how ? its a crumbling relationship already . I still love her but I dont want to be hurt anymore ?
2006-09-30 07:28:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trust me if theres any hope of saving your relationship do it . I left my husband 5 yrs ago and I just now realize I wish I had of tried to make it work. Im now in a relationship that is going nowhere but I am sticking it out cause I dont want to be alone.Talk to her and tell her how you feel and I wish you all the best ...........
2006-09-30 07:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, i've been there.
i may be a girl. but i'd heard my bf side of story.
we're almost to having an official break up.
we were very rocky at that point of time.
he just doesnt want to get hurt anymore, nor did he wanna hurt me anymore.
its a very tough decision.
i'd seen his hesitation, his confusion.
you love her.
seriously, that's all that matters.
that what i've learnt.
so what if you dont get hurt in your future relationship and you dont love her.
relationship is about communication.
talk to ur girlfriend about the problem.
i know its hard for guys to open up, especially to girls.
(my bf was like that before. but he's much more open now. we're communicating well, and we're improving ourself)
love is hard to find nowdays.
"treasure the ones you love before you lose them".
that's what i kept reminding myself.
ask urself these:
what happened that resulted in the rocky relationship?
will our happy memories ever come back again?
will i ever regret letting her go?
how will my life be after i let her go?
how different?
great memories.
that was the thing that kept me loving him.
believing that one day, those memories will come again.
nothing is easy.
life is full of ups and downs.
what more in a relationship.
if u really love her, think things through.
have a long heart to heart talk with her.
if you still wanna let her go,
just keep urself bz wit anything u're doing.
work, studies, etc.
keep ur mind off the relationship.
that's how my bf did when he planned to let me go.
which in the end, after a long conversation, we're still together.
dat's my experience.
i hope things will turn out fine for you.
all the best!!
:)
2006-09-30 14:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by rufiogerl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resolve to put an end to the cycle that I'm almost certain you've been going through in this relationship. Then stick to it. Each time you "think" you're emotions are being swayed think back on the last time you were hurt by your girlfriend and what led up to that hurt.
You may have to go through a breakup more than once to really break up. Hang in there. Eventually it will stick and you'll be much happier.
-Chrystaille
2006-09-30 14:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Letting go is a difficult task indeed. It takes guts and courage for one to hurdle this stage. I separated from my husband more than 5 years ago and at this point in time, I could proudly say that I have let go of it and have already moved on. Just make yourself busy in the daily activities so your mind won't be reminiscing of your painful past. Good luck! You'll make it...just believe in yourself.
2006-09-30 15:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by cehLina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are quirky.. Go with your instincts & heart.. Most instincts turn out to be correct. No one ever wants to be hurt.. But we do learn from all of the angles thrown at us in life.
2006-09-30 14:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by Kammaka2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like letting go of anything - you have to have a plan - if that's what you want to do. Many times we don't want to set a plan in place - because we really don't want to let go of whatever it is down deep inside. And then you don't go anywhere and you can't let go and get frustrated. You have to decide you WANT to let go and then put a plan in place 100% and do it. It's deciding you want to go that way - which is harder.
2006-09-30 14:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jackie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I no how you feel went through the same thing myself, but you know the saying. "if you love something set it free. If it comes back to you it's yours if it doesn't it was never meant to be" God how I prayed that she would come back to me. Just have to respect her space and let it be. I hope it turns out better for you, GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-30 14:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just a matter of time. The book "he is not that into you" will apply to your case, of course with a girl. But before you get into really letting go, be sure.........................be sure that everything is lost. because once you stop loving someone, there is no turning back
2006-09-30 15:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by scorpionbeat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i no how u feel maybe u guys need time apart or take a vacation an let it all out then u will know for sure u only live once good luck :)
2006-09-30 14:31:15 · answer #9 · answered by my heart belongs to a sailor! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you realize at a point in your life , if you have to struggle and fight to just keep it together - it isn't going to work! and one day you will realize how easy it all really is when you are with the Right person.
2006-09-30 22:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋