Well, im good with girls. I´make them laugh, i´m confident, i enjoy talkin to em on da phone.... everything i like them and they like me. But when it comes to the physical part I´m super scared. For example the other day a friend told me "She likes u kiss her!" and when i was gonna do it i was kinda scared and i dunno why. And i LOVE touching women and stuff but when i do it, i feel that it´s NOT the real me, like i was acting or smething. I dont know how to explain this, but i hope u understood .. Why does that happen and what should i do?
2006-09-30 15:07:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well...how old are you? If you are 25 I would say something about seeking help....if you are a teenager...I would say...dont worry....you may be more shy and affraid to put yourself out there physically...you should follow your own instincts. Too many people are moving fast (physically) because they believe that is what is "normal" (because of everything they see and hear)...but you shouldnt do anything you are not feeling ready to do. You should be proud of yourself that you arent the type to jump all over a girl...getting to know someone well first builds trust and makes kissing and other things much more meaningful...Hang in there...dont let anyone pressure you.
2006-09-30 15:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by EA A 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You seem to like girls only a friends base. Have you ever considered that you may be bisexual or gay. You have to find that out for your self. Start asking yourself did you maybe ever have romantic or sexual feelings towards a man. Only you can find the answer to your problem.
Sorry, I wish I could help you with that. But even if you're gay or bisexual, that's OK. People like what they like and there is nothing bad about it. Good luck 2 you
2006-09-30 22:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens to everyone. I have been with many women in my life. Sex with over 100 women. And it is always the same the first time. But if you have never been with a female it will be even more intense.
For you first time you really need to spend a little time. Just hit it and leave on the first time only leaves you wondering what just happened. Spend some time with her. It gets more fun the older you get..
Enjoy.
2006-09-30 22:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to take a good look at yourtself,you sound like a neat person and like everybody else you have a problem.tell a girl that you really like and trust about your problem and you might get a big surprise.once you conquer this fear or maybe you just haven't met the right one yet.don't rush yourself and give it time.it will happen sooner or later.good luck!!
2006-09-30 22:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by preast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural. Anxiety hits the first few times until you are *naturally* confident with yourself, girls and what you are doing. Slow down, it sounds like you're pushing yourself too much or someone around you is, like the girl, hormones (yours or hers/peers) or your friends.
Relax. You have your life to play. Ease into it.
:)
2006-09-30 22:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by Light W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if its not the real u dont do it
she should like u for yourself not who u are pretending to be and if she doesnt like u anymore someelse will probably its not the end of the world
dont act like some1 u arent because it means that they dont like u for who u are but who u are trying to be
2006-09-30 22:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by ilovemydogii 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
stop thinking, just get a big handful of chic and see what it tastes like
2006-09-30 22:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
gay?
2006-09-30 22:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋