I went to pick up my boyfriend today since he can't drive (DUI) and he needed to go to the store. i thought he was just getting cigs but he bought a 12 pack of beer, and i have a very important interview tomorrow and can't be up all night long with him while he's drunk and sarcastic. anyways that's not the problem. As i got him, i said "oh hun, your hair looks good!" and he said "It always looks good, and you got dog hair all over your back" I said " oh well no 'hi, how are you, i love you, nothing? just an insult?" told him to stop being lippy and that i would like to be complimented every once in a while. and yes, there's a dog in my house but the hair isn't even noticable! even my parents were like "what is he talking about, i don't see any hair on your shirt". i took him back to his house and told him i don't think we should hang out since he wants to drink and insult me and that i have to wake up early. now i feel like crap. should i just leave him there and stop worrying?
2006-09-30 11:38:16 · 18 answers · asked by Bitterly Sweet 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thank you everyone for being so supportive!
2006-09-30 11:46:09 · update #1
First of all you need to do whats best for you. Going home instead of spending the night with him so you can be ready and refresh for your job interview was a good idea.Drinking for your boyfriend has caused him a lot of problems(DUI) and possibly losing a good woman. He can accept a compliment but finds it hard to give one. In reading this question I cant see how you can be happy with this person(lippy) I am sure your parents noticed it as well. They dont say anything because they want you to see things for yourself. The more you tell someone that a person isnt good for you the more you want to be with that person but by seeing this for yourself is better. Leave him alone for a while so he can see how his life is without a personal driver. You took the time out of your day to help him and in return you were insulted you shouldnt feel like crap he should.
2006-09-30 11:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he not only has a problem with drinking but also with maturity. Do not call him or even think of him anymore. When he is ready he will contact you. Drinking is like poison for those who cannot control themselves and you and your relationship will be poisoned for the rest of your lives if this is not taken care of at this point. I suggest that you contact some of your friends and family and spend time with them instead. How about your career goals? Are you where you want to be or are you simply "hoping" to enjoy whatever he may bring to the relationship. Personal achievement brings not only money but also higher self esteem and purpose of being. If you have not attained your career goals, then you have no business having a boyfriend, specially the drunk type. I'm sure that your father would agree with me.
Mr. M on "was it wrong."
2006-09-30 11:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to leave him there forever and never go back. It does not sound like he is good for your esteem or good for you at all. He seems to have a alcohol problem since he has a DUI and still drinks. Girl there are other fish in the sea leave that dead fish alone.
2006-09-30 11:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by Katricia R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him off and kick him to the curve this is the only way to wake him up so he can see he had a nice girl but didnt no how 2 treat her and he will come back a changed man ,if you allow him 2 be like this 2 you ,than thats what you get
2006-09-30 11:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO!!!
you did the right thing by telling him you didnt want to hang out it sounds like you should just kick his *** to the curb altogether it seems like you are trying to do something positive with your life dont stick with this loser who just wants to drink all the time obvious he didnt learn his lesson with the dui and it doesnt seem like he even wants to change so i think you should leave his *** alone and find someone who will love and respect you and drop the disrespectful loser
2006-09-30 11:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY.
You should NOT feel like crap. You have a sick JERK for a bf. Cut it with him now, or regret it until you do.
Be prepared to get more abuse from him when you do.
Seek out Al Anon for the support you need. But CUT THIS JERK loose while you still can!
2006-09-30 11:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. He sounds like an ungrateful creepy drunk. You can and should do much better.
2006-09-30 11:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by bagoftwix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!!! Leave him there. Why would you want to be with him if he treats you like that? You deserve better sweetie! Find someone who worships you!
2006-09-30 11:42:30 · answer #8 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the loser you are enabling. Plus you are in an abusive relationship. Why do you put up with him?
2006-09-30 11:41:19 · answer #9 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him...and I wouldn't mind beating his a.ss for you either.
Women should not be treated in such a manner!
2006-09-30 11:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by Submit to her Feet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋