2006-09-30 13:29:18 · 12 answers · asked by mom of 2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're just getting out of a relationship and you want to hop right back into the fire? To hell with that. You can't be happy with anyone, unless you're happy with yourself. Live alone. Give yourself some time. Don't be in such a rush.
After all of this time with one man, you want to know if you've still 'got it'. Will other men still find you attractive & desirable. Yes, they will. Focus on the problems at hand first. The divorce, your kids (if you have any still at home), your new life. Everything else will fall into place in short order. Believe me, guys WILL be knocking at your door.
2006-09-30 15:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 19:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by meske 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go where the nice men go. Check out programs at your local library. Take an evening adult class, particularly one that men might take as well. Get involved with a place of worship that fits with your values and vision (there is a wide variety you know). You won't find a nice guy at closing time in the pub, but you may find him going to a class or to church, looking for you.
2006-09-30 13:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by Isis 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been happily divorced for 15 years. In my opinion.... almost every man is "nice" when you first meet them!I noticed someone said an on line guy can lie to you lol well the one you meet at a local even can lie just as well!
2006-09-30 13:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find good friends and got out to different places or call me sometime i am about to be divorced again i will go with you. I am not ever getting married again. I do not like it so i am staying single this go round it is more fun that way. That way if i get tired of them i can put them out without having to go through all of this...
2006-09-30 18:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to be hard. I have been online for a couple of years and have met some really nice guys. I am trying to work on myself through church and school and trying not to rush it. We all are meant to be with someone. Try to live everyday and love will find you.
2006-09-30 13:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by kerry9477 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as hard as this seems:
a) Wait 9 months before you go out to clear your mind and do your grief work...and yes you have some to do.
b) Wait 9 months to give your children a maximized stability grace period w/o other men in your life.
c) Nice guys are especially fond of bowling, church, kid's movies w/ their own "week-enders", community college classes.
God's speed.
2006-09-30 13:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no secret club
where "nice" men hang out
nice men are all around
once you're out of the house
(it doesn't matter where)...
1) look like you want to be approached:
--don't look all angry
--don't look all frumpy
2) have your prep work done:
-- a mental list of interesting things to talk about (NOT your complaints of mr. wrong)
-- a willingness to be friendly to anyone who takes the time to approach you (don't prejudge)
-- a self-confidence (even if it's feigned) to speak to someone first
remember:
--be the person
you want to be with
--you're not divorced, yet
g'luck
2006-10-01 14:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure where but make sure no online because you can't tell whether they are telling the truth. Take it slow at first and don't be in a hurry to find someone. Love will find you. Go to church, places like that or friends can usually fix you up with someone.
2006-09-30 13:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honey i don't know hopefully someone can tell us both my marriage was 22 years and now still looking after 3 years
2006-09-30 14:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by camchain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋