anyone here have a monster-in-law???

Question

if you do tell your story

my monster is jelouse and thinks my husband spends to much money on me and thinks he should be giving her money. its our freakin money!!! none of her beezwax!!!!!

Answer 1

I am thankful mine is just the opposite. Just had to borrow money from her (and it grieves me to no end) and she sent the check without complaining. Generally speaking, she stays out of my wife and my arguments, and, when she has been brought in, she doesn't automatically take my wife's side, just because she's her daughter.

Answer 2

Been there and done that. She and I did not like each other pretty quickly after we met. My family was more 'comfortable' than she was and she automatically expected me to be a snobby *****. It went down hill from there. I avoided seeing her as much as possible. When I had to ,holidays etc., I was always polite and counted the minutes till we left. My husband was aware of course but I did not want him to have to choose a side. He had a stepmother who lived very close to us and she and I loved each other. She was a simple country girl who was such a wonderful woman. After my divorce, Helen and I communicated until she passed away a couple of years later.

Don't make a big deal and makes things uncomfortable for your husband. Your husband will have to handle his mother. Good luck,you are going to need it.

Answer 3

Girl, yes i do----just look at the 4 resolved posts i have made about my fiance and his controlling mother---it is making my life unbearable------i hate her so much-she is beyond monster in law! Good luck, and to tell you the truth, it might start driving you 2 apart, depending on if he is willing to stand up to her---my fiance won't--he cant stand up to his parents, especially his mom, and already admits she is his best friend, was his best friend growing up because he had no friends, and also he constantly compares me to her and how i will never be as good as her and i can't do anything like her and how she can never do any wrong-he even said if she did not like me, he would dump me, not that it was something wrong with me, but that he would not be able to deal with her cruelty to him if he kept me, so i would have to go--i told him in that case, i will not make a mama's boy choose between a fiancee and a mother---there is no comparison, but at some point i thought a man was supposed to move on, but maybe i am wrong in this---so far he is proving me wrong----there is just something so dysfunctional about the relationship with him and his mother, and i can see where this has stopped him from having girlfriends in the past--they know they dont stand a chance--and his mother knows how to push my buttons and she is evil and manipulating and loud and disgusting and spoiled and thinks i have a problem when i don't like what she does---she is so rude and crude it is embarassing to do anything with her, and honestly, it is driving my fiance and i apart--she rips into me and he says to let it go, when i am talking rude, mean ,personal attacks and insults that she comes up with------i told him that mother in laws can ruin relationships and even marriages, and i told him i was worried she might ruin ours, if we even get that far! I don't know girl, just let her know that it is not her business what the hell you do and since you are married, your husband should definately stand up for you , no questions asked!

Answer 4

Same here. My inlaws moved to Texas to live next door to us when they found out we were living together (before we got maried). They are always at our house, they don't like us being alone. Same with the money too. She gets mad when he says something about paying my car payment. But it's not like he doesn't get my paychecks too. We share our money,..... Noone will ever be good enough for a mothers son.....

Answer 5

Oh Man you can't win . A monster-in-law is the worst. Unless you have a Monster-step- child. I wish you luck . Wish me the same. LOL

Answer 6

What your husband spends on you is your business. As long as she is not going short, then she should butt out, and maybe your husband should tell her to stop interfering. Put a stop to it now, and who knows maybe you could end up having a good relationship.

Answer 7

tell the in law to pound sand. i told mine to F off and never had a problem after that

Answer 8

true! i don't have one but i do remember a lady that was like that always takin in charge and jeoulus cause he gave his wife the money ! [e-mail]

Answer 9

i once had to smite a dragon to save middle earth from the evil forces of gorgon

Answer 10

been there, done that. i cut the cord with my ex and lost ties with the monster. great two-fer!!!