do u think it ok for a man to have two wife's?

Question

I've been with my husband for 10 yrs and we have 3 kids together but he has 7 in all. (9,7,7,4,4,1,1) If u look at the ages u would figuer it out. His dream was to have a baby from 3 different race one white, one black and spanish (me). We lived with it and had our ups and downs but it's ok with me. I just want to know if this is a true feeling that men have. It gives meaning to why they cheat and women should make the best of it and share there man and have fun doing it. true story

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Well I will say do what ever works for you. I would not be able to do it because I don't like to share, I don't want to be put at risk of getting a disease. You may only be sleeping with him and he may just be sleeping with the two or three women who you don't mind him sleeping with, but you don't know who those two are three women are sleeping with and that's when the problem comes in. I think if a man loves you he don't need anyone else, but if you are confident enough to share you man to a point where while he is on top of you he can be picturing one of the other women then I say you are a better women then me.

Answer 3

Well, this goes back to our ancestors. When people were few, and far apart, the human male had many females to insure the species of humans had lots of children, from lots of women, from lots of different areas. Helped to guarantee the survival of people better.

Now in the case of your husband, there is first the problem with diseases he can get, give to all three wives and their children. If he did not do protection. Do not ask him, have you and your children tested at a doctor. Just to be sure.

As for 3 wives, the black-white-spanish talk is nonsence. This is the child in him talking.

Boys cheat on their wives, not men.

Why not join together and make it into one big family where everyone helps everyone else? Provided he knows who he is maried to; no sex with the other women is allowed. If he plans to keep jumping from woman to woman, time to get rid of this looser.

Answer 4

You are a door mat! His other wives are too! You humans somehow have no regard for God's plan. One wife! One family!
Your husband's dream, fantasy you have all helped him achieve.
This man is very manipulative, and you women are his subjects.
Not all men cheat! Real men of God do not cheat on their wives.
Your husband is getting his cake and eating it too...and you women allowing it are going to end up fighting...for all things come to a balance at some point! What do I think...I think that you can't see the Forrest for the trees!

Answer 5

I guess that's why so many women are dying of AIDS.
Some women have thought so little of themselves that they keep on hanging onto men who not only failed to know what it means to be a real man and a father to his kids (that he can afford take care of, mind you), men don't understand that God did not mean for them to give of themselves to any and all women. Children in this world grow up without a positive two parent household because of men like "YOUR MAN". I take it that your man may not have had a positive male figure in his life to teach him these powerful truths. We as women have to stop being so excepting, naive, stupid, blind, and trusting to man., but to trust that God will supply your every need, and that includes a real man of God who knows what it takes, and what is required to be a "Real Man"!

Answer 6

do you like sharing your husband? the kids are not at the age to really know but in a couple of years. what about when they decide to settle down, would you want them to be the same way their "father" is ? i don't understand it myself and i am 47 years old.alot of so call men love to see the amount of children they can "produce". what about supporting all of them, being there for all of them. can he be at all the kids activities at once. i think it builds their ego, they think that is what them a man. i don't call that a man.

Answer 7

Please tell me you're not from Brooklyn. I would only guess things like this happens in West Bubble where there is no t.v., books, etc. or in the Middle East then, ok its common as long as the man can take care of all his wives equally. Same value in house, cars, etc. for each woman. Does your husband provide for all of you equally? Please tell me your not 5%ers.

Well, when the children get older and go to school, how will they explain this one, considering this is way outside the norm in the U.S.? You leave us all with more questions as opposed to an answer for yourself.

Most Americans are selfish when it comes to their spouse. I guess that's why we "DON'T" share.

Answer 8

Your husband has a dream but i think he doesn't know the consequences of his dream. can he take responsibility to other children? can he find equal quality time for each of his children and wives, too? I also have the same dream to have european, asian, latin, and american sons and daughters but I cannot take care all of them because their mothers will be in different locations and having different cultures. I don't think it will work if we live in the same place. In other religions, please be informed that they can have 5 wives because spiritually and financially, they can accommodate. I just hope that your husband will understand those complications and always find time for you especially you love him so much. Good luck!

Answer 9

I disagree---because there are some legal ramifications here--but let me get to that later:

A man has deep feelings just like a woman---but men do think differently from us women and they are for some reason capable of being more objective observers. It is important to them to be respected, they like to have their peace, etc. So a man who has your husband's dream has a huge problem---because it is a problem of ego-centric, inasmuch that he fulfills his dream - on the expense of you and the children. He might be able to put all children in his name, but he is cheating the women he is not married with out of everything-including the possibility of finding someone who loves them because he expects their committment without committing himself.

Now to the legal ramifications---he is cheating each other "wife" out of financial security in the event of his death. The one whom he is married with will get the survivor's benefits. He is cheating the bi-racial(black)children out of having a dad who is there for him. In essence he is producing children of different races without being responsibly there for them. He binds you to him, he bound the other women to him with the children. But he has not created a loving, caring family environment for all his kids---so no, this is not ok. This is totally wrong....

Answer 10

Here it's North America. Woman are treated equally as men. Here, this would not be acceptable by the society in majority. If he has 3, why not all the women he would meet? why not another 10? I think he's a pig >.< and noo it is not ok for me

Answer 11

No, I don't think men feel like you husband, but if they did they would not act on it like your husband has. How does he afford all those kids???? Keep telling yourself its ok and see how many more women he will cheat on you with and have childern with. Have some self respect women!