One of my guy friends (that I have a crush on)... I have just found out last night that two girls from his town both had his babies/children (one is four years old and the other is one). he is not with them now and has never said anything about this I have just found out tonight and he acts like its no big deal and I slamed the door and ran out crying. He never came to find me and never cared, I just hung out with my other friends. I have the urge to call him a hoe-bag the next time I see him... but maybe I should just pretend I'm ok with it... I don't know what to do. if I should keep being his friend, or just forget about him.
2006-09-30 09:13:29 · 6 answers · asked by Sammy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no, I am not considering a relationship with him. I am just trying to move past this and be his friend
2006-09-30 09:27:53 · update #1
Just found out he was lieing to me and this was all a big "joke" between him and his friends
2006-10-01 06:34:22 · update #2
The facts that he didn't seem to care about those kids and also that he didn't care enough about you to see if you were okay are big indicators to me that he is not the kind of guy you should want to have a reationship with. Try to forget about him - or at least don't consider him dating material.
2006-09-30 09:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by applebetty34 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this definately complicates things, and makes having a relationship with him that much more difficult. You shouldn't pretend that you are perfectly fine with situation if you are not. Lying about how you feel won't help anything. This changes things, though. You definately have a right to re-evaluate how you feel (romantically) about him and decide if you still want to try and persue something other than friendship with him. I know that if I found out the guy I liked had two kids it would definately change how I feel about him. As far as the friendship side of your relationship goes, yes this does change how you see him but as a friend maybe you should give him another chance. I don't blame you if you don't want a romantic relationship with him anymore, but maybe walking away from a friendship because of this is you not really being a good friend. Yes you have a right to be upset, and yes this changes how you look at him, but if you are really his friend then maybe you can try and find a way to accept it and stay friends with him. And its ok if this changes things so much that you do not want to be his friend anymore; you just have to decide how much you want to be friends with him. Are you two friends because you have a crush on him or is there a real friendship with a good foundation there? If there is, then you will be able to get past it and find some way of accepting him.
2006-09-30 16:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by lemonlimeemt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't judge someone because of things that they have done in their past. He didn't lie to you and he didn't keep anything that was your business from you. You two aren't dating. What is the big deal that he has two kids? You don't stop being friends or liking someone because they have children.
2006-09-30 16:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do know how to pick winners, before you get a crush on some one find out a lot more than is he cute. You are what is called easy in the trade. You fall for any thing, and then ask the important questions. Foolish girl
2006-09-30 16:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's the worst kind of man. Consider yourself lucky and dump this fool.
2006-09-30 16:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY AWAY FROM HIM. Unless you like losers.
2006-09-30 16:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Karen ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋