If you had the job offer of your life would you let anyone stand in your way?

Question

I have unofficially been offered a job. The pay is TWICE what I made at my last job and the guy that would be my boss is the kind of guy that would be understanding of sick kids...he really takes good care of the people that work for him too.

The BAD news is that it is about an hour and a half or more away from home. my husband says NO!!!! I think I really want this job regardless. This job would nearly double our household income. I feel that I may never get a job offer like this ever again if I dont take it. (It's one of those situations where it's more of WHO I know than WHAT I know, ya know?)

THE HUSBAND does not want me to take it due to the long drive.

What would you do...and if you wanted the job, what would you say to plead your case?

Answer 1

Tough situation, but to answer your first question: yes, I'd let some things stand in my way of accepting it. First, an hour and a half drive one-way is a killer... and I wouldn't personally consider a move because then my kids would be uprooted from their school and friends. This job SHOULD be double... it's adding three hours of drive time alone, not to mention the wear and tear on your vehicle. Figure about 45 cents per mile... then add it all up and really see how much you're REALLY earning every month... my bet is those extra "earnings" will go down the tubes with the expense you'll be incurring. And God only knows what gas prices will be a year or two down the road which could eat away at your earnings further. As for your husband, he sounds concerned about the drive... I wonder if he'll worry about you on the road and how many years you'll shorten his life.

Answer 2

If you took the job then you may have an unhappy husband, which adds future stress. Plus if anything goes wrong it could be blamed on you that you are not home or not home enough etc.which adds more issues. You must look at the long-term of this, the extra driving time makes your day about an 11 hour day not counting getting ready or unwinding. Will the extra time cause you to miss your kids plays or events? Relocating would be the easiest answer to your problem but not always the easiest done. Other factors go into to that, such as not knowing your childrens age, will relocating effect them leaving their friends? Does this mean your husband may have to find a new job in the relocation or even worse be unemployeed? Just the fact of moving is a huge pain in itself, then what if this job is not all what you thought? It can happen. I dont know your position at your old job but if you feel there would be a chance the new job would not work out, do you feel they would hire you back? If so, maybe cut a deal with your husband, and allow you to take the job and see how it works out. Giving it a fair amount of time you can both agree, if something is not working, it could be the household due to the job, the driving due to the job or the job itself you will quit. But IF it does work out and everyone is use to the pace, you THEN may think about relocating to make life eaiser, this way you are not making huge life changing choices that are hard to fix later.

Answer 3

First of all congrats! You should be very proud!
Second of all, ask your self this, if the money would not be as high, lets say the money would just be alittle more than what you make now, would you still want it? How is the environment? How are the benefits? How are the work hours? What else is important to you, lets say wellness programs or vacation time? Compare between what you have now and what you want to have. If you want to have everything the job offers, then I say take it! The commute is not the easiest but if you dont mind driving ( or taking other transportation ) go for it. You can always listen to music, books on tape while driving. Explain to your husband that you need his support most of all and I am sure then you will be 100 % sure about taking this job. Good LucK !!!!

Answer 4

Your husband has a valid argument- and so do you. If the job is going to pay twice what you made at your last job, and you feel that this a rare opportunity, the two of you should consider relocating to a residence closer to your new job. If this job ISN'T absolutely necessary to afford your family a more comfortable lifestyle, respect your husband's wishes, and stick with your current employer. Remember: Work to live. Don't live to work. A 1 1/2 hr. commute is a bit extreme (in my opinion)- unless your family's basic living needs depend on it. It's also a great idea to calculate how much of your projected income will go to weekly gas expenses- should your husband refuse to relocate.

Answer 5

Would your husband be willing to move a little closer to your office? If that's not an option, would your boss consider letting you telecommute two days out of the week? That would be ideal.

If you value your relationship, it might be best to consider these options first before offering an ultimatum. But in the end, it's your life and you have to make the decisions for yourself based upon your values and goals.

Answer 6

First of all your husband should be supporting you. If it is something you really want to do and you love to do then go for it. If he doesnt support you then there will be problems. Your not only doing this for you but for the family. There are a lot of factors to consider. A relationship especially a marriage there needs to be a support system form both side he needs to be willing to at least compromise and maybe move closer so that it is not so long of a drive.

Answer 7

Ask your husband that if your family moved, once you get the job, would he be willing to settle in a place that would be centered between where both of you work. Good Luck!

Answer 8

if your going to double your household income its worth the long drive home.extra money is always good. plus it seams like you really want this job, and if its gonna make you happy i say go for it.