Please, I need help. My girlfriend and I have been together for 22 years already since we were in 2nd grade. I have been friends with her since kindergarten. Our parents were friends. We were married. She filed a divorce. I know I didn't cheat on her. I am really sad that my wife left me. Is there a way to get over her? I know she is the perfect one for me. I heard that suicide is the best way to get out of life's problems a week ago. I am guessing after my death, it will be like 10 years before I was born but I cannot remember anything about 10 years before I was born since I didn't exist. I tried to kill myself recently. I need help. What would you do if you were me?
2006-09-30 14:26:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
SUICIDE IS NOT THE ANSWER. Geesh this chick has got you wound. Do you really want someone who is going to be with you if they make you feel like killing yourself.
I would give her time. Give yourself time. Take it slow. Dont rush to conclusions. See a counselor or a pastor or a family friend or someone who you can trust who knows you both and will not be biased. Find comfort in friends and god but not in killing yourself. That is running away from a problem not solving it.
2006-09-30 14:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it with people and Suicide lately? Get a grip!
do you really hate yourself enough to end your life over someone else? You're worth so much more, but you don't believe it.
AND until you believe it, no one else will either. Take a look outside yourself. You've become self-centered. Look at those around you who are in much worse shape.
Can you see, hear, smell, talk, taste, walk? You have something to offer someone somewhere. Don't believe the suicide lie.
Get out and make a positive difference in your own life and in the life of someone else. Even if you walk down the street, and smile at one person. That person may not have had someone smile at them for a long time and you've just made their day.
Start giving back and you'll start to feel better. You'll get over your wife and it may be the best thing that ever happened to you.
2006-09-30 22:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not suicide...too many people mess it up and end up without a face or something...besides you can't go to heaven if you commit suicide...sorry you are facing this terrible loss...if she comes back...fine...but don't expect her to come back. Keep yourself busy...start reading the Bible like you never read it before. Go to a mens study group! Start participating in sports, or take a dancing class at the college...there are never enough male participants there....besides there must be some new steps to learn, or brush up on...go out fishing and enjoy God's great earth! God still has a purpose for your life...Don't give your wife the divorce...so what if she signed for a divorce...don't sign the papers....and don't have an affair...even though she has left you it is no reason to muck up your life with another right now! Just get closer to the Lord and pick up a few hobbies and keep yourself busy...and don't be a sap like begging your girl to come back...do answer the phone....yes when she calls and asks if you miss her...tell her yes and when she comes to her senses you'll be waiting for her...but tell her you won't wait forever!
2006-09-30 21:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicide does not cure all of life's problems - personal opinion, it is a cowards way out! Make an appointment with a therapist whom can help you sort out life's problems on a logical side - rather then a quick fix side which would leave your friends and family in despair. If you've been with a woman for that length of time you've really never had your own freedom time. That may be the cure for you. Sounds like you went from your parents house into your house with her. Take this time to readjust to life and get to know yourself again. You are not the same person you were 22yrs - 15yrs - 10yrs or even 2yrs ago. With time we all change, not majorly - but we do change as we mature in age. Take this time to get to know you. Go out with friends, play pool, eat out, even try on different clothes just for the "hell of it". Just get out of the house and do something for YOU.
There is no quick fix to ease the pain that you are going through - but if you give it time, i promise the pain will lessen and you will be able to breathe without her. At this time you will come to realize that you weren't meant to be - there is a match for each and everyone of us. You just haven't found yours - because you were too busy with the first catch. Once the pain lessons, take the time to observe all the fish in the sea... there's one there, waiting for you and you only!
2006-09-30 21:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get over her is one day at a time. There is no easy way through it, but you have to try and get on with your life the best you can. I would try and chill out. Go on a trip somewhere to clear your head and figure out what you are going to do with the rest of your life. You can't make someone love you. Even if you are still in love with her, you are going to have to learn to accept the fact that it isn't possible to have her in your life anymore. Suicide is trying to force someone to come back to you and is emotional blackmail. Why would you want anyone under those circumstances? Suicide is cruel, selfish and the coward's way out. With suicide you are telling the world that you only care about yourself and your own suffering instead of trying to muck your way through it like everyone else does.
It sounds like you have emotional and/or mental issues you need to come to grips with. Definitely seek psychiatric help and do what the doctor says.
From the wording of your question it sounds as if you don't have a firm grip on reality.
Seek help.
2006-09-30 21:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOw im not the one to judge..but hun, you are too young to think your lifeis over because a girl left you,,even if you were older, life goes on...and you think she is the one for you abut you wouldnt know that cus you havent explored your options.....let her go,,and go have fun go on a date..it hurts like hell..it rocks your brain..you cant get her out of your mind..yes i know..but try..if you die she will continue to live her life the same way..without you..sorry to hear things didnt go well...but you should understand everything ni life is not guaranteed and because of this fact you should learn to accept and make the best of whatever life throws at you..Now go out and have some fun silly rabbit...it will take time to heal but youll see time is healing..good luck
2006-09-30 21:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all killing your self is not the answer ok. second of all it's will be hard at first but you will get over her ok. third go out with you friends or keep busy at work or go fishing do guys stuff and ect but if that doesnt work then maybe you should get help. like talking to someone close to you. i know it's hurt right now. i know you love her but dont let her bring you down. i dont know the reasons why you guys broke up but i know killing your self wont help. so i hope you well and good luck.
2006-09-30 21:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please what ever you do dont commit suicide because that will not solve anything and it wont help the hurt that you are going thru. Although it may be hard to get over her killing yourself behind a woman is not worth it, just think about how many people you will be leaving behind that care about you. Get some help and may God bless you.
2006-09-30 21:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find something to hold onto (something you love to do, like a hobby or something)...it will work temporarily. maybe only for a month, maybe 2 years..but eventually you will find a point where you can say "this is the way that i used to be"...after you have finally forgotten or lost the feelings that you had. the feelings might still be there after it all, but if you never recount them you wont get more hurt.
2006-09-30 21:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by ihawk51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just know that if you are serious, you should get some professional help. It's going to be the hardest thing in the world for you to get over, obviously, but there is a silver lining to every cloud, they say. Maybe you should go to church and speak with someone, if you believe in that I would.
2006-09-30 21:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by petluvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋