The man I am dating has gone to rehab for his addiction and he promised to me that he would do it before he left, the last I saw him he gave me a kiss and if I wanted to know about him to call his mom. I have. I was wondering what people thought that when he gets out will he change his feelings for me or not. He is bettering himself and I was not the cause of his addiction. I just want to know if his feeling will change towards me. Also In rehab are the patients only aloud to contact family members and spouses and see family members and spouses? Just wondering cause I'm just the girlfriend. Someone please advise me on this.
2006-09-30 11:48:04 · 10 answers · asked by cherokee83pride 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Patients in rehab can call anyone they please. And they really are the same person they were when they went in-they just see things differently. My son was in and out of rehabs always with the same girlfriend and the only thing that was different was they fought alot more, unfortunately as he was very crabby when he came out and she always knew when he wanted to get high again so good luck because she was always there for him i value her.
2006-09-30 11:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rules depend upon the rehab center; some do, some don't alow visitation by frieds.
Darling, you are right, you were not the source of his addiction, but it doesn't change the fact that he is an addict. The addicts I have known have averaged between 6-10 the number of rehab attempts before they were able to really get and stay clean! A few do it on first try, but relapse is the name of the game! It's what makes it a disease. it is a brain function.
If you choose to stay with him ( and he may be worth it) stand ready for a rough road ahead! it's not going to be pretty. Ask the wife of any addict! Go to Al Anon for answers.
2006-09-30 11:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to say yes because of my experience, but people are different. In my case, this guy wasn't really my boyfriend ; we just hooked up a couple of times. He was an alcoholic and after knowing him for a couple of months, he got sent off to rehab. I never visited him in person, because he couldn't have visitors, except family. We did write; however, when he did get out there was something different about him. It's hard to explain. Kinda like a missing link. Like he was trying to forget the past, me included!! Maybe we just didn't have what it took to connect. Your guy could be totally opposite!! Good-luck!!
2006-09-30 11:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by backwoodsredhead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart if he loves you he will he still love you when he get's out.i may be 19 years old but i know from experience what love is.because i've been through so many guys that hurt my heart in the end.specially my fiance.but i guess things happens for the best.and the new guy that i'm dating he's a sweetheart but i'm scared to jump into another relationship i really am.although i've known him for five years now i met him in highschool in Maryland and the first day of ninth grade i saw him.i had crushes on him to but we never dated because we had other people we were seeing until now.but if he loves you trully he will come back to you just keep in touch with his mother and good luck sweetheart ok.bye.
2006-09-30 11:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that have known that have come out of rehab seem to think that they are better than others that have not been there. I have bad luck with those relationships.
2006-09-30 11:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think rehab gives a person the opportunity to examine all parts of their life and what drove them to their destructive behavior. Kind of a downer, but I think all relationships are up for review.
2006-09-30 11:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. ARJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I,m in rehab and yes that person will not be the same , in some instances there better or they become total freeks , from were life does not exist . yet look in the bright side " it,s all good "
2006-09-30 11:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by jimmy r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will change.most of these places allow visiters after the first week.why not phone and ask you might also be able to phone him after last session of the day.remember the change will most likly be for the good.
2006-09-30 11:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-09-30 11:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE LOVES YOU FO SHO HE WILL LOVE YOU MORE FOR GETTING HELY....YADADIMEEN...GOOD LUCK BOO
2006-09-30 11:50:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋