MARRIED TO A DAMN STRANGER!!!
My best friend of 10 years just recently got married after only knowing the gentlemen 2 months, maybe 3. The guy moved to her state, and basically had to live off her for the first few weeks until he found a job. They got married just days after he moved to her town, now there in shitsville. She's upset w/him for so many reason, all the issues she has with him are things she would have found out while dating him, but now that she's his wife, and just realized he's bad w/money, very selfish, and lacks the type of intimacey she likes she's ready to call Judge Mabeline from Divvorce Court!
I try to tell her marriage between 2 people that know each other well is hard, much less two strangers! And already she's sleeping on the sofa cause she doesn't want him touching her. How can I convince this pig-headed girl to calm down, own up to the fact that she married a stranger?!
2006-09-30 07:59:44 · 17 answers · asked by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like your g/f rushed into a bad situation with her eyes closed and her brain on a coffee break. Don't really feel sorry for her.... she brought it upon herself.
Tell her people spend more time researching and finding a car to buy than she spent with this guy before marrying him.
2006-09-30 08:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She already knows,
but what she needs is af reind to support her, you wanting to make her understand that she made a mistake is not helping the matter and you are not being a friend
in marriage their is not guarantees you always marry a stranger even when you know him for 10 years because once you live in with him that when you truly starting to get to know him
instead of pushing her for a divorce try to get her to give her marriage a chance and work things out
or you butt out it will be hard because you care for your friend but you might end up lossing the frienship if you don't butt out
advie her to get to know her husband, if he is bad with money tell her to talk to him about letting her take care of finance, selfishness can be because he was always on his own (it is hard to just start thinking of someonelse feeling ) lack of intimacy is again can be tought
IN ONE WORD GET TO KNOW THE MAN
2006-09-30 17:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her, and keep reassuring her that she'll be ok if she divorces him. It sounds like its the best thing she could do at this point. Its ok to make mistakes and let her know that youre there for her. Take her in if you have to, or if you can. Be there for her, support her as much as you can. I think she needs to file for divorce. Itll only get worse if she stays, and then there might be children that come out of this, and thatll complicate things even more.
Just be the friend that you are and be there for her. Only SHE can make the right decision.
2006-09-30 15:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe she already knows she made a mistake by marry'n a stranger. She's figured that one out on her own. Just be her friend and listen to her and support her. She needs you right now. She doesn't need to hear I told you so.
2006-09-30 15:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's going to need you - so wait for her to call upon you.
When she's ready to ask for advice, she'll be ready and strong enough to take.
Stay supportive, and stand by your friend. She'll Thank You in the end.
2006-09-30 15:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by jt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you want to tell her what she already knows. Why not just be a supporting friend and help her get the annulment or divorce?
2006-09-30 15:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pay for a counsel with a very, very good lawyer and bring her with you to see him. She will have a whole different outlook on things after she sees that her options are far better than she thinks they are.
2006-09-30 15:10:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my opinion is everyone has to own up to their actions and learn their lessons. if you have opened your mouth soon, may be she will blame you for not being with this guy. who knows what he has said to her to make her jump into marriage? then it will ruin your relationship with her. then you would not be able to give her support now. i say just calm her down and explain the facts to her. but leave it up to her to decide what to do. is not your choice but her own. good luck.
2006-09-30 16:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by Yvette R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl already knows there is problems. no need for you to open your yap. A little support would be nice, but you may have to give up your better than you attitude, which i believe is in your case no going to happen
2006-09-30 15:12:49 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with what they are saying...although you will be feeling painful to give her that piece of advice...you should find some of her families, her friends...to convince her that you knew she knew that she got in a tight spot, and if she don't do something now, something worse will happen...either her/her children/her hobbit/job...or worse yet...life will be in jeopardy.
Thanks for being her wingman looking over her shoulder...she will be grateful for your hardwork.
2006-09-30 15:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by Pete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋