I pay $86 per week in child support but never get to see my kid. Can i get out of paying, or what should i do?

Question

Due to the fact that my ex-wife is very difficult to deal with I'd rather not have anything to do with her or my child. My ex-wife is a Nurse Practitioner and earns over 150k per year so she really doesn't need my money. What can I do??

Also she put a restraining order against me cause i would not see her (my Ex). She said all kinds of lies in the order. I really need to get on with my life and put her in the past. I love women but some can be evil...

Answer 1

Heard of a condom? Get over yourself!!!!

Answer 2

If you are under a court order to pay $86 per week in child support and have no visitation privileges, your best recourse is to address this within the legal system. Since you don't want to have anything to do with her or your child, you could just stop paying child support, and hope your ex-wife doesn't seek legal assistance.

Your ex- wife earns over 150K per year, and your $86 per month probably doesn't impact her budget, I think she is just wants a "pound of your flesh". Unfortunately, for you, the courts may rule for her.

Answer 3

Your ex is not the problem, not seeing your child is the problem. You should contact your lawyer and have the judge re-open the case, and demand that she allow you to see your child to spend some quality time. She cannot not let you see your child, child support notwithstanding. Whether you're current on that is not the issue.

Since you don't want to be involved with your ex, you don't have to be. She is the one in the wrong, and eventually, her actions will come back to bite her in the butt.

You say she makes 150k a year, and doesn't need the money. You're right, she doesn't, but your child does. Make your one and only focus your child. When you call, ask to speak to your child, not her. When you come over, spend time with your child, not her. Acknowledge her presence, but don't spend any more time with her than is necessary.

Get with your lawyer and work this out. Good luck.

Answer 4

You might want to talk with a different lawyer; however it will not do you any good. In Alabama the term "child-support" is not used.
The courts here call it "child-maintence" and until the age of majority, which in this state is 19, or 23 if in college. I just hope that your chld is not so young and you can soon get out of paying. If she made a million a year and you had an A..-hole judge then you are stuck. in Alabama ten years ago the amount for one child was 15% of "gross"...I had three. It is impossible to surrive on that what is left. Good luck.. (leave the country) You can change your name for $75.00

Answer 5

You're never going to stop paying for your child until that child turns 18. If you want to give up your parental right, talk to your lawyer because that's the only way you'll get out of paying. If you stop paying without court order, you'll be arrested and probably put in jail. But don't be so selfish! Your child deserves to know you. And you deserve to know your child. Who cares if your ex is a rotten person, don't let that get in the way of your relationship with your child. The road is going to be tough but a good relationship with your child is all you need to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Answer 6

First of all Child Support is a FEDERAL LAW.

Without knowing what state you live in I cant give you and state specific statutes or laws regarding what is going on. But heres the gist of what I can give you.
Read On.......

http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html

http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/

http://www.childsup.cahwnet.gov/regulations/

Use the above to find out your states laws, and or talk with your attorney.
If I'm not mistaken there each state has its own guide on what the court is able to ask from the absent parent in terms of monetary support aka Child Support Money.
**http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/**...
All states and territories run a child support enforcement program, usually in the human services department, department of revenue, or the state Attorney General’s office, often with the help of prosecuting attorneys, district attorneys, other law enforcement agencies and officials of family or domestic relations courts. Native American Tribes, too, can operate culturally appropriate child support programs with Federal funding. Families seeking government child support services must apply directly through their state/local agency or one of the tribes running the program. Services are available to a parent with custody of a child whose other parent is living outside the home. Services are available automatically for families receiving assistance under the Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF) program.

http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/

The thing is.. it doesnt matter how much she doesnt need your money. Thats not the way to look at it.
You are the father of the child so therefore in the even of divorce it is as well your OBILGATION to support that child whether or not your ex wife makes a butt load of cash.
If you dont have anything to do with your child because of your ex wife.. YOUR CHILD LOSES A PARENT AND YOUR EX WIFE WINS.
NO DOUBT BECAUSE YOU DONT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU KIDS, SHE IS PROBABLY TELLING THE CHILD THAT YOU NO LONGER CARE FOR HIM OR HER (THE CHILD). SINCE YOU DONT VISIT, THE CHILD BELIEVES YOUR EX WIFE, AND THUS YOU LOSE.
BEAT HER AT HER OWN GAME.
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF ALL THE VISITATION, PAY THE CHILD SUPPORT, SOONER OR LATER SHE'LL GET TIRED OF IT AND WILL EITHER STOP USING YOR CHILD AS A PAWN, OR GIVE UP ALL TOGETHER.

Answer 7

It makes no difference how much money your ex-wife makes, pay your child support and earn the right to see your child. Sounds like you and your ex are making things difficult for your child. Both of you need to grow
up and stop bickering. You don't have to be married to
be good parents. Do the right thing and pay that child support and your child will respect you for it later on. I
cannot believe you said you'd rather not have anything to do with either of them. I can understand the ex-wife but your child, that's sad !!!

Answer 8

wait a minute you said you rather not have anything to do with your child that's your child that child didn't ask to be here you should have thought about it before you made that child. you will always have to pay child support until that child is 18 but if that child go to college you will still be paying. you can feel any kind of way about that child mom but don't turn your back on your child because in the long run that child will grow up and hate you. when that child get older you might get sick and need that child to take care of you. i have a niece that haven't seen her dad since she was a baby and she hate him for not been there for her. think about your child don't turn your back on the child. and you said you don't get to see the child you can go to court and ask for an court order visitation. then she can't keep you from that child you don't have to go to the house you can send a family member to your ex house and pick that child up for you can see him or her. when you go to court talk to the judge and tell the judge that you want to see your child and they will set it up for you can have visitation.if you really want to see that child you will make away to see that child.

Answer 9

Okay let me see if I got this straight. Because your X wife and you don't see eye to eye and she is "difficult" to deal with....you want NOTHING to do with your child? Is that what you are saying? Who gives a Rats A S S about how you and your X get along!? This is your child....what the hell....and all you have to give is $86.00 per week? $344.00 per month and that is a problem for you? Listen you helped bring this child into the world so now help raise him / her to be a good loving caring person. What the hell is wrong with some people....I just don't get it...I would DIE for my kids.....and there there are people like you who are all worried about there bad feelings towards there X and how $86.00 a firkin week is such a big deal.
Suck it up Princess and help support what you created!
I am going to stop now as my blood pressure is going up and I am going to blow a gasket.

Answer 10

Human man....you better not give up that easy...you have a child!
That child is yours...be a father to it! Your child has many many needs, the love and support from a father is detrimental to the child's inner strengths...if you abandon the child, the child will have issues...issues brought into his/her marriage....and the cycle will continue forever...dig deep into the Word of God...read
read, read, read....then begin to apply that knowledge in your life. Apologize to the child for the failed marriage, and you are trying to become a better Christian and a better father and may be a better husband to his/her step mother one day. Tell the child you love them. You have rights as a father who pays child support on time...You can get around the bad attitude your X has by always having a family member present to witness this...such as a grandparent. There are a lot of ways to be a great dad! Never miss a visitation! Never say bad things about the mother. Always bring your child to church. When you have your child make them the center of your universe! Let that child know they are loved! It is a very cruel world out there and that child has to already be a part of it...in school... it is like hell on earth...so many variables and things to conquer...you mister, you need to be a rock in your child's life....and with out God, you will fail at being that rock!

Answer 11

Regardless if your wife has makes good money you still have to pay child support no matter how much you see your child. I guess if you really wanted to get out of it, you could terminate your parental rights. Wouldn’t the best thing be to go to court and get visitation, you have a right to spend time with your child, and your kid has right to spend time with you.