I have been used, abused, manipulated and hurt by all the people in my life I choose to love. I try to give everyone a chance, and if I love a person, Im really good to them. I try to treat them how I would want to be treated but always end up feeling the pain. People use and manipulate me, sometimes I even feel like thats all I am here for, to make others feel loved and that they are good enough yet I never seem to feel this for myself because im manipulated like some pawn used and discarded for their enjoyment. Everyone I have ever known have used and manipulated others... Im beginning to feel theres no one left in the world who would actually treat me with respect and love. My mother and father abandoned me and no one really ever wanted me, my husband knows this but uses me as well. I just get my heart broken by those I love and taken advantage of? Do you think there are any other people out there like me who love others and dont try to use them for personal gain of some sort?
2006-09-30 11:07:13 · 19 answers · asked by beautifullybroken 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im not so sure anymore, I just want to know if there are people out there that are trying to be the best they can be without hurting others, Im sure they get used and discarded just like me :(
2006-09-30 11:08:33 · update #1
people dont judge other people by the way they look and if they do thats ridiculous, if your wondering why im asking this question check out the question on my husband that I just wrote
2006-09-30 11:12:33 · update #2
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoR.Y1ft3_tW.gtit8c7C17sy6IX?qid=20060930142659AAkbgaH
2006-09-30 11:14:50 · update #3
I know exactly what you mean and i have come to the same conclusion,but such is life,and if you wasnt a strong person then you couldn't have come this far.
2006-09-30 11:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there girl. there are more good than bad out there, trust me. For a long time i felt the same way you did and then I met My husband and realized that good people exist (by the way, if your husband is manipulating you then you need to re-evaluate your relationship). The best way to avoid being manipulated is to avoid naivete. If you're coy or naive, then people will see that. I'm guessing your self-esteem is at a low point, you need to get to know yourself so you can believe you're worth loving. You cannot change what has happened to you in the past but you can move forward from it as soon as you start telling yourself that the abandonment wasn't your fault and you can't control the actions of another person. eventually you'll meet someone who doesn't need you to make them feel loved but focuses on loving you just keep yourself open to it so it doesn't pass you by.
2006-09-30 18:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by duce 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are many people out there who only wish to be friendly. And most of them do get hurt at times.
Been there, and got hurt too....
My life turned for the better from the moment someone told me that I need to use the word "NO" more often.
It does not make you less nice or less friendly if you say "NO" when some one needs help or attention. You probably feel like being selfish when you do not help a person in need...... but you know what? Your friends will appreciate it when you choose to use some of your time and energy to do something nice for yourself.
If you spoil yourself at the hair dresser, other people can enjoy your new hair style too.......
Now, look into your mirror and practice all the different ways to say "NO" in a firm but friendly way!!
You are not alone!
2006-09-30 18:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by Endie vB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have really low self esteem and these people know how to use it. Practice saying no. and if you really dont want to do something. tell them. they are hurting you anyway. They may lash back but you would be right back doing for them again. Only you can break the pattern.
Answer" yes, there are still good people in the world, you are just looking at the wrong people. You need to stand back and observe people more. I think couseling might help you.
2006-09-30 18:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by reneem1954_2000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you are the major problem for yourself. You allow and invite such abuse. Every person will use others for their own personal reasons because it is being allowed. You need to develop more self esteem and self-worth. If you consider yourself to be so wasted, then like a used Kleenex, you be used and discarded. It is not how good or bad others are, it is about the invitation to be mis-used.
2006-09-30 18:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by Frank 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of nice people in the world. You should look into therapy to deal with your pessimistic outlook on life. It may be that you are attracted to losers due to the trauma you dealt with with your parents. Or maybe you're so hurt yourself that you don't treat those around you very well. Really, though, therapy is probably your best option.
2006-09-30 18:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by random6x7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I keep aking myself the same question, people react in different ways so you cant really tell whats on the inside, but there hopefully are left in this world. the same things happen 2 me, 4 example, i am in my school's volleyball team and so there is a team mate of mine who everyone seems 2 love her, she is nce 2 everyone but me, i dont know why, people say i am a nice person, i even complimeent her, and she doesnt care! like once we were runnig and she was getting tired, so i said, "come on, u can do it", and she said, i know, and started laughing!!! ayways, u are yourself, God knows you are a great person and sooner or later he will pay u 4 it, its o.k 2 be different, i am, and thats what i like about myself, u should like your persona because its unique and u r doing the right thing!!!
2006-09-30 18:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by volleyballMVP 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
(((sending a hug your way))) My advise is distance yourself as much as possible from those who are not worthy of your love and kindness. Lower your expectations of those who you can not distance yourself from and do not add any others to your list of contacts that are users. Yes - there are good people left you just have to be able to recognize the good from the bad and keep the bad out of your life. You can let people into your life or not the choice is yours.
2006-09-30 18:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No there aren't and even if ther are any good people left, they are soon abused and mistreated enough so they stop caring and being nice too as a defencive mechanism i suggest u do the same
I know I did the same thing
2006-09-30 18:11:12 · answer #9 · answered by virgodoll 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU SOUND LIKE YOUR A SENSITIVE, CHARMING, GIVING, TRUSTWORTHY PERSON, AND THE MORE YOU HELP THE MORE THEY STEP ALL OVER YOU. THERE ARE STILL SOME NICE PEOPLE OUT THERE, HAVE YOU TRIED CHURCH, THERE IS A LOT OF PEOPLE THAT ARE VERY NICE IN CHURCH. I'M TRULY SORRY THAT YOUR PARENTS ABANDONED YOU, I COULDN'T EVEN IMAGINE WHAT IT MUST BE LIKE, BUT HONEY I THINK THAT IT IS TIME TO STOP PLAYING THE NICE PERSON, AND STICK UP FOR YOUR SELF. MAY GOD BLESS YOU.
2006-09-30 18:18:17 · answer #10 · answered by tinkerbell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋