is it wrong to not want kids or marriage?

Question

im 24, happily in love but i hate children can never get broody and i can't stand weddings!!! i think its all a waste of time and its only what peolple think every one shud do!!!
i always feel ill b quite happy growing old on my own!!!
is it normal?????
cos i feel quite normal and quite happy wit my decision!

Answer 1

Nope!

I am in my early forties. I have never been married, nor do I have children and I LOVE IT!!!! I'm FREE!!

But what works for me may not works for others. So to each his/her own.

Answer 2

Of course is normal. That is what you desire and makes you happy. No need to be concern with what others say. This is your life. Think about it this way how many people have gotten married and had children and now they regret it. Being married is 50-50, you have to do things the way one or the other says. Not being married gives you the freedom to just rely on what you, and you alone wants to do. No discussion about it necessary. And the part of having children is a tremendous responsibility, that one everyone can cope with, look at how many mothers and boyfriends kill their children. To me I think you are making the right decision for yourself. Stick to it. Don't let anyone make you feel less for not wanting things that you don't want.
May God bless you and let you keep the happy life you now have.

Answer 3

No, it is not wrong to not want marriage or kids. You are perfectly normal. You're only 24 yrs. old. What's the rush? I'm young and I'm in a serious relationship, but I'm in no rush to jump into marriage and kids, my boyfriend isn't neither, because he's young also. However, you may change your mind when you get a little older. I have a close friend that had always said he's not really ready for marriage and he's 32 yrs. old, but he won't rule it out neither. His whole predicament though is, he's a professional baseball player, and he doesn't want to end up with someone that will only want him for his money. But like I said, you may change your mind as you get a little more older and maturer. Because you're 24 yrs. old, you're enjoying your freedom. You need to find out what's right for you. Be sure though, the relationships that you may be in understand where you're coming from. She may want kids and marriage and you won't. As long as you're happy and healthy that's all that matters.

Answer 4

I have a few friends that do not want children, or want to get married. They are very happy being alone. There are a lot of people like that. So yes you are normal. I in fact like my solitude (even more now) but I also enjoy having my children (they make me smile). But while I do not agree that a big wedding is the way to go an elopement is better because you are able to have as many or as few as you want on very little notice.

Answer 5

You don't want marriage or kids? Then don't do it. And what do you mean by "normal"? Average? Usual? Normal is a range, not a spot. It's a good thing most people want to marry and have kids, because otherwise the species would die out, but, at the moment, humanity is in no danger whatsoever from low population numbers. Kids have a right to be really wanted, and those of us who don't want them would be engaging in child abuse to have unwanted ones just because it's expected.

Answer 6

Of course it's not wrong - we're not ants, we were put on this planet to do more than just live, multiply, and die. At least I hope we were - intellectually, we're more capable than that. Your life is yours - use it as creatively and enjoyably as you can and don't let social engineering push you into any roles you're unhappy with.

I've never, ever wanted kids - don't know why, but the thought's just never appealed (I'm a thirty-year-old man BTW). Always wanted to be married, though, even when I was fifteen or sixteen - now that IS a bit weird!!!

Answer 7

You'll probably change your mind when you get older and hopefully time won't run out for you. It's a wise person who knows what they want and especially what they don't want. I only wish more people would take the time to have a life before they marry and have kids and maybe there'd be fewer abused kids and divorces. As long as you have friends you should be able to have a happy life. Don't let your family guilt-trip you into doing anything you aren't ready for.

Answer 8

If you are happy that is what matters. You dont HAVE to get married and have children just because its what other people do. HOWEVER, you are only 24 and you may change your mind after a few years. But for now enjoy the life you have!!!

Answer 9

I feel the same way. A real love is more than just a piece of paper. Children should only be brought into the world when there are caring people who can enjoy them. Not as a desperate attempt at immortality

Answer 10

Sigh. There ain't no critter called 'Normal,' there is only 'averages,' and to have averages, you must have the other extremes of what you measure in order to get 'an average.' See.

To answer the Question:.........

There are no absolutes, there are few (if any!) Rights or Wrongs. Instead, there is only what you feel and what you want in / from that thing called Life.

Ignore others who tell you ....'You shouldn't feel like that' (when in fact - You Do Feel Like That) ...or try to tell you any other form of the same thing.

[ We, incidentally, get the ''2.4 children'' from the arithmetical sums to obtain 'that average' number which gets quoted for Family's. ]

Take care,
Sash.

Answer 11

No, it's not wrong not to have kids or want to get married! You can just have fun and play with all the guys you want and never have to worry about commitment because you've made your decision not to marry. Friends are the next thing from family, so the more you have the better! And have fun!