My ex would like to make certain of the legality of providing bedrooms to our girls. His girlfriend and he share a one bedroom apartment where she also has visitation rights to her daughter- not custody.
2006-09-30 11:01:16 · 9 answers · asked by sunny_72973 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ask a lawyer - advice and consultations are free - depends on your state, etc anyway
2006-09-30 11:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has no bedroom for the kid and is providing an immoral environment for the child (living with a man she is not married to and sleeping in the same bed with him, she has no right to have visitations. You could keep her from going based on that and when SHE has to get a lawyer to force you to give her the visitaions no judge in any state woould make her go.
I have a g/f and the dad has custody. On HER visitations he will refuse to let the girls go with mom, she calls the cops, and he says Are you going to arrest me? cops say NO and he puts the car and says OK I am going home then. She is forced to either get a lawyer (no money to do that)
or to wait till he is nice and lets them go.
She is not living with a man by the way. Non custodial parents are responsible for sleeping arrangements and for not acting like a ho when kids come visit.
2006-09-30 18:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by Hillary Dillary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That entirely depends upon their current means and goals. If they dont have the money to afford a two bedroom, what can you do?
If they are 'saving' money to afford a larger place or a house, then they would have to show the courts intent and the courts would consider the probability of it. They may, in that case, allow for the 1 bdm situation to continue, but set a future date to check on progress and integrity. When I separated from my ex, he leased a three bedroom house, utilizing one for himself, one for his roommate and the other as an office/gym equipt. I put up a stink about it cuz the kids were sleeping with him instead of having their own room. He fixed it quick because the courts wouldve have recognized his selfishness. Doesnt look good, uno.
Good luck. It's something to pursue.
2006-09-30 18:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went to this site, and so should you (I don't live in NY, but it's a good site):
https://newyorkchildsupport.com/non_custodial_parent_info.html
One thing you should understand, that in NY, as in most other states, Custody is separate from child support and living arrangements! For instance, your husband can't just say that he doesn' t need to provide bedrooms for your children, just because he doesn't have custody, any more than he can stop paying support for that reason. It's NOT a reason.
I would contact DCFS if you're concerned, but, IMO, your children should have proper sleeping arrangments WITH beds, in a safe, separate part of the house from where your ex and his gal sleep, etc.
This is true EVEN IN CASES involving kids who live w/both birth parents! My next door neighbor's neglect of his son (he preferred the daughter...hmmm!) consisted of making him sleep on the FLOOR, while the girl had a nice bed and her own room. (The mother was whacked....she just put up w/this!).
My son used to play w/them and when I found this out, I reported them. I soon found out that DSS (our Child Protective agency in MA) forced the bastard to give his poor son a real bed.
Anyway, check out that site...and best of luck to you!
2006-09-30 18:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order for any daughters related directly or not to visit overnight, your ex must provide seperate bedrooms for the girls, outside of the main bedroom. Now the girls can share a bedroom but must have one of their own or the courts could stop overnight visits if you complain about it. Its pretty much standard law across the US.
2006-09-30 18:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe there is any law on the books that says the noncustodial parent has to provide a bedroom for the kids during visitation. My boys usually took their sleeping bags to their dads.
2006-09-30 18:17:41 · answer #6 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why worry about it they are only there 2 nights anyway.and he probley can't afford a 2 b/r after child support. be thankful he's a part of they're lives. it's over get over it and don't put the kids in the middle of it, it's not there fault. they still need both parents in they're lives.
2006-09-30 18:37:06 · answer #7 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not a problem with that,obviously as that child gets older she will need her own space,i think you need to butt out of your ex life and dont try to look for a reason to cause trouble
2006-09-30 18:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes he does
2006-09-30 18:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋