a few days ago my sister had a baby and called her Trisha, well, my husband who has a hard time remembering names, so he tried to associate the baby's name with something that will help him remember it.
The best he came up was the "trash", he told me so and I got hurt but decided not to make a big deal, so I didn't say anything. A few days later while shopping at Costco, I asked him to pick up a gift basket because we will be going to visit my sister on Sunday.
Well, my husband said that he bought a new TRASH basket.
I don't understand if he is doing it on purpose or it is just a coincidence, it feels like he is, but then why would he want to hurt me? What do you think? And if he is doing it on purpose why?
He is always doing stuff like that, it's making me think he wants me out of his life?
2006-09-30 08:22:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First you want to Tell him why he's doing that that he thinks it bugs you. Don't let him know his achieving it. My opinion is that he's just a rude man, He grew up like that, with no fine manners.
That does not mean he hates you. Trust me, it takes more than that to show hate.
2006-09-30 08:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It kinda seems to me like he doesn't respect you or care for you at all. I mean what a jerk! No one is that stupid to buy a trash basket instead of a gift for a new born baby. Whether he was using the word trash to remember the name or not. I'd rather he forgot my daughters name rather than associate it with trash if you ask me. How do you think your sister would feel if she found out he was associating her name with trash. Damn your man sucks! I'm sorry, but I think he really is out to hurt you.
2006-09-30 08:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by lilmama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are married, can you sit down and talk to him about how you feel about it? I am not married, but I would think that 2 adults can sit down and discuss something like this. My best friend is Trisha, but we call her Trish. Ask your sister if she is going to have her nicknamed Trish so your husband will call her by a more appropriate name.
How is your marriage otherwise? Does he act out towards you? Does he do things that are mean all the time? You need to tell him that you feel he wants you out of his life. He may not know he is doing it at all. If you don't, you may lose your marriage. I will be praying for your strength when you talk to him and courage.
2006-09-30 08:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A trash-basket surely isn't an appropriate gift for ANY occasion. I'd sit down and have a serious talk with him first and ask what the heck is going on, then make up your mind about him wanting you out of his life.
2006-09-30 08:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by usaf.primebeef 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other than the fact that he sounds like an immature child, I think that he may be jealous. He may secretly, or not so secretly, want children of your own, and for some reason is taking out the fact that you sister had a child out on you. Whatever the reason, he sounds like he really needs to grow up and enjoy being an uncle.
2006-09-30 08:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by anchorworm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like your marriage needs a therapist. Coming from a guy, he sounds like he's pretty insensitive. Some guys like to joke around all the time. In fact lots of women say a guy's sense of humor is most important in a relationship.
But he sounds like he's being downright crass.
I would ask a therapist why he does what he does.... oh, and also ask your husband.
2006-09-30 08:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really petty problem. My own mother still doesnt say my sons name correctly. Some people are just bad with names and your hubby has found an amusing way to remember the baby's name. Just laugh with him and dont be so fussy.
2006-09-30 08:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say what your husbands intentions are.
I do think the best way to find out is to be honest. The awkwardness of having a tough conversation is better than the consequences of letting little things build up and then having them be big things.
Ask him and let him know that his joking bothers you.
2006-09-30 08:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by MnM 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 09:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by saleh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out of his life?!! No way! He loves you, he's just stupid!!! LOL!
Your married to one of those men that find offensive things funny, my husband is that way sometimes to. It's no big deal, here's the compromise. Tell your Hubby, ''OK Babe, that's your name for my niece, and you can only call her that INSIDE OF OUR HOUSE, but when were at my sisters please respect me and my family enough to at least remember ''TT''. How bout that?! He keeps his stupid name, and you get your way...a little! Girrrrrl you know this marriage thing is give, and take!
2006-09-30 08:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋