Yeah here is the scenario. I am tall fair skinned brotha with a slighty light complexion. About a week ago i was talking to a girl who ended up telling me she only preffered dark skinned brothas. This surprised me because i never had that kinda problem with girls. I always thought I was special and blessed with my skin tone. Why cant we all just see through color and just be people? Well, here's the question do think light skinned brothas are out, in, or does skin color even matter anymore. Try to have long detailed answers. preciate it.
2006-09-30 14:58:25 · 12 answers · asked by matt 4 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
She was only talking about what she liked.
NOW, you haven't said how old you are, but I assume the gal was between 16 and 23.
They go 100% by a brothas appearance, and nothing else. In those years people can be really picky. There are gals who love light-skinned bros...if you have to find someone who is picky like that, find someone who won't accept anything less than a fine creamy cafe latte guy like yourself!
2006-09-30 15:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think skin color should play any role in who people end up dating, in love with, or married to. This may sound old fashion, but I think people should look within a person, and not judge a book by its cover. I think what ever your color, you are fine. If a girl doesn't like you for who you are as a person, then she is not worth your time. It probably is her loss anyways, I'm sure in time, you will find someone who appreciates your heart and soul, not what color God made you. Everyone is different and to judge someone in that matter is immoral and wrong! Don't worry about your skin, just be you, learn to ignore the ignorant people in this world, and take care!
A good person is made up strength, love, compassion, good will, and trust, not hair, skin and body!
2006-09-30 22:11:56 · answer #2 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm light skinned too, and color shouldn't matter. It should depend on their personality. For example i was watching this show and this girl was biracial, yet when asked what men she preffered she said people her own race. so i'm thinking she dates light skinned guys. yet she dates only blacks. It was truly contradictory. Many people see color as a road block. They need to climb over it and see the person inside. We may come from different places and backgrounds but were all human.
2006-09-30 22:04:06 · answer #3 · answered by Donovan G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is quite the thing. I know that there is a situation within the Black community where the fairer-toned people are preferred over the darker-toned despite the fact that they are still Black. I also know about the situations where black men prefer lighter skinned women. I'm not sure about the women liking darker skinned men...but that is her preference, in this case. And unfortunately color STILL does matter.
Earlier this year broke up with a Castillian/Arabic mixed guy and now I'm seeing a young Black man. Something I never thought would happen as my mix is Castillian/East Indian and I see myself physically as East Indian..though if you look you can tell that I'm mixed. Plus, I'm pretty fair. It's new to me but he's wonderful and we have a great time...plus he's TALLLLL and I love that. But it was my 1st reaction to NOT want to date him because I THOUGHT I was not attracted to Black men. I was wrong. LOL.
Yes, it's still a big thing. My father disowned one of my sisters for marrying Black (and then her kids turned out black-skinned...it was a mess I tell you), I know Black women who will prefer light-skinned men (of any race) so that their children will grow up having it "easier" if they turn out pale or even with colored eyes.
I'm sure you know some of this and I will not go in-depth. What happened was hurtful, but that was just HER. I'm sure there are many women who would love to be with you and will be attracted to your inner qualities too. So keep looking for her!
2006-10-01 00:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by Riverblossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i live in northern indiana and for some reason many people still think skin tone matters here. their excuse is that there are cultural difference that affect relationships. my response is: how many differences can their be? we're americans, isn't that one culture? how the heck is culture based on skin tone. i think that in some areas of the country, ones with a large elderly population and a lot of people that aren't well educated, this idea that skin color matters in relationships still persists, but it's dying out. it's such a stupid idea. people are people, not skin color, that's just genetics.
2006-09-30 22:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by marisha z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my husband is mixed and he has a beautiful light skin tone, but i think everyone should see through color and look to the inside b/c its not the outside that's gonna treat you right, care for you and love you. that's all inside. i mean yes i do like mixed b/c i think its sexy but it shouldn't matter what the color is, i was just blessed b/c i have someone that's treats me great and has a wonderful skin tone.
2006-09-30 22:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by armysniperwife20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly, skin color does matter to some people, still. to me, i dont care. i have met beautiful whites, blacks (dark), and mixed (or light) guys. personality is more important, andd im not just saying that. but anyways, i know alot of racist people, even if they will not come right out and say it, its the little things that they "joke" about or say that lets me know that they have some major prejudice they need to work out. but for me, it does not matter. and i dont think you should worry about it, anyways, you cant change your skin color, right? so just be happy. you'll meet a girl even better than the one who lead you to ask this question!
2006-09-30 22:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by chikka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you think you are special and blessed with your skin tone? could it be that you've had your own prejudice turned on to you by this girl? People like what they like and there are too many fish in the sea. Just move on to the next woman that digs what you have to offer.
2006-10-01 13:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by blkbarbie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Skin doesnt matta! It should be all you! That girl is just freakin weird. My girlfriend wants to talk and answer. "Hey, dont listen to this girl, she's just insane. Skin really does not matter, she doesnt know how many sweet guys she's missing out on. So I think that skin is no big deal, it should be whats inside that counts." Yeah, I agree with her.
2006-09-30 22:05:19 · answer #9 · answered by skull loner 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i really love light skinned pple i guess b/c when u tan its actually noticed and also a lot of light skinned ive seen have more pecs and more body
2006-09-30 22:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋