Its mainly for chatting to women,theres no point in me going up to a woman if i have absolutely nothing to say.Plus i struggle to talk to friends as well,like i said most of the time my mind is blank and i have nothing to say.PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME,THIS IS MY BIGGEST PROBLEM IN LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-30 08:49:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Words & Wordplay
Just talk about whatever you like or is interesting to you, as that will make it easier for you to come up with some conversation.
Talk about a movie or a TV show or a book you've read -- just everyday things like that. Just be sincere, that always comes through and people (esp. women) appreciate it. You can even be honest about your shyness or lack of ability re small talk.
2006-09-30 08:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by I ♥ AUG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy solution and you are already there. The secret to being a great conversationalist is to be a good listener. Believe me, it doesn't take much. Just ask a few questions and get the other person talking about themselves, their job, their kids, their hobbies, their future plans, what they would do if they won the lottery, etc.
Example:
1.) What would be the first thing you'd do if you won the lottery? (Ans: "Really? Wow, that's interesting. Then what?")
2.) How much would you need to win to never work again? What about half that?
3.) Would you quit? How would you quit?
4.) Would you travel? Where?
5.) Would you move? Where? Why?
And then just follow the conversation from there.
And practice. The more you do this, the better you'll get.
2006-09-30 08:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by TheSlayor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check your local library (or your favourite online bookseller) for a book called "Great Connections: Small Talk and Networking for Businesspeople" by Anne Baber and Lucy Waymon. Ignore the "for Businesspeople" part of the book's subtitle. It's useful for the non-business world as well. I have taught seminars in networking, and it's one of the best books I've ever read about getting comfortable with small talk.
Two other excellent books are "Conquering Shyness," by Jonathan Cheek, and "Conversationally Speaking: Tested New Ways to Increase Your Personal and Social Effectiveness," by Alan Garner.
It won't happen overnight, but if you work at it, you can become more comfortable participating in conversations.
If shyness continues to paralyze you and have such a negative effect on your social life and self-esteem, consider seeking professional help. A good counsellor can help you learn how to overcome it. These are learnable skills.
2006-09-30 09:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by tink_mcd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, dont worry. I had a similar problem when i was young. Ermm, i would say just be natural and speak from the heart. If you are trying to approach women, then compliments work a treat. Ask them about where they purchased their top, and just go on from there. someone previously said that to be a good conversationalist you must be a great listener...that is very true. But the best advice i can give to you, relax and enjoy the situation. dont own it. just let it be... goodluck.
2006-10-01 01:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would relax a little. Talk about current affairs or celebs...all you have to do is buy a few girlie mags and you'll soon be up to date with a bit of interesting showbiz gossip. Also just say to the lady in question that you would like to know all about her and take it from there.
All the best!!!
2006-09-30 08:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by IloveMarmite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Small talk is something that two people are needed for! You need to approach a woman ask a question, then continue the conversation, which will develop into small talk.
2006-09-30 08:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-12 03:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
best way to commence with small talk when conversing with women is to listen to what they are saying and reply as and when necessary with the odd smile, show that you are interested...it goes a lot further than the usual cr...ap... that some men class as small talk...being a good listener will endear you to the opposite sex...also they feel safe and not under any pressure.
2006-09-30 09:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by Sunseaandair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well me being in that situation 3 years ago I always came up saying ".....Hi....." or "hows it going?" or "what you up to?" or something like talking to the friends of the person and have them help you out. I did all of that and i got a lot of friends that way.
2006-09-30 08:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by ivan j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try news topics , football games and stuff. if ur talking to women pay them complements and ask lots of qs. but dont be cheeky as a conversation opener. only slappers like that
2006-09-30 08:53:12 · answer #10 · answered by Belosnezhka (aka Gex) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋