if i ave made a mistake, with accusing my partner of cheating how will i know and will she ever forgive me? only ask cos i am a man and i don't know how women think!!!!! been together for 7 years and i think i was way of the mark!!!!
2006-09-30 08:32:31 · 11 answers · asked by danny100 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just tell her you love her & are scared of losing her....
(If you say all that without throwing up, I'll be amazed..
But the girls like that sort of thing)...
2006-09-30 08:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by phil_maquim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have confronted her and she is denying it then you might want to have some proof or reason to believe that she is cheating. Why do you think she was? Do you have a good reason not to trust her after 7 years together?
If the relationship is finished, but you want her back, then you have to either
a) Do some investigation yourself and see if you can find out by asking around people who know her or know friends of friends of hers - that type of thing. If she finds out you have done this then she will be really mad so be careful!
b) Apologise to her and drop the whole subject and hope that she will take you back.
Word of advice, from a girls point of view, is to never ever accuse your girl of cheating on you unless you have a totally good reason to do so. (Her going out with friends is not a good enough reason). I would be furious (not to mention hurt!) if I was accused of this when I had done absolutely nothing to warrant it.
2006-09-30 08:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by Showaddywaddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did she react when you accused her? If she was in tears over it, maybe she didn't do it. If she was defensive, maybe she did. No guarantees either way. Depends on her personality. You are the best one to know.
You're admitting to us that you think you were wrong. So, maybe admitting that to her would be a good start to patching up the damage you've caused by opening your big mouth without being sure of what you were saying.
Sending her a card and flowers with a message that reads something like "You mean the world to me. I thought I'd lost you to someone else. My heart sank and I lashed out unfairly. Can you ever forgive me. I can't stop loving you, and life is unbearable without your love."
As for how women think. Well, just like you do. Sometimes with their heads, sometimes with their hearts. And sometimes they just don't think--just like you weren't thinking when you lashed out at her.
Good luck.
2006-09-30 09:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People dont usually accuse for no reason. I'd keep a low profile on thing but try to figure if you were really wrong or right. But if you know you were wrong than thats alright. Just tell her either way that you were wrong to accuse. And your sorry. And be sencere.
2006-09-30 08:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by le_le_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you were...if she genuinely isn't cheating you owe her a HUGE apology...and be prepared to do alot of groveling....trust her and don't be so insecure....she may forgive you but you have to convince her that you are never going to accuse her again....what ever it was that got you thinking she was cheating is a problem you have....she will be fine, but just stop thinking the worst about her,
2006-09-30 10:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To accuse her in the first place you must have had your suspicions. Tell her what they are and if she can, she will allay your fears. Only you can decide if she's telling the truth. If she's understanding she will forgive you.
2006-09-30 08:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel Maria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in time she will forgive you,but she want forget the fact that you accuse her of cheating and doesn't trust her.
2006-09-30 08:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus say youre realllllly sorry n jus take any fireworks comin at you from her, jus tell her to let it all out on u. Shell feel better afterwards
2006-09-30 08:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by tezzadaman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her some flowers and do lots of grovelling. if she loves you she will forgive you.
2006-09-30 08:37:23 · answer #9 · answered by grumpcookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grovel and apologise to her and sort out your insecurities.
2006-09-30 08:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋