My husbands ex wife got remarried to a policeman. After a year we received this letter asking for the new husband to adopt the daughter who was 8 years old. Reason being to get her on medical aid, and so that she didnt feel different having a different surname and lots more. After 6 months my husband agreed, on condition that anything happen to her, the daughter comes back to him, and that he still had access and visitation. To which she agreed of course. As soon as it was through, that was it, and the rules changed and the attitude. What can my husband do? Can this be reversed? He misses her.
2006-09-30 08:37:49 · 17 answers · asked by Vonnie S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He never should have given up custody of his daughter because to the courts he is no longer a parent.... as harsh as it seems I do not think there is much you can do other than try to work something out on a personal level. As far as the medical insurance and that being a reason why, so she can get covered.. does not sound right. I know all states have different laws etc, but as long as the ex is the wife of the insured her dependents should be able to put onto the policy... The only way to be sure is to seek legal advice from a family attorney... GOOD LUCK
2006-09-30 08:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fed up
what does it takes to make people understand Child support& divorce are not plaisant
when your husband sighn over the child did he continue paying child support and was he paying at all bedore that
this is his child he lets someone addopt the child without asking ?s to a lawyer
guess what the child could have had medical aid even if she did not the new husband last name, but no instead of you & him asking ? to the right people before he sighs now you want answer which by the way will cost
Go see a Lawyer, and I hope that he has a copy of whatever he has sighn as well as letter from her telling him the reason why he need to give up his child
Good Luck
2006-09-30 09:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often did your husband see his daughter before this? Was he involved in her life? I can't imagine someone signing over rights to their child for any reason. Not all ex's are vindictive. I have an ex husband and I never contact him for anything. He can see our son when he wants or if he doesn't want to, that's fine with me. Has your husband tried talking to his ex? What does she say? What do you have in writing? I would consult an attorney ASAP. Good Luck. I hope whatever is best for the child works out.
2006-09-30 08:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by buckking_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think it was a HUGE mistake that your husband agreed to this adoption. Why wasn't her father providing insurance? I also thought in most states, a step father can add their step children without adopting them if they did not have a primary insurance. I think he should have really thought about his decision a little bit longer. He now needs to get some legal advice. Why doesn't he see her? Isn't he still her father? I'm not getting this at all---something doesn't seem right and I would definitely look into it further. Good luck
2006-09-30 08:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is an agreement to allow visitation (in writing), then court is likely your only recourse. If the agreement was verbal, then it is a he said, she said situation which will most likely take a court of law.
I doubt that the biological father can sign away his parental rights with a simple adoption.
2006-09-30 08:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by Your Best Fiend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he still pay child support, He sign the little girl away, without something real bad happening to her, he can't just up and say I miss her. I don't think it can be reversed , he should have thought about before he sign those papers, he didn't have to you know he did it willing.
2006-09-30 08:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she had a dream of ways she needed existence to be with her ex. She needed a thankfully ever after, and for even with reason, it did not exercising consultation. She might want to blame her ex for taking that dream faraway from her. She possibly indignant that he did not care adequate or attempt confusing adequate to maintain the marriage. and he or she might want to hate it that he's pursuing that dream with some different person.
2016-12-04 01:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by thorpe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should seek legal advice. He should have never signed anything. I truly believe that there are ex-wives that thrive on vindictiveness.
2006-09-30 08:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really speak on the legal issues of your question, but I can say this. She's his EX-WIFE for a reason!!!
It's unfortunate that a Police Officer would only adpot your step-daughter just to get cheap health insurance! BASTARD!!!
2006-09-30 08:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say but NO it can not.
he has no rights now at all.
before he could had it put in the papers but now its to late.
just don't give up the child will remember him. I'm and come looking for him.im in the very same boat after 11 years my girl found me she is 18 now and thanking about moving in with us.don't give up because you kid wont.
2006-09-30 09:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by glennmettlen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋