Me and my wife met over a year and a half ago in california. I went out there several times to be with her and was there a week or two at a time. We got married in august of last year. I was living in NC and we had planned on me finding a job and a place for us to live there in california because I did not want her to leave her family and moving there the first of january. She also has a 4 year old daughter that lives with her. Well the times I was not there we would usually talk on messenger when she was not busy while at work and then talk on the phone 2 or so times a day for sometimes hours at a time. we never fought or argued or had any problems at all. But after i went there in january I found out she was cheating on me since the end of december. the guy she with does not care about her daughter and is always accusing her of being with someone else because she comes home to see her daughter. He is a real a$$hole. I just dont understand why she did this.
2006-09-30 10:33:57 · 9 answers · asked by diamonddave7676 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
But the guy she was with never knew she was married or anything. Her family does not understand why she did any of this cause they know I was always good to her and her daughter. I did anything I could for her and her daughter. I dont know if maybe se got scared about us finally being together for the rest of our lives or what. She even acts like she cares more about this guy then her own daughter cause she goes to him after work everyday and does not come home to her daughter until 11 or 12 at night and her daughter is sleeping then. She also dumps her daughter off on her dad every chance she can. If she does come home one day he calls her accusing her of being with someone else. when we firt talked she told me how she could not stand someone trying to control her but she does not even realize that is what he is doing.
2006-09-30 10:44:01 · update #1
she also wants to act like I have done something to her when I know that i never did anything wrong or bad to her or her daughter. I am just scared that this guy is going to hurt her physically or emotionally. maybe she deserves it but i dont think so.
2006-09-30 10:46:20 · update #2
Wow! I have no idea! I am confused, also.
Diamond Dave, huh? Fan of the real Van Halen, are you? I like their older stuff.
2006-09-30 16:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by Colleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes probably using the affair to cover her loneliness when youre not there, but its a cheap excuse to cover the fact that she has alot of growing up to do. Her inmaturity blames you for everything that happens to her or is causing her to do this. Youve done nothing wrong that I can read, but never the less youre the one who is getting screwed here. Unfortunately since her daughter is hers, theres nothing you can do for her. You might let child services know that shes in undesirable, possible hostile living conditions but the best you can do for her. File for immediate divorce and get out of this mess and as far away as you can from this woman. Shes a little girl playing a very dangerous game in an adult world and shes going to lose big time. Just make sure she doesnt take you down with her when she does. It sounds like she doesnt really care about what guy shes with just as long as its a guy, and she goes for all she can get from her "current" until he catches on and she moves on to another. Sorry, I wish I could tell you something better but its better to know now before you get in way too deep. Good luck
2006-09-30 11:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, you sure got yourself into a situation! If I were you, I would divorce her. She doesn't seem to care about you or her daughter. Why would you want to be with her at all? She has no respect for you otherwise why would she cheat. She is not the woman to spend the rest of your life with unless you want a really unhappy life.
It's your choice. Good luck to you!
2006-09-30 11:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but it sounds like to me, that you are the stupid one for knowing all this crap. Why are you still married to her. You need to move the hell on. Forget about the *****. Youre wasting your time carrying on with all of this.
It all makes you look rediculous. Think about it. Go back and read what you wrote.
2006-09-30 11:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cheated on you because she does not love or respect you. My advise is to get divorced and move on. You sound like a decent person and there are women out there who will love and respect you.
2006-09-30 11:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife sounds like she has alot of issues and sorry to say it sounds like she used you for something. You should truly consider that you may not know her at all and the person you thought you married isn't a good person at all. you may want to reconsider your relationship it sounds to me like she is a very selfish person and you deserve a lot better.
2006-09-30 10:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may have self esteem issues. i feel sorry for you and her daughter, but she really needs to get her own act together. if you want to stick with her, always be aware that she may cheat on you again.
Go to a family counselor for professional help.
2006-09-30 10:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by Leela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stacy is right.
? is being too harsh.
2006-09-30 11:25:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does anyone cheat..its heartless
2006-09-30 10:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by Liz M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋