i met this guy through my cousin. he moved in a few months ago and he lives a block away from me. we became close after a while even though i only saw him when my cousin was around. it started to annoy me so i just asked my cousin for the guy's number and we've been talking for about a week. he calls me a lot and i call him and i love talking to him. but one night i stayed up till midnight on the phone with this guy and my mom had a fit!! not only is the guy 2 years older than me, but he also goes to a school that doesn't exactly have the best reputation and she has a problem with that but he's not a bad kid at all!!!! she told me she didn't want me talking to him anymore which really isn't fair to me!!!! she can't take my friends away from me, can she??? what am i supposed to do????? i really like talking to him and i love being friends with him!! how do i get her to change her mind?? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-30 15:12:27 · 6 answers · asked by jgmice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and by the way, we're really just friends. its not like i'm asking my mom to approve my non-existant boyfriend. and i respect my mom and all but she says that she also doesn't want me talking to him cuz she doesn't know him so well. but if she doesn't know him then how can she judge him?? isn't this a bit drastic???!!
2006-09-30 15:19:29 · update #1
OMG, WHY IS EVERYONE TRYING TO BAD-MOUTH THIS GUY??? HE'S REALLY NICE AND HE'S NOT A BAD KID AT ALL!!! I STAYED UP TO TALK TO HIM CUZ I LIKE TALKING TO HIM!!! AND MISS LADY WITH THE PURPLE HAT, I'VE READ OTHER ANSWERES YOU'VE GIVEN.......UR REALLY ANNOYING!!!!!!!
2006-09-30 15:22:02 · update #2
okay you guys.....i'm looking for advice, not trash-talk about my friend. the school isn't for troubled kids in any way. its a totally normal school just some bad kids have gone to that school. its those specific kids, not the school or my friend!! you all sound like my mom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-30 15:25:10 · update #3
Ask your mom if you may bring him over for dinner one night so she can get to know him a little better.
And no more talking till midnight. Its things like that that are making your mom think he's a bad influence on you.
2006-09-30 15:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is doing what she thinks is best. The school had a bad rep is it for troubled kids. I do think its wrong for your mom to judge this person without spending time around him. I knew a few guys that went to school for troubled kids and they were nice guys they just had issues at home and acted out because of this. Ask your mom if he can come over and meet her. Dont do dishonest things behind your mom back this isnt a good way to introduce this guy to her. Right now she thinks the late night phone calls arent a good thing so talk to him after you do your homework. This guy might have hung out with the wrong crowed and has learned his lesson. If he gets into trouble(w/police) then it would be better to leave him alone and not become a victim as well.
2006-09-30 22:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant change anyones mind. Have you asked her why she disagrees with your conversing with him? Dont go throwing a fit and yelling the 'it's not fair' argument on her either. If you do she will see she was right. Act mature. Im not sure how old you are or how old he is, but if you are 17 and he is 19, then there is an issue. If you both are over 18 then there may be underlying issues you and your mom need to sit down and talk about. Dont sneak around your moms back and talk to him either. Sit down and compromise. Perhaps she just thinks he's a bad influence because you have been doing things for/with him she does not agree with (staying up till midnight talking on the phone with him).
She can take your 'friends' away from you if she thinks they are a bad influence on you. She is trying to protect your reputation. Your reputaion is built by those you hang around with. If you hang with trouble, you are automatically trouble; even if you are not.
I hope your talk goes well with your mom. But remember, be mature about it. No yelling, no screeming, just sit and listen to your mom and ask her to listen to you as well.
2006-09-30 22:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by JOEYSMOM2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A nice boy wouldn't keep you on the phone until midnight. You really don't know if he's good or bad- you just think you know.
Your mom is right.
You're supposed to respect and obey your parents until you get your own home and pay your own bills. As your mother, she can do whatever she pleases because ultimately, she's responsible for you- financially. morally. emotionally. physically. mentally.
If this boy tries to get you to sneak around behind your mom's back, he doesn't care much about you.
2006-09-30 22:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you think your mother is wrong you still have to obey her.When your old enough to go it on your own,that's when you can choose what's right for you.
2006-09-30 22:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when your 18 you can make your own decisions until then just listen to your mom
2006-09-30 22:16:48 · answer #6 · answered by Aaron A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋