2006-09-30 07:47:36 · 26 answers · asked by Eric Inri 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, and don't even try. If you don't like their habit or whatever now it will only get worse once your married. So, the best thing now is to think about what you see in the future with them once married.
2006-09-30 07:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by dollynjanie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, and frankly, what right do you have to do so anyway?
Look, if you dont like how the other is acting, you will probably have to admit that you had signs and indications of how they were before you married them, right?
There are only two reasons that any person changes.
1. Because the cost of what they want to the way they act is higher then what they are willing to pay.
2. When the way they act or do things stops getting them the desired results.
2006-09-30 08:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to change them? you are not making any sense, You did after all really know this person before you got married, and if they were good enough then why the need for change
2006-09-30 07:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no way. You get what you marry, no more, no less. People can only change themselves, not someone else. Never gonna happen. If you married thinking you could change the person, you are in for a sad time. Good luck
2006-09-30 07:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's so much changing them you should try to do, but conform with them to what you can be together. A person is who they are and if you marry them then you should be willing to work with what you knew before you married them. That's why you should get to know someone before you make that life changing committment.
2006-09-30 08:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never marry someone with the intention of changing them. People change when and if they want to not because you want them to. Usually, what you see is what you get, and if you want a change this should be discussed before hand and a decision concluded before not after. People are who they are not what we perceive them to be
2006-09-30 07:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible. But why would you want to change someone after you marry them? Shouldn't you be happy with who they are? If not, Then you probably reconsider why you married them.
2006-09-30 07:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by vloss@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely! I am of the belief that changing another person from who they were, which is what attracted you to them in the first place, is what leads to the high divorce rates! Suddenly the person you fell in love with is no longer the same person. And if it was you who changed them, then you have only yourself to blame.
Just my opinion.
2006-09-30 08:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will both change in you own ways without knowing, but you should never try to change some one, you should love them for who they are thats why you married them.
2006-09-30 07:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I thought yeah, and then I thought no because if they are not willing to except the changes then oh well.My husband change,not for me for himself to make himself a better person which he is.He wasn't that bad before but he made some changes cuz he knew it was better for him.Now we argue but we live happily ever after.
2006-09-30 07:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sister Queen Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋