, all kinds of people go, skinny, very very skinny, medium size, big, not too big, large and extra extra large, even bullimics and anorexic people, they look like skeletons, so don't feel bad, they share all their experiences, and sponsor one another to report to about your issues. Try it and it'll change your life and then you can show your mother you can do it, not that you are doing it for her, never. Just so she can be proven wrong, and you can be so very proud of yourself. Try it you have nothing to lose but what gets in the way of having a great life.

www.overeatersannonymous.org

Answer 2

First of all 160 lbs for your height is not fat! I don't think it is so much an obsession of food, but you were taught you self worth is based on what the scale says. The lower the number, the higher you rate. I'm thinking your mother was overweight at one time, lost weight and then achieved what she craved in life, equating the weight loss with the reward. Since she wanted you to be happy and successful, she taught you what she learned. Though it may not be healthy (or right) she did what she thought was good for you. Be healthy, eat healthy and stay active. You are not what you weigh, you are what you do!

Answer 3

Parents unfortunately inflict a terrible hardship on their children when they are over critical of their weight. And yes, the eating disorders of many teens start with what their parents say to them. Being seriously overweight or underweight is a health problem, but should be addressed only by seeing a dietitian, and NOT by crash diets. If you are not seriously over or under weight, there is nothing wrong with you. You need to be happy, and that is all that counts, not matter what anybody else says!

Answer 4

What your mother did to you constitutes emotional abuse! Yes, that sort of treatment can cause an eating fixation. Consult your doctor for proper weight/height ratios and diet plans. 5'6" at 135 lbs IS NOT CHUNKY! It is the proper weight for that height. The magic (and dreaded) word for your solution is CONTROL. You must set a reasonable eating schedule for yourself and stick to it. When you get the urge to eat otherwise, just be positive, and choose something healthy. The more we eat, the larger our stomachs become, allowing us to eat more. You can control your eating. Hang in there!

Answer 5

I think your mother has a eating disorder and she tried to make you have one to
and yes your troubles can stem from your mothers comments (thank goodness for your dad)
I would see a therapist even when you know you are fine your mother has put this in your head for a lifetime
even if you know that what she said was untrue after hearing it for so long subconsciously you may believe it in some way

Answer 6

yes, I believe your mother telling you that you are fat can cause you to eat more and gain weight. When I was a teen my brother used to tell me I was fat all the time. I look at pictures of me back then and I wasn't fat. I was beautiful, now, I'm a fat cow.

Answer 7

Yes, you have an eating disorder. You should probably seek help because you have developed this unhealthy obsession with food in response to what your mother has demanded of you.

Answer 8

Yes, its the classic labeling theory, she calls you a genius then you are studious living up to what she says. Same thing, your fat, you will eat and gain weight. You are living up to what she sees you as.
I work at a school and teachers may insinuate a kid be stupid the kids grades will drop and live up to what they view him as. Be careful, maybe your mom is just "projecting" meaning she feels fat and crappy put projects her feeling of herself onto others, meaning you.
Ignore her, she might be going through hard times realizing shes gaining weight with age and all.
when she calls you fat just know that she is really calling herself that.

Answer 9

i think that its not an eating disorder exactly... but it is a sort of disorder
i think you should probably talk to a counselor, since what your mom acted like certainly had a negative effect of you.
you should also tell ur mom to see a counselor and a nutritionist, if she only eats like once every other day

Answer 10

Empower your Self and start loving your Self unconditionally.