Do you cry and throw a fit to get your own way?

Answer 1

yup and i get what i want 90% of time

Answer 2

Not since I was 2 years old.

What I *actually* do depends on the situation. Mostly I try to follow Ken Keyes's principles for Conscious Relationships, which involve recognizing the difference between an Attachment and a Preference--and working to be *attached* to as few of my requests as possible. This is a paraphrase: "Ask for 100% of what you want, but don't demand it. Don't be attached to getting it." Very little in my day-to-day life is worth throwing a fit about.

If I *am* attached to getting "my way" (for example, if I genuinely believe that it's the best option, or if it's just not negotiable--like, say, having a person not smoke in my presence), I will first try to be persuasive. Since it's been my experience that "you catch more flies with sugar than you do with vinegar," usually that would mean being nice, polite, etc. Beyond that, it's a matter of whether my reasoning is sound, and how good I am at figuring out what's getting in the way of the other person agreeing. Can I figure out a way for us to *both* get what we want?

If the other person just won't (or can't) do as or give me what I ask, and if the request in question is about something truly vital to me, I generally withdraw as much as possible from the person and/or situation.

Where I have a choice, I may decide not to continue interacting with that person. Anyone who insists on smoking around me isn't going to be able to be my friend for long.

Where I don't have a choice (say, I'm dealing with a co-worker and I'm not currently in a position to change jobs or stop interacting with this person), I try to change my expectations and/or my own behaviour.

If I'm not getting something I genuinely need (or strongly want) in a given situation or from a given person, I may also look to see whether there's some other way I can get it. In the previous situation, I might start looking for another job. Or, for example, say one friend doesn't like the kind of movies I like. Instead of battling about what kind of movie to see together, I may just figure out something else we can do together that we'll both enjoy--and either find another friend whose taste in movies more closely resembles mine, or go to the movies alone.

Answer 3

NEVER!!! I get my own way as ii am not asking for anything outrageous for one, two.....That is NOT any part of the way that I react ever. Should someone pull that on me, but if that happened, I would instantly walk away. Pitching a fit NEVER worked with me.

Answer 4

while I was known for throwing a fit of epic proportions when I was a child,now one carefully construed look from me will just about get the job done more often than not.

Answer 5

Nope

Answer 6

Probably when I was like 5 years old but now I just argue

Answer 7

No ~ for some reason I usually get my way.

Answer 8

No...that is childish and for the most part ineffective.

Answer 9

nope

Answer 10

Sometimes I do.