I have seen in many relationships, mine and others, that as time passes it seems that the romance,thoughtfulness,sacrifice, and general respect between people begins to falter. Is this normal, or not? Is it just a natural progression in a relationship?
2006-09-30 12:46:36 · 14 answers · asked by Diana 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Like anything else, relationships require work and practice. People also change with their experiences.
If you are comfortable in a relationship, you begin to take things for granted. Keep it up, and you wake up next to someone you don't recognize anymore. You have had 3 different jobs, changed your taste in music, and gone through teh death of a loved one. He has travelled around the world, joined two organizations, and begun coaching the kids in soccer. none of that was done "together" and yet those experiences altered who the two of you were.
Poeple also get complacent. many find the job they started 6 years ago to be boring and non-challenging. So they look for a new one. Sometimes, when you know everything about someone, the interest suddenly dies away. You begin thinking about what's next.
To stay in a relationship, you have to be in it, work in it, and change it up every now and then (get tattoos, take a cruise to a foreign land, learn a new language, skydive, role play, buy some adult toys and do something new in the bedroom).
We are in the attention deficit, multi-tasking world of technology. It has shaped more than just our means of living.
2006-09-30 13:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by jumping_in_101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not a natural progression. I just think that people begin to take one another for granted. Relationships aren't supposed to remain the same, and they're not always going to be the hot and heavy days they were in the beginning. If they're treated well, relationships evolve and age well over time.
2006-09-30 19:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal to an extent. Every now and then you gotta find a way to renew the fire if you know what I mean. Like a romantic get a way and so on. We tend to get lost in our lives and in routine and forget the things that really are important. So sometimes we need to get away from all those distractions and get the fire burning again. The passion slowly draining away is normal but it's what you decide to do to get it back that counts. Some people just give up.
2006-09-30 19:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I meet a woman who I thought was the perfect woamn I had ever meet. I wanted to marry her!! After only 8 months of dating she decided to continute to date me while having another affair with another man. And lied so bad about the whole thing. This is a perosn who is 56 yrs old. Why should woman play games like that??? Why can't they just be truthful and how they really feal? They rip your heart out and then threathen you to leave them alone when your so now your so confused as to how this all happened. So I day what your mate make sure if you have a gut feeling about something that you may not like about them make sure he or she knows about it quickly. This way maybe you won't have to be so sorry about what took place with me. I can't stand how she did me in. Let me just say one thing that will Never, ever let that happen to me again. COUNT ON IT !!
2006-09-30 20:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by Joe R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is true, but the thing is if you want to be with this person you have to do things to make the relationship spice back up.
When you've been with someone for a long period of time you tend to get comfortable and you don't do the things you once did in the beginning.
It would be a good thing if people can catch it before it happens.
2006-09-30 19:50:31 · answer #5 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i do not know much about other parts of the world,,
but as far as i know,,, the answer is a very very big NO..
u shud probaly visit a family that is been together for a long time,,then you will understnd about the family values, and the responsibilities that a family member shud have,,,
visit India,, visit Pakistan,, you will know what a real family is,,
2006-09-30 19:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by kriss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only think it is normal in a bad relationship. That is all the stuff that keeps a good one good.
2006-09-30 19:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by Keri B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my hubby and I have been married for 18 yrs we are 38 lol and date 5 yrs before we got married. Just try to stay good playmates and its okay to be inmuture and silly with each other. and don't alway expect the other person to make things fun and exciting.. think of ways to do it yourself and he will love it.
2006-09-30 20:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by Pat B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends age.Grades 1-10 most likely
2006-09-30 19:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by coolboyroy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think does happen to every relationship until you find that one person that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
2006-09-30 19:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by booyah-baby 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋