he like to watch playboy programs and he did'tspend time with me .all time he sit infront of computer and read sex stories and adult DVDsprograms.i m very much worried about our relationships.what i do to get him.
2006-09-30 07:10:59 · 37 answers · asked by rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No!!! Watch them with him. Perform some of the acts on him that they are doing. Instead of standing around in the back, join him. That's what he is waiting for.
2006-09-30 07:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
Your husband is a man, full stop. I don't care if he is a doctor cos it doesn't mean jack-sh*t. Now read this carefully and be up-dated with the Technology.
First: You're a woman and hi is a man, he didn't marry cos of the fun of it but because he likes something in you!!!! You have to be an open minded person and take it easy, you have to look after you body and start getting dressed sexy and you need to be looking very pretty cos that's what your husband likes. Get action going girl!
Second: He is watching those kind of programes cos he is probably missing something which is called living the life to the full with his wife, he is doing what he is doing to get you moving, to give you an idea about what it turns him on, you have to understand. be sexy in bed and I am sure if you start doing things with him everything will be ok and he will love it.
Finally: Try to watch these programes with him and try to see things as normal and you will realize a big difference.
P.S: he is trying to get something to your head, he is trying to say something to you, try to be easier, be a real woman, and let it be! And take it easy. And I am sorry to say this to you but I think you need to learn more English, and if your husband is English then do not ignore the English way of living!
Let us know the outcome.
2006-09-30 08:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by gumtree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll first assume you must be attractive and take good care of yourself and you wonder why such a smart and successful person would behave this way.
Does he know it hurts your feelings? If joining him is not an option, maybe you need to try planning more getaways, more out of the house activities (romantic hikes, camping, something he'd be interested in too. Shopping doesn't count unless he's a shopaholic!) Balance that with some activities he goes out and does alone (golfing, jogging, etc.) Try to get him spending so much time and enjoying it with you that he is too tired to stay up and do those other things.
It sounds like he might be addicted to it and it's not really your fault, but you can gently let him know you are concerned and it hurts you. Try to bond with him more first.
2006-09-30 07:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is christian I can help you out with some documents that I have written on the subject of porn. If he a true christian this will change him. Aproach him and talk with him about it. Find out what he likes or would like you to do. you guys can probably come to an agreement on it. If you do these things then he won't go on and cyber. I have those documents email if you want them.Good Luck
2006-09-30 07:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by will987456 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't "get him". Get your own hobby and stop whining about his. ;)) Perhaps he feels he's lost the woman he married because you're so trying to control his life.
You know what would be nice? Get out and start doing the things you use to enjoy doing before you met him. Before you do that, as well, go take some English courses and learn proper grammar, spelling, and punctuation. It might impress him to show interest in you again. You never know. Take care.
2006-09-30 07:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would he rather watch porn than be with you? If so, that is a real problem. Either way, you should really be talking to him about this. Find out why he wants to watch it and if he wants to watch it with you. You guys could make a video of your own that he could watch when the urge strikes.
2006-09-30 07:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch them with him, learn his tastes and dress up and enact something for him. Show him that a real warm and loving woman is more fun than a computer programme
2006-10-01 02:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have just read your earlier question and perhaps your husband is doing this because he knows that you are unwilling to have sex with him.Men need stimulating and if you are not going to be there for him he will find that stimulation somewhere else,and if your not careful he may go to another woman.Why did you marry him, you havent been married very long was it arranged or something?if you dont love him dont stay with him.
2006-09-30 11:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't the regular reciepient of his attention or his arousal from these other stimulus -- you have problems. Being involved with porn is very addictive. WHATEVER IT IS, if ANY thing, ANY activity, ANY person is keeping you apart -- if he is not willing to GET RID OF IT- you have a problem. Talk to him, tell him -- go to a counselor. good luck!
2006-09-30 07:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by Freya T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is a doctor does not mean he knows everything.. and instead of bitching about him watching and reading about sex else where........... make your own stories... I am guessing he is getting bored... give him reasons to want to be with you..role play..... have fun with it
2006-09-30 07:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by oracle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋