ma mom n dad r seperated but i dislike ma dad....he gets drunk every damn day....well he here watching the game n he gonna get drunk n gonna have 2 sleep here but i dont want him here....he asked my mom if he could stay but she said it's up 2 me...i already told him 2 leave but he wont listen 2 me.my mom want 2 go 2 the club and i like staying home bymyself because i could blast 2 music all night long talk on the phone do whatever but the only problem is my dad.i dont like him anyway but 2day he got me real mad i wanted 2 ****** kick his *** but my mom wont tell him nothing but i dont know what 2 do!!!!!!!
2006-09-30 13:21:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he is really gonna get drunk 2day cuz he is watching da game n yes it is a everyday thing y do u think my mom divorced him!!!!
2006-09-30 13:30:05 · update #1
he has been drinking since b4 i was even born....ma life is so ****** up...my mom wont talk 2 him i try 2 talk 2 him but we start arguing
2006-09-30 13:34:25 · update #2
Well as an adult child of alcoholic parents I can relate 150%. First of all your mom needs to step up to the bat and be just that. A MOM. It's her home and she needs to tell your father not to be there when he is drinking - period. It's not healthy for you to deal with this and it's emotional abuse you'll carry with you for a while if it's not dealt with now. Your mom doesn't seem to responsible in this matter - I suggest you talking to someone close to you, another adult to see if they can help you discuss this matter with your mom where she'll listen. If the problem continues I'd speak to a counselor at school. (Im assuming you're under 18) The main thing I would do is suggest you to LEAVE the house when he is there. Don't be around it. AT ALL. AT ANY COST.
I am 30 years old... I grew up in that situation and know how it feels. This past summer I finally told my dad there was absolutely NO DRINKING in my home and if he was drinking that he wasn't welcomed. It took me THIS LONG to put my foot down. Alcoholism causes codependency and emotional ties. You feel obligated to babysit and you are controlled in ways that you'd never ever realize. REALIZE THIS NOW ok.
I'll be praying for you.
2006-09-30 14:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by skevans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is your dad its not like he does that every day give him a break! you will need of him one day so just let this one time slide i guess next time don't let him drink so much! also you could take him home you wouldn't want him driving home like that! so eather you drive him home or let him stay this one time!
Oh another thing do your self a favor don't use the fact that he has screwed up to ****** up your life to!and if you are going to use it use it but to get back at him show him what you can do for you and your mom with out his help!
2006-09-30 13:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by Hot Isabel! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,you know he probably drinks because he has a hard time dealing with losing your mom and his son.You know you need to give the poor guy a break he is only human just as you are and you may find yourself in your dad's spot one day.I know because I have had my life transformed into those slobs lives I was always so much better than.And I got to view the situation from their perspective and believe me it sucks.Take Care.
2006-09-30 13:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a serious talk with your mom. Tell her how you feel, and how it is upsetting you, how your dad gets drunk all the time. and that it is affecting you. Ask her how can we work this out.
Now you need to not let your father upset you so, also see if when he is sober, you ask him to lets have a talk, and tell him, that his drinking really upsets you. and that you would like to have a better relationship with him, but he gets out of hand when he drinks. Say, can we work this out?
2006-09-30 13:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was you i would call 911 & let them know how scared you are of your dad that you are afraid that he may become abusive when he drinks. you are afraid for your mother & your self when he drinks he becomes this monster inside that horifys you & your mother this is why your mother never steps in & says a thing to your dad. just let the cops know that you & your mother does not want him in the house if hes going to continue on drinking. if you have to i would tell a few white lies just to get him out of the house but your mother needs to agree with you 100% so she can cover your butt. if this happens make sure your mother puts a restraining order out on him. my father was bootlegging in our home when we were just kids i have seen many things as i was growing up things that kids should never have seen in real time. i know what i am talking about get that no good father of yours out of your house before things become way worse. he can really become abusive toward you & your mother. [good luck]
2006-09-30 13:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by sylvia_1959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,when there's people i don't like i just lock myself at my room and i don't get out until somebody comes... I think you can give him a chance and when he leaves tell your mom what you think about him...
2006-09-30 13:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by mayelaine2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay inside your room. Turn on the stereo real loud.
2006-09-30 13:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess it is your mother's choice but if i were you i'd make sure he never came around your mom or you again if you know what i mean.
2006-09-30 13:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by demonswt88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well go to a friend house
2006-09-30 13:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to your room and don't come out until he leaves, sorry I couldn't be more help.......
2006-09-30 13:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋