Whenever I bring up an issue with my husband, for example: I ask him to clean up his dishes or wrappers and those of our 2 kids when he's walking back to the kitchen from the living room, just to help out. Well he usually gets upset and starts telling me I make him feel like he's not doing anything around the house ( which he doesn't) telling me how perfect I think I am, or why don't I just leave him alone, why am I bringing this up now (its never a good time with him) and etc, etc, etc.... So I ask him to tell me why I should be ok with leaving garbage around the house and not have him pick up after himself and show the kids a good example? Then I'm just a bi--- and I always want to argue, and he just won't talk, he just yells. I am not perfect, and just want an equal partnership. We've been together 11 years, don't say it, I've grown and matured and have dealt with my demons and need stability, mental that is, at this point in my life. Does he have an anger or emotional issue?
2006-09-30 09:58:03 · 9 answers · asked by Maybe 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
there is nothin wrong in wat ur askin him...he has to get off his *** and do somethin..If he goes off tellin u that ur a ***** kick his *** out ...take him to some anger management classes or kick his *** out
2006-09-30 10:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by *-*-DA QUEEN*-*- 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the issues he has go way beyond you asking him anything.
Maybe hes really not into you all that much anymore and feels trapped and this is how its coming out. Maybe I,m way off but he does have under lying issues that he needs to deal with.
I,m sorry that you and the children are living like this. Its not good for any of you.
Just think about what he is teaching those children about relationships. Oh they are picking it up and someday you will see his actions in them.
Its a hard place but if it can,t be fixed then you have some decisions to make.
2006-09-30 13:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by ~♥ L ♥~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a lot like my husband, who has issues and anger problems. If I won the lottery I would take the kids and leave. He refuses to see that there's a problem. I don't have any advise to offer you. My 9 yr old son always wants to help Me around the house and I make it a point to tell him how sweet and helpful he is in front of my husband. Of course he gets mad . Well, I've come to the conclusion that if he wants to spend the rest of his life miserable, unhappy and angry than that's his problem.. Me and the kids choose to be happy. Good luck.
2006-09-30 10:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by cranky_gut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's got pent up emotions that are surfacing as anger, seriously. There's something way bigger going on in him than just taking the stuff to the kitchen. You should see a counselor together.
2006-09-30 10:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you ordering him, or asking him. you can also praise any little thing he does do that helps around the house if he does..i know i know it sounds like you're treating him like a child, but some men react positively to this because we like positive feedback, rather than baited questions that lead to arguments :D
it also sounds like he's got some problems outside of the house, work or other stress he displaces it onto you.
2006-09-30 10:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by wightbringer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he thinks you are put on earth to serve him and you need to get out fast.
2006-09-30 12:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read about borderline personality disorder.
2006-09-30 10:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by irongrama 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think he has both. I am sorry you are living this way. No one deserves to be called names. Please get help for yourself and your children before it gets any worse.
2006-09-30 10:06:36 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-01-06 08:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋