What if you find out that your close friend is homeless and is sick and has no money, and you try to help her because you want to see her get better, but then when you let her stay, she brings her boy friend with her because hes homeless to and she loves him and can't live with out him. Except he's a real looser who doesn't work or help in any way but just takes and takes advantage of her and me. I don't want to see something happen to my friend. I tryed talking to her but it didn;t work. what can I do?
2006-09-30 15:32:06 · 10 answers · asked by Isabella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes what you can do is lay down your rules if you want to help your friend then she needs to understand on how you stand with her boyfriend. I hate to say this, but having him around will cramp your way of life. Be real about this she either takes it or leaves it. There are places that will help out homeless people, but you know if you want to be eaten out off house and home then go ahead people that don't help each other and just bum off you will make you homeless. If she has family then thats where she needs to go not you.
2006-09-30 16:34:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt let her stay at your home any longer. if they're both still with you kindly ask them to leave. this is not a good situation for you because they can easily rob you if this guy is a loser like you say. suggest they can stay with their families or get information from your city what homeless shelters might be available for them to stay in. Just remember that your friend chose to put herself in the situation. She can just as well bring herself out of it. Good luck and be careful!
2006-09-30 15:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk again to her and if she isn't willing to send him packing .. you send 'em both packing!
I have learned some folks will still make all the worst decisions even if they have the best friends, love, advice and encouragement......Just chooses to let her live her own life (with or with out the sponge guy) .... don't let your self get dragged down too.
Life's too short to worry about things you can't hope to fix!
2006-09-30 15:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you care about her,but you what the boyfriend out. You invited her not him. There is no reason that he can't get a job and help out. If she doesn't like it she can leave. It is still your home. You can say who stays and who goes. Let her make the choice.
2006-09-30 15:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out the door. If she was a close friend she would not do this to you. Have you ever heard the expression,take advantage?
2006-09-30 15:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by firewomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a very generous person for helping your friend out.
Your friend is very disrespectful towards you for inviting her b/f to your house. You should talk to your friend about your concerns because you are obviously not happy. I suggest you say her b/f can visit her but he can't stay there. Because lets face it.... It's hard enough to support ourselves let alone two other people.
2006-09-30 15:38:36 · answer #6 · answered by Storm's Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that she has crossed the line. Ask her how she would sense in case you probably did that to her. tell her that out of recognize on your, she must have left. i'd keep my eyes open. She would were with him sexually, or she will be hitting on him. besides, she isn't performing like a real chum.
2016-11-25 19:42:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friend or not... you probably should ask her to leave. You aren't helping her by allowing both of them to mooch and not contribute. It sounds heartless but if she was truly thinking of your friendship she would tell the guy to get a job and help out.
If it were me I would tell her its time to go.
2006-09-30 15:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by mommakaye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her that you would love to have her stay with you but you cannot accommodate her boyfriend and he'll have to leave in 5 days. (or whatever you think is fair)
If she wants to leave with him.....that's her decision.
2006-09-30 15:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick them both out!
2006-09-30 16:17:14 · answer #10 · answered by Smiles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋