My DR. says i am to far along but this thing is ruining my body. i was taking birth control and was sure to take it eveyday. My dr. says that it is only like 98.5% protection. Please help. I am really pist i found a little stretch mark on my stomach this morning. Damn i and heated!
2006-09-30 13:20:57 · 40 answers · asked by jenny S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Not that I agree with abortion, but why didn't you do it earlier? I think you might be acting selfish just because of your body. Crap happens, deal with it. Workout, and eat healthy, and breastfeed, and your body should go back to normal fairly easy. Maybe things happen for a reason. That baby needs you now, so get used to it.
2006-09-30 13:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by Caelan's mom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off how could you say "this thing"? Have some respect for life. Anyways, get over it. You body isn't the "be all end all" of the universe! I just had a baby and before I was pregnant my body was "mint". I got a few stretch marks but they have faded so much that you can almost not see them and I had him in April. Trust me not everyone stays out of shape, I am almost back to my previous self and the only things I do are watch what I eat and walk. Don't go freaking out over this. Your body was meant to do this. You can't get an abortion at this point because the baby is very developed. I had an ultrasound at 21 weeks and my baby boy actually looked like a little guy! He was so well formed, it was amazing. Please reconsider the fact that this is a beautiful little human you are carrying. If you really begin to understand what you creating in your body you can start to appreciate all the things that happen to you along the way. I too was scared about how my body would end up. I always saw all these women, still in bad shape a long time after the birth, but it never happened to me. Just eat right, walk, and you will be fine. Don't get all stressed out and pissed over what you look like. You will still be beautiful, most people would say even more beautiful in pregnancy. Trust me you will be surprised how fast you will fall in love with the baby and never want to be apart from him/her!!!! Try and stay positive and work on staying healthy for the both of you. I hope this helped you at least a little bit. Keep your head up and don't worry, if you want your old body back that bad you will get it. :)
2006-09-30 13:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sexy_Bunny 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A termination at 16 weeks’ gestation may cost as much as $1100. At 19 weeks the cost can range from $1100 to $3000. Hope you pocket book isn't as empty as your head because there is reason number one.
Reason number two- 20 weeks - The child can hear and recognize mother's voice. Though still small and fragile, the baby is growing rapidly and could possibly survive if born at this stage. Fingernails and fingerprints appear. Sex organs are visible.
Reason number 3-
Salt Poisoning (Saline Injection):
Used after 16 weeks (four months) when enough fluid has accumulated. A long needle injects a strong salt solution through the mother's abdomen into the baby's sac. The baby swallows this fluid and is poisoned by it. It also acts as a corrosive, burning off the outer layer of skin. It normally takes somewhat over an hour for the baby to die from this. Within 24 hours, labor will usually set in and the mother will give birth to a dead or dying baby. (There have been many cases of these babies being born alive. They are usually left unattended to die. However, a few have survived and later been adopted.)
You are a sick, selfish person. For the sake of the innocent baby in you give it up for adoption. Maybe you can get enough medical expense money to cover a tummy tuck- or get the therapy you so obviously need
2006-09-30 13:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am going to try and be nice but, You are being very selfish. Not to mention that this is a sin in the eyes of God. I have 4 wounderful children and could never image my life with out them. The love you feel after the baby is born is like no other. There is a cream for streath marks called Mothers Friend that works really well. You should relize that there is a living human inside of you with a heart that is beating. It is moving and playing. If you dont want the child then give it up after its born. How much respect do you think anyone will ever have for you if you have an abortion because of some stretch marks. I cant even believe you would kill a baby because of your body. Your parents loved you enough to let you be born maybe you should do the same for this precious one. Have you ever considered that maybe God gave you this little one for a reason? My friend got pregnant once from her boyfriend and had the baby aborted. A little while later, her boyfriend died in a car accident. I looked at that as God gave her a piece of him because he knew he would die but , she aborted the baby. Hard thing to live with. Please email me if you need somemore advice. Fourkids7431@earthlink.net
2006-09-30 13:29:27 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're being serious, which I doubt you are (hope you aren't, anyway, lol), then you should chill out a bit. Pregnancy does change your body, but there's nothing saying you can't go back to having a killer body once you've had the baby. Celebrities do it all the time. If you regulate your diet, you can prevent stretch marks from happening as much. I also read that they change in color once you've had the baby, so they'll be less noticeable. If your doctor says you're too far along to terminate your pregnancy, then you're too far along to terminate your pregnancy. No amount of uniformed OPINIONS from strangers on the Internet will change that. There's always adoption. It doesn't sound like you're fit to be a mother anyway.
2006-09-30 14:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the person who said you have got to be the most selfish person in the world. And why in the heck would you let people know you feel that way? Did you think people would really agree with you. I'm 20 weeks along myself, I can feel my baby move, kick, I can hear the heart beat and I've seen ultrasound pictures. How can you think a stretch mark is more important than that little helpless child who did not ask for their moma to spread her legs. I'm sorry if I sound harsh but damn. I cried with my first pregnancy when I saw my stretch marks but I didn't blame the baby and I got over it. It's part of nature and it comes with the territory. You are way to selfish to be a parent. You cannot get an abortion but do, by all means put that baby up for adoption that baby deserves a loving parent and you are not.
2006-09-30 13:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you stupid?
Yes it is against the law to have an abortion because babies can actually live outside the womb at 21 weeks, although it is unlikely they will sruvive it is possible.
Your baby is kicking now and has a very strong heartbeat , how can you be so selfish??? Thier is stuff you can use like coco butter and other ****, I got some little stretch marks on me as well but after using coco butter several times a day they went away and here is also something to think about, you can have freaking surgery, it really is not that exspensive.
If you did not want stretch marks your idiot *** should of thought about that before getting pregnant and DUH everyone knows that BC can ******* fail, thats how I got ******* pregnant, doctors always ******* tell you to use BC and a condom because BC can fail and condoms can break so using both makes it basically impossible to get pregnant
2006-09-30 14:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel sorry for your baby. That child did not ask to be put inside YOUR body. You knew what you were doing when you made this child.
Don't get upset because" this" thing is ruining your body. It's only a few stretch marks, that time will heal. Oh, by the way....GROW UP You have a child to look after...not if your body has a little stretch mark on it.
2006-09-30 13:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just think about the child growing inside you, how pathetic that the words you are speaking your child can hear !!! Maybe you should have kept your legs CLOSED if you are not willing to deal with the possibility and the responsibilty of becoming pregnant, regardless as to birth control pills. Nothing is 100%,only abstinence. Why dont you talk to your mom, see what she has to say, or a priest,or a woman who is heartbroken that she may never have a child of her own! ?
Stop being so selfish and become selfless! If you do not want the child, adoption is the only way now. Please remember that everything comes back to you one day, it is called Karma. I will pray for you and your child. I hope you "get it" before you make the wrong decision.
Good luck !
2006-09-30 13:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by Michele S 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You do realise that it is against the law and you can go to jail for killing an unborn child ......... do you realise your baby hears everything you say, that his or her heart beats ............... this is what your baby is doing now.. and you want to murder it? You are a very selfish woman who needs a good slap and to grow up! What are a few stretch marks compared to a beautiful human life that already has a personality growing in yoru womb. If your that VAIN which I believe you are then may I suggest you actually use a cream to help your skin stretch rather than be a silly cow who is selfish
2006-09-30 14:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by silverthorn73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so concerned with stretch marks? Are you a nude model? I was in my 20's, a model and had the most beautiful body but I had to have my gall bladder removed - with a long incision. Sometimes things happen in life that you may not like, but you should weigh what you feel is really important and what won't matter in the long run. My scar faded but not as much as your stretch marks will. But will the knowledge that you terminated a baby fade as much as your stretch marks. Once you see your babies face, you will see it's worth a million stretch marks.
2006-09-30 13:32:58 · answer #11 · answered by Lioness 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋