2006-09-30 09:21:56 · 13 answers · asked by jlreds23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
With support she makes more than us and has a live in boyfriend who makes just as much. She is just greedy. She never cooks and eat every meal out. She should be using that money on the clothes
2006-09-30 09:55:53 · update #1
Husband just came home from son's foot ball game and ex pulled out a new razor phone. I think she could have used that money for clothes!
2006-09-30 12:01:43 · update #2
she also has the kids call us and say things like "we can't go to the movies because we have not gotten the child support'! (child support comes right out of my husbands check). she is a school phsyc. wow. I hope your kids are not in her divorce group.
2006-09-30 14:58:02 · update #3
My ex did the EXACT same thing to me. About every two months (or less) she was always hitting me up for extra $$$, said it was for shoes, underwear, etc...
Damn, how can a kid go through 6 - 8 pair of shoes and a ton of shorts a year? And at the money that I was forking out. No way. When I found out that she had scammed me on a doctor bill, I put my foot down.
I started making her provide receipts. And my-oh-my she threw a hissy fit over that one. I didn't give a flying fcku how mad she got, I told her "No receipts, no money."
And better yet, I told her that from now on I was only paying her half of the receipt amt. Suffice it to say, my monetary expenditures decreased... rapidly.
Remember a few years back when those huge-assed shotgun legged pants (that you could hide 2 people in) became all the rage? My son wanted them and she wanted ME to fork out the $$$. I told her that even 'I' didn't wear any $50-$60 pants. Her comment was "Well, I don't care what YOU wear, and Robbie (my boy) wants them." I unceremoniously told her to stick it in her @$$, I wasn't paying one damn dime. And my choice of words wasn't too kind, if you catch my drift.
Your husband needs to do the same. Put his foot down and stop being a Mr. Nice-guy. He needs to be a Mr. @$$hole!
2006-09-30 12:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ex should be using the child support money for necessities for the children. This includes clothes. It's sad when a parent tries to use children to get back at someone. Your husband might want to tell the ex that if she really needs more child support she should go the legal route. That might make her back off her demands. If she does go the legal way, she would have to prove that she really does need an increase. It sounds like she needs a lesson in budgeting, not an increase.
2006-09-30 10:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by Garfield 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support should cover this yes. Yet if the kids need something, why should they go without? If they need clothes, the the one paying child support could buy clothes, not just give out more money. Don't let the kids suffer over something so small as money.
2006-09-30 09:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by spunkyshell2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child support that your husband pays should be covering expenses like clothing as well as other needs of the child.
Some non-custodial parents are court ordered to provide clothing for the children at their home to be used during times of visitation. In those situations the custodial parent is not required to send clothing for visitation and the non-custodial parent is required to return the children in the clothing they came in.
As far as what the custodial parent buys themselves, that is none of the non-custodial parents business, period.
If the non-custodial parent feels that the children are being neglected and that the custodial parent is not providing necessities for the child, then the non-custodial parent should request a change of custody.
2006-10-03 05:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by MommyWommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely correct!!!! That is what support is for. When my step kids were younger, we were constantly getting calls from them stating that they needed something, and if they didn't get the money from their dad, they weren't going to get it. Back then, the amount of $ the ex was getting was quite substantial. It more than made her house payment as well as buying things that she wanted{not needed}. The girls would constantly be telling us of things that "mom" bought for herself. Stand up to the "EX" and tell her that your not going to give her the money. If the kids need clothes, you'll take them shopping, and buy what they need. Be sure to remove the tags and you keep the receipt, so there is no possibility of her returning them for the cash.
2006-09-30 09:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by bugoff26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the ***** to pound sand. The child support is precisely what things like that are suppose to take care of. Chances are, she is like most women. The child support check is nothing more then spending money for her and her wants.
If she pulls the nonsense of letting the kids go without what they need or lets them look like bums to get you to give in, simply turn the tables and make an anonymous report on her to child welfare.
2006-09-30 09:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's just wrong!! She's got big balls. I don't have a problem paying child support because I have an obligation to financially support my children.... but why is it not fair to have her audited every year or every month to show where the money goes? And why can't you get the courts to impose that.... it seems very fair?
2006-09-30 09:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 17:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is what child support is for yes but if your kids need clothes then take them clothes shopping but do not give you ex more money because that is what child support is for
2006-09-30 09:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by krystal s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are paying support that is what it is for.
Some ex's spend it all on themselves and the kids suffer. But what can you do it you just cannot afford to give more?
2006-09-30 09:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by Sunny And '74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋