i went out with the boys one night for a few beers and i met ths woman, and we got talking and we had so much in common, all we did was kiss and cuddle, and we arranged to meet a the football match next day, i was surprised she texted me and we was texting away, then she said i cannot lie its not me, and told me because of how much we had in common she could not tell me the night before that she was married, and if i wanted she would understand if i did not speak to her. however since then we have met on various amounts, and all we have done is kiss and cuddle it is getting to the stage where as we both feel this is developing more than an affair, however i really do like her and she feels the same about me, however she has now gone on a family holiday for two weeks, what should i do, she has a child and i have two children from a previous marriage.
2006-09-30 10:33:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we have only been seeing each other for two weeks but seems alot longer
2006-09-30 10:55:39 · update #1
i know everyone looks at affairs as a bad thing, in some cases it probably is. But is there a small chance that, some things happen for a reason, and maybe there is a chance it could work
2006-09-30 11:34:04 · update #2
i have questioned her aswell to if the point come to us having a relationship, would she leave me or see someone else behind my back, her answer was no because you make me happy, and so long as you can keep me happy then i would have no reason to cheat on you
2006-10-01 09:43:01 · update #3
WHAT DO I REALLY DO!!!! as i like her so much and her feelings are the same
2006-10-07 08:38:34 · update #4
these questions are always hard to answer.
sorry about this but........
no matter how many people you ask on this NO ONE at all will have the correct answer, they might have the one your looking for or they might hav the one that you end up actually doing but really they dont know how you and this woman feel toward eachother so they just cant tell you.
i would say, talk it over with this woman. however awkward it may be, ask her what she wants in this relationship and how much shes willing to risk.
also remember that you might have to take responsiblity for her child, are you ready? do you see your own children and/or get on well with them? you both need to consider everyones feelings here and decide what is best based on that.
its hard i know, but its not your fault. you could be soul mates for all i know so be careful.
time will tell if both of your actions were the right thing to do.
good luck, your gonna need it =)
2006-09-30 10:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP, what do you think your doing? are you completely out of your mind?
Have you not even like figured that this is a bad thing? You say she loves you but then she probably tells her hubby everyday the exact same thing.
And anyway, even if she did risk her marriage and get a divorce to be with you, do you honestly think you'll be able to trust her, knowing that she has already had an affair once, with you, do you really believe she isnt gunna do it again?
Think twice before taking this situation any further
2006-09-30 18:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space to contemplate. The fact that you met under the circumstance tells me she already had a problem. However, you may not be the answer - just happens to be the first answer that came along. If it turns out that that both decided that this is the way forward, first there is the legal process to follow through. Then there are the dependents to consider. This is a weighty problem and one not to be taken lightly. I suggest that you consult professionals like a marriage counselor or others more qualified than me.
2006-09-30 17:41:43 · answer #3 · answered by Tom Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT take this any further. Block her, stop texting her, DO NOT have an affair with her. She made a vow and is breaking it with you. What does that say about her 'not being able to lie'?
If she was honest, she would be getting a divorce. Move on honey.
2006-09-30 17:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. Tell her about all what you feel because you wouldnt want to continue a relationship with her when she loves her husband more than you. If she feels that she needs a partner to lean on apart from her husband let her know are there so that she can stop betraying her husband and focus on her life with you.
2006-09-30 17:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by Kiran urf msa sis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG Keep away mate, you are divorced so you know what it is like.
But do you think this woman would do it with someone else if you turned her away, sounds like she might. Women that have done it once will do it again. Just remember how much it cost you ! Do you really want to do that to another guy............
2006-09-30 18:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by iain xx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not worth it. She's obviously having some psychological detachments and using you. It may be fun for now but will only lead to trouble. Make sure she realizes you are not interested in sharing.
2006-09-30 17:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by nitemedic9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep away from her,end it now before it goes any further.If she wants a relationship with you then she should end it first with the husband,affairs can get so messy and nasty dont let it come to that.
2006-09-30 19:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wot about her husband? doesn`t he have any feelings? imagine how u`d feel if it was u being cheated on. leave it alone and find someone who`s single. another scenario is.....say she left her hubby for u, wot would stop her cheating on u? her child is also another one that will be hurt in the long run.
2006-10-01 11:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just walk away while you can, before you get in too deep.
she has to make a choice, her husband or you!
tell her you will give her 6 months to work out what she wants to do, then stay away!! xx
2006-09-30 17:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs Chicagosgirl!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋