my husband is straight forward plain open minded personality. when i got maried we were nice to each other. but my parants insulted him alot in different occasions. but i could not understand his feelings. as those insults doubts are quite natural calm to be neglected easily. but things started serious turn when my family members took all his friends on their side by blaming him that he is not earning and having some affairs. i know these things are not true. i told him to neglect things as these matters went deeply into his head resulted panic and depression to his brain and mind. now he is unable to concentrate on his career. i am just spending my time cooly by my parants support. now i understand the situation. how to deal the situation. how can i make him to work without allowing my parants to disturb him. mainly bending of emotions like my parants use always hisfriends and relatives to scold him.since he does not how to control he react seriously to his friends lost relationshi
2006-09-30 09:32:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
when u got married u agreed for your husband to be your family it is your responsibility to protect him from your family just as it would be his to do for u concerning his family if there is no way to stop these things by talking to them and setting up rules of relationships between what is their business and what isn't than you need to get far away from these people they sound horrible
2006-09-30 22:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by shanadam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one deserves such treatment...If he's depressed get him to a doctor to ensure all is okay...tell your parents that they are creating a problem for your husband in his career and regardless what takes place with it, you aren't about to leave him even if that is what they want and expect to happen.
Further, tell them you are old enough to make your own decision and if they love you they will allow you to live as an adult and if anything should happen because of your decision, you will deal with it then.
Unless your husband is beating you, abusing you verbally, making threatening actions towards your family etc., your family has to step back and let you and your husband live your lives. The time for them to have objected to your marriage was well before it...not after the fact.
They have to learn to live with this and allow you to be the couple you are and make your own mistakes, successes and dreams/goals.
Good luck
2006-09-30 16:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I get from this question, is that you have allowed your parents to make the rules in your house. They have made your husband feel small and you tell him not to pay attention to it, now he cannot concentrate in his work. What you have to do is talk to your husband and let him know that now you have grown up a bit, and understand his feeling, tell him that from now on you will stand right by his side. Tell him you love him dearly and if you both need counseling, you will go with him.
You needed to stop your parents from abusing him, you are his wife now. Your first priority now is your husband not your mom and dad or anyone else. Reassure him and love him, he needs that right now. Disengage from your family and live for your marriage. With time and maybe counseling things can get better.
If you live with your parents or family members, move, it is time to make your own home.
Good luck with everything, God bless you both.
2006-09-30 16:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if two people are married ,i believe that their two are the family no one have the rights to interfere in their matters, nor from his or her side.normally women's have problem from in-laws but here the problem is from your parents so its your responsibility to stop your parent.just think what would have your husband done if his parent did this thing to you.respect your husband.he is your long time partner and move out from your parents.settle somewhere far away from them, if you believe your husband.let them know its your family
good luck.
2006-10-01 14:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by simplewife20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to resort back to being straight forward and tell everyone off including you then wipe his hands of all of you nuts.
2006-09-30 16:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you have done enough to to this poor man already. Go back to your parents as they never thought he was good enough for you to begin with
2006-09-30 16:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋