Ok I used to care about my reputation on Y! Answers but I think that doesn't matter anymore since I realized no one knows/cares who I am. That being said, why the *&^% can't I have an orgasm? I know it's normal for girls to have difficulty getting one, but damn it i've been trying since the beginning of this year, and I CANT HAVE ONE. I JUST CANT. i can sit there and play with myself for an hour and i still cant get one. i am so frustrated at this point and i just want to get up, but i cant because its become somewhat of an obsession/addiction. i even started downloading porn but i usually delete it quickly and give up. so what should i do? i feel guilty for turning into a bad person, but at the same time i feel like if i could just having a ^&%$#@( orgasm i wouldnt be so sex obsessed. any suggestions?
2006-09-30 15:01:22 · 10 answers · asked by malintzin 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
ive tried the shower thing and i know where my clit is lol
2006-09-30 15:24:08 · update #1
i think you are stressing over it.
2006-09-30 15:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... you are NOT a bad person! You are a normal woman, and you deserve as much pleasure as the next girl!
It sounds like you've got yourself all worked up about nothing. I think you might be "thinking" too much, and you might just need to relax and enjoy yourself. (I know, I know. Easier said than done).
Okay, this is gonna sound funny, but:
You might wanna try a little romance. It sounds like you're uptight about it, and all business. Maybe what you need is a nice glass of wine, some candles, a bubble bath. Pamper yourself. Unwind. Relax.
Then get yourself comfortable, in a 'safe' environment, where you won't have to worry about anyone seeing/hearing you, or walk in on you, or disrupt you in any way. Perhaps this is your bedroom with the door locked. If you like porn, you can watch some. Or you can read an erotic book. Some people need a little more visual stimulation to get them aroused. Some don't.
Keep in mind, everybody's different. What works for one might not work for another. There is no 'right' or 'wrong' way to do it. Just do what feels good, and relax and enjoy yourself.
Try not to stress about it so much. Good luck.
2006-09-30 22:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by pyrochyck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually had this problem not long ago, from being put on a medication, though eventually I guess around 2 months later, I was able to again. So have you recently been put on any type of meds? If not, sometimes if you concentrate too hard it takes longer to happen, just try to relax and not think about it so much.. Sometimes it could just be a mind thing.
2006-09-30 22:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by Stacey R. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a mega mite vibe is the best thing around!! Try reading hot erotic stories or chatting dirty on the Internet. You are not a bad person at all.
2006-09-30 22:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by JS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not obsessed. What you need to do is go to an adult book store or go to mypleasures.com if you are uncomfortable going to a porn store my psyc. referred me to that site. They will ship anything to your home in a unmarked box. You need a clit stimulator.
2006-09-30 22:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by BumbleBee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety you're not a bad person for masterbating...nothing wrong with that...to masturbate find your clitoris and start rubbing until it feels good and right then continue till you climax...or use the shower fosset on your clit, it does it all the time.
2006-09-30 22:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're barking up the wrong tree?
Check out --- http://www.reuniting.info/
I'm actually getting over my orgasm addiction?
Oh the irony!!!
2006-10-03 21:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come to my house and we can have some fun then ull get an orgasm
2006-09-30 23:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invest in a good vibrator!!!
2006-10-01 00:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by shellyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-01 00:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by ChaoticChicaLovesJT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋