Is pre-marital shaggin even a sin anymore?

Question

Really, it is so widespread and socially accepted--think Sex and the City--do you think Christians actually object to it?

I am asking because there are so little unmarried virgins and so many bible-followers. It's a bit of a paradox.

Plus, if you're a man, you get laughed at.

Any of you ever watched Friends? Just how many times did they have sex in that show?

Answer 1

There are so many good answers here,

Not having pre-marital sex is a sweet, romantic idea and all, but in today's world it is unrealistic, firstly with all the pressure put onto teenagers by their peers who have parents who don't care what they do and secondly, sex is more often than not, seen as an emotionally and physically healthy way of becoming closer to your partner as well as a way of "testing" your potential hubbie/wife..... how they are in bed can say alot about their personalities.

I would just like to add that many of us make mistakes and you can't judge anyone by how many people they have slept with, some people do it and genuinely believe that it is true love... even if it lasted a day or so.... they can't help their mind set ... they're too trusting

and to this quote "
Yes it is still a sin societies standards may change with each generation however Gods standards never change what was wrong will always be wrong Biblical standards havent changed in 3500 yrs and we all have to face our own judgement based on his standards not societies if you break the law who takes the rap society or you ? gorbalizer "

The bible was written by a society ... a society who was present 3500 yrs ago as you stated. The bible is not written by God, it was written by a society who interpreted what God's influences were on them.... 3500 years ago. The bible should not be taken literally, and don't forget the amount of times that it has been translated and the amount of books that are not included in the standard catholic bible for example.

If our society is so different to that of 100 years ago... which it is... how can a bible written thousands of years ago have any relevence to life in all of today's many societies?

I was raised a Catholic, I have made many mistakes.. sins even but having sex before marriage is not one of them.

and Boricua, God hasn't deserted you... it must be you who deserted him/it..... (you have deserted yourself).

Answer 2

This is how I see this matter.
If you belong to one religion, you should follow everything it says, that means if you are true believer and follower. Religion is not market where you take things you like and leave those you don't like. It is hard to handle when you are teenager and TV shows (for example Tree Hill) tell you sth is wrong if you don't have sex until the age of 15.
And yes it is hard how guys are laughed of if they are virgins. It seems that even Christians feel that women should be virgins until they are married but it is better for a guy to have some pre-marital experience. It is simply nonsense.

I am absolutely sure I will be waiting till I am married. God has given me so much, family, health and every day he gives me chance to make my life even better. So how can i not follow his will?

Answer 3

Is it still a sin? Yes. Do most Christians actually wait until marriage? No. That doesn't make it right. Some Christians just want to follow the parts of the Bible that doesn't put too many restrictions on them. God doesn't expect perfection out of Christians, which is a good thing. Speaking as a Christian, I can tell you that being a Christian doesn't give you an "I'm perfect" badge. Nor does it give you a free pass to do whatever you want just because you've been forgiven. Although I think some Christians forget that, which is why so many people have a bad opinion of Christians. Like I said, God doesn't expect perfection (because we're humans), but He does expect us to try and follow his guidlines (The Bible) as closely as possible (which means not picking and choosing what you want to do or what you don't) Hope this helps you....good luck and God bless.

Answer 4

Sex outside of marriage is still a sin and wrong in the view of most mainstream religions, although they do tend to look the other way and take a don't ask don't tell point of view.

It doesn't matter if it's wide spread of if they do it on TV or in the movies.

The point of the matter is one day you will have a 14 year old daughter and you are going to feel different about the matter.

The point is, would you like knowing your wife had 10 guys before you and holds opinions on whose good in bed and you may not be the best.

Would it bother you if you go out with friends and find one of them then had your wife before (but doesn't know she's your wife) and make a comment about her baying at the moon in bed naked.

Would it bother you to find out you wife was "shagged" by every jock on the football team!

If these things irritate you, then you have latent morals.

If not, then go marry a girl and don't complain when you find out you're are living in Desperate Housewifes land!

Don't complain when you find out your wife is doing someone on the side, because you aren't enough.

It's your moral code!

Answer 5

Technically - of course - pre-marital intecourse is a sin according to the bible.

But I think that question your searching for is whether or not people, especially Christians, consider this into their actions and beliefs.

Although you can fully blame the media for anything, I personally believe the level of sexual references in our society has increased dramatically, and this increase has definately changed our prespectives on morality and certain ethics.

Being abstinent and being socially accepted are quite difficult to accomplish, but I believe that those who highly regard chasity into their beliefs should be less concerned with the acceptance of men and more concerned about the acceptance of the God.

Answer 6

I don't think it's as frowned upon as much as it used to be. Although, you will still find some people who are dead set against it. I personally don't have a problem with it. It would be terrible to marry someone and find out later that they have no idea what they are doing in the sack.

Besides, sex is a natural human urge and it doesn't just occur within the confines of marriage.

Answer 7

Yes it is still a sin. There are reasons why you shouldn't have sex until you are married, some reasons are: pregnancy, AIDS, STDs, etc. I mean God gives everyone free will, but yes it is still considered a sin. God isn't a fun sucker...He cares for us that is why He wants us to wait until marriage.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Gee.. Let me see how to put this. Any thing that was a sin, still is a sin. Christians did not make the list up, God did. When Christians sin, they have to pay the consequences as well as non-Christians.

Finally, in the end when you are standing before God, will the socially acceptable argument fly?

Answer 10

it wasn't a sin before.... There are 10 commandments... At last I saw there was not a commandment that said Thou shall not have premarital sex...
And for those of you that think adultery is premarital sex... You are wrong... Adultery is sleeping with a married woman, or man. NOT sleeping with an unmarried man/woman.
Let me ask you this.... Were Adam and Eve married?.... If you say yes..then who married them and who were the witnesses?....
And they definitely had a little GIGGIDY going on.

Look... The bible is simple... .Stop reading such crap into it. All it is saying is basically two things.... Love god above anything, and love your neighbor above yourself. You do that you are covered.
No need to read all kinds of other crap in it.
The rest of the "RULES" that have been shoved down our throats for centuries are made by MEN that are trying to control there populace.
And as your mother knows.. The best way to keep you under control... IS GUILT!...
Don't fall for it.


Oh... One last thing.... For those misguided individuals that still think SEX is a sin.... I defy you to find one place in the bible (which was written by MAN) that says outright PREMARITAL SEX, MASTURBATION, ORAL SEX, OR ANY OTHER FORM OF SEX, is a sin. I have read it front to back numerous times and have yet to find anything that says that exactly. Hell, I can't find anything but a few misread interpretations that even hint to that.
THINK FOR YOURSELF PEOPLE!!!