2006-09-30 10:00:44 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had an affair as I was seriously unhappy in my relationship and you can resist everything except temptation. The guilt did not sink in until I truly understood the pain and grief I would cause. I acted selfishly without thinking about the consequences and never have I been burdened with such guilt before in my life. Needless to say that I have learnt my lesson and will not stray ever again.
I came to the conclusion that it is so unfair to your other half and nothing can cause more heartache then to find a loved one in an others arms. The victim does not deserve to be hurt and love someone so utterly selfish.
2006-09-30 10:06:39 · answer #1 · answered by June 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you let yourself have an affair, you should feel stupid more so than guilty. Even if you are in a bad relationship, the person you have an affair with, probably has had past affairs and are not really into you as much as into the thrill of the whole thing.
2006-09-30 17:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by debrasu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
I have never had one and I never will. I understand what you have asked in that question, but why should you feel guilty about it? NO need to. You don't know if your partner had one before while he is been with you? or is having one? and I bet you, and I don't care what any one says, a man is a man! If men have the ocasion to flirt or have sex with another woman they will do it without thinking about their partner they will not look back or even think, they get the pleasure and they say: thanks,..... I enjoyed it.... They will never feel guilty.... and they will never tell anyone, unless if they are having a drink in the pub and then they will laugh about it... So Don't feel any guilt towards that action, i know men through out, they don't deserve a true love from us Women. we are too good to them and at the end they abuse our goodness to them, and they follow it by SORRY I DIDN'T MEAN IT, I STILL LOVE YOU.....
2006-10-01 03:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by gumtree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guilt is a wasted emotion. If you did have an affair and its over and you didn't get caught try not to dwell on it. whats the point of ruining what relationship you have left and hurting people unnecessarily, but on the other hand perhaps you relationship isn't worth saving and its time to move on. either way forget the guilt, it will only eat you up.
2006-10-01 04:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel guilty about it before you have the affair, it's just that you do it anyway, pushing the thoughts to one side. (I haven't had an affair myself, merely spoke to mates going through it).... We have hands, minds and the internet, how much variety does one person need?
2006-10-01 01:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by David W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I hurt someone who loved me, it hurt my kids, the lady I had the affair with, her husband and her kids, none of these people asked for the hurt they felt when this all blew up in our faces, if you are married get counseling, if you are in a committed relationship and cheating maybe it is time to try single life again.
2006-09-30 17:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, but have been cheated on and know how painful and horrible it was, I still suffer from it years later. It damaged my self esteem, my belief in people, my ability to trust and my overall personality, I used to be open, trusting and kind and happy and easy going, after my fiance's affair I became angry and moody and quick tempered, paranoid and bitter. Don't do it, it isn't fair to the people you hurt.
2006-09-30 18:10:37 · answer #7 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate 2 say it but yes i did. i was married and it was coming 2 the end. we were in different rooms and it was over. so i started seeing somebody else. i did feel guilty till i found out that in the three years we had been married he had cheated on me three times. so no i didn't in the end. i don't say it's a good thing it's not, however sometimes things happen. don't bet yourself up about it. if u love your partner u can tell and loss them or they may forgive or don't tell and they find out or don't tell and move on. at the end of the day its your choice.
2006-09-30 17:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by hatfieldnomi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Had affairs and never felt any guilt, they were just there for it. Unfortunately when you go with a woman it is just another act but the problem is with the women, they have the habit of falling in love with you.
2006-09-30 17:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by tucksie 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nope, but I've been seriously tempted and very close to it and felt bad enough about that... still do. I think that says pretty much everything about my chances of having an affair..... lol!
2006-09-30 17:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by Katie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋