My bf of 2 years and his family have a close relationship. Since we met we have both lived at home so everytime we spend time together its at his house w/ his family. We got in that routine so hes rarely with my family. Ive spent so much time with his family I am close to them and I love them but sometimes I wish I didn't have to share him & that we could spend more days alone (we rarely go out places). He recently got his own place so I have been looking forward to more alone time with him. However they are over alot. He's 25 years old. I have dealt with these situations silently becuase I don't want to hurt his feelings or disrepsect his family. Today they were over again and i got annoyed so I tried to text my friend "his moms over again! she can't stay away!" but instead i text it to him. he's hurt and upset and MAD. i know it was immature to talk about his mom to my best friend. i should have just told him, now its too late. how bad of a girlfriend does that make me? what do i do?
2006-09-30 11:27:22 · 5 answers · asked by sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think that makes you a bad girlfriend. Just tell him the truth, that you'd like to see more of him alone sometimes. Throwing in a "I guess I'm a little jealous" in there will help too.
If he can't give you more devoted time of the 2 of you alone, then maybe he isn't the guy for you. You need to be cool with his family and time spent with them. What if you get married? BELIEVE me, when you have children it will be worse.
A friend of mine has 1 day a week that her and her husband are off work and home with their 1 yr old daughter- Sunday. Her in-laws are over EVERY week. Even if they say they'll be busy, they still drive from their house (45 min away) and knock on the door anyway. Her husband even told them where the spare key is!
2006-09-30 11:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing games and tell your boyfriend how you feel about his spending so much time with his parents. Frankly, I think if time with you was important to him, it wouldn't be an issue. Since it is, you need to consider the future of this relationship.
If you are willing to take 2nd place(and that will not change if you get married, don't even think it will), then apologize and tell him you are having a bad day. Then call his mom and invite her over.
2006-09-30 18:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beg for forgiveness. It doesn't make you a bad girlfriend...it makes you a backstabber in his eyes. :(
First explain everything to him how you just explained to us all here on Y!Answers. (Or heck, let him read it LOL) Let him know how much you do like his family BUT....you feel suffocated and left out about how little time you get with him. Apologize that you were sending that text to your best friend...but that you felt you had NO ONE else to talk to....because you didnt want to hurt him,
But then say how you realize that you hurt him anyway. :(
Good luck!
2006-09-30 18:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is tough but if you want to change this ok ask his mother for a heart to heart talk express your desires but please remember some familys are very much this way so you might have to live and let live.ask yourself am i jelous if the answer is yes then work on self.also ask him to go to your parent place with you for supper but of course ask you mom first.
2006-09-30 18:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by lcayote 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry a lot of ppl dont like their partners mother, its normal
2006-09-30 18:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋