my wife told me that she is not being satisfied in the bedroom. I am not very well endowed, and can't seem to give her what she needs with the equipment I have. She told me that she fantasizes about a mfm with me involved of course, but the other guy being a very well endowed stud. Maybe I should go for it. what should I do?
2006-09-30 09:51:57 · 39 answers · asked by Steve J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think you should go for it at all-maybe you should get another wife-or buy her a vibrator and offer to use it on her!
2006-09-30 09:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seek counseling. Your marriage is in trouble and you need to find out if this is a smoke screen for other problems. Her statement of not being satisfied is just the tip of the iceberg...there's more to it. Sounds like you love your wife very much to consider doing something out of character. A marriage is between the two of you and bringing anyone extra into the equation seems like an invitation for a very troubling experience for you. It's time to sit down and talk and understand what is really going on....there's usually a solution for everything, but you really need to get down to the bottom of what exactly the problem really is...I guarantee you it's not in the personal equipment department.
2006-09-30 10:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by justwondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should first try to fix the problem yourself, some new things in bed can help (toys, oils...), dirty talk is always useful. About the request on mfm, you should try it as last resort, OF COURSE, you have to be OK with the idea cuz you WILL FEEL bad at first, but then you'll be happy to know that shes satisfied
2006-09-30 09:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by Daniel A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 01:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you go for the mfm threesome... try other things. There are many other ways to please a women in the bedroom if you are not well endowed as you said... try using toys... that way you are still somewhat in control and she will have the size she needs without opening up the door to something you are not sure of
2006-09-30 09:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With things being rocky right now, I don't think it's a good idea. First, you need to solve the problem with the both of you, because bringing in anyone else will only create more problems. After that, I'd say it should be cool. I think it's a pretty crappy thing for her to tell you, but I guess you need advice on how to fix that, not on your marriage. I'd just go down on her a lot.
2006-09-30 10:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Don't! Not unless you are going to get satisfaction from him as well. Because it is her way of cheating without cheating because you're watching her cheat in front of you and watching another man please her. If you're not pleasing her, what are you going to do during these meetings, stand on the sidelines with pompoms cheering them on, cause you sure won't be in the game. Unless you're only an inch long in the ***** dept. then she is using it as a bad excuse to have her cake and eat it too. If you let it happen , she'll eventually find one guy ,with your help, who does it for her,and she'll leave you. Get some books on satisfying a woman, learn other methods besides the length of your penis to get her off, do it in unexpected places for excitement, use your imagination, tie a blindfold on her and while you're making out with her, say I'm going to put it in you , and insert a long thick dildo and start working it in and out while you suck her breasts and use the dildo on her while you insert first your finger, then your member into her backdoor, that way she gets what she wants and you can get off as well, and you'll seem bigger to her that way. If she really loves you ,she'd help you think of ways to please her, it sounds to me like boredom set in, and now she won't be happy just with you. But try spicing it up, before you ask if she's bored with you. She might be turned on more by your imagination and new wild ways, and forget another man.
2006-09-30 10:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by mainah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, that is certainly NOT the answer. Find out what she is lacking, and try to fulfill that need.... your being well endowed is not what she needs, I don't think. She might need more love and romance, or foreplay, but in my opinion, bringing another man in is only going to create MORE problems. Good Luck.....I know it hurts like crazy to be told that.....and you're a good husband for trying to solve this for her.
2006-09-30 09:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steve, either go with the fantasy (note, not really do it) and talk her through this while you are using your hands or whatever, or find other fantasies. Endowment does not equal fulfillment. Somehting else is going on, find out what it is. Good luck and have fun with the experiment!
2006-09-30 09:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the do have toy stores and they have things you can add to yours to make you larger. Have you all tried different positions to see if that will help. Maybe her being on top since she wld have more contrl. I think marriage in sacred between a man and a woman but I guess if that is wht you want.
2006-09-30 12:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by Katricia R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't satisfy her in the bedroom and you bring in a male who can what does she need you for anymore?
Can't and won't are two different words and in this situation you are saying you "won't" satisfy her. Size isn't all that counts as many have said so you have to try new things and bring your A game.
Make it your goal in life to please her in bed and I bet you can think of something you just have to take it seriously.
2006-09-30 10:08:00 · answer #11 · answered by se7en 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋